DH thinks I am the height of irresponsible and that DS will be bullied mercilessly after the holidays.
DS12 has wanted both ears pierced since he was 10. Back then he was doing sport multiple times a week that would have made it problematic. He no longer does those, so no problem with healing over the holidays etc.
He has researched a local piercing and tattoo place which has good reviews, they require a parents permission for lobe piercings under 14. He came to ask me when I would be free to go with him. He has money from his birthday that he wants to use (although tbh I would be happy to pay). They have appointments available in a week or so.
DS says he just likes the look of earrings. None of his male friends have both ears done, one has a single earring, all his female friends have both done. He has a lovely group of friends with a mix of disabilities and differences, they are incredibly supportive of each other. DS doesn’t see this as being a gender thing, he is happy with who he is as a male, he just likes the look. School are fine with plain metal studs and he knows that’s the deal. He wears glasses so doesn’t do any contact sports in school either.
My older DD had hers done when she was 10 with no issues, but now chooses not to wear earrings a lot of the time anyway. I have said to DH that it’s really not a big deal, he can take earrings out if he chooses, just like DD. However DH is convinced that if he goes ahead, he’s going to be bullied by other kids at school. I honestly don’t know what to think now. He’s a pretty confident kid who hasn’t really had any issues with bullying in the past, and is also tall for his age. I suspect DH possibly considers it effeminate to have both done and there might be less of a reaction to one ear, but he won’t dare say that to me.
None of the other men within the family, of any age, have any piercings.
Does DH have a point here?