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Working expectations for parents on UC

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BlackCatGreyWhiskers · 21/07/2025 12:27

AIBU to find this really frustrating? Basically there is no expectation for parents to work until their child is age 3. So if a family has more than one child that could be several years.

Whereas maternity leave is only 9-12months.

Especially as universal credit claimants can actually get help towards childcare expenses.

I don’t understand why there is a mismatch between the employed and unemployed?

When I went back after maternity, my pay was around £1500 and my childcare £800, then after I went back with my second my childcare went up to £1200. So I earnt next to nothing for 5 years before the eldest started school.

Working expectations for parents on UC
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january1244 · 21/07/2025 20:05

TwoFeralKids · 21/07/2025 19:52

It has increased. In fact doubled in about two years. As long as one works and earns that much why force the other? I do all the school runs and look after my three year old. No family. Work at the weekends. Works perfectly.

Because how is it fair that some have to work full time to subsidise others who choose to do the bare minimum. I’ve a three year old and a one year old and no family help also, it’d be lovely to do all the school runs etc. But fundamentally I believe in working and contributing. We want a country with services and free healthcare and education, and we need to pay for it. It’s not fair for some to opt out, but still expect all of the same services, and then on top of that to take extra money when they’re capable of working

ForWittyTealOP · 21/07/2025 20:05

Actually the public didn't support the proposed benefit cuts.

https://yougov.co.uk/politics/articles/52470-britons-are-opposed-to-cuts-to-disability-benefits-as-starmer-bows-to-backbenchers

It's misleading to say the "harder left" forced the government U turn. The proposed cuts weren't based on consultation with disabled people or organisations and MPs who resisted them knew that if they went through, it would lead to the loss of many seats.

Reform are incredibly unlikely to form a government in four years time and if they do it's more likely to last a month than a term before collapsing. So there's no immediate need to speculate on what they'd do.

Britons are opposed to cuts to disability benefits, as Starmer bows to backbenchers | YouGov

But half of the public feel recent rise in claimants is not due to genuine health problems

https://yougov.co.uk/politics/articles/52470-britons-are-opposed-to-cuts-to-disability-benefits-as-starmer-bows-to-backbenchers

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:05

Summerartwitch · 21/07/2025 20:04

''@PeonyPatch · Today 19:50
I’d much be a role model for my children than someone sponging from the system.''

Claiming benefits you are entitled to if you need help is not ''sponging from the system''.

I work but having paid taxes for 25 years I would have no issues with claiming if I could no longer work.

Any decent society needs a safety net in place.

The UK has some of the lowest benefits rates and state pension in Europe already anyway.

Maybe it is not a popular opinion, but I also can't help but think that having two parents who work long hours/full time is not great for young kids and their development.

Exactly true!!!

BlackCatGreyWhiskers · 21/07/2025 20:08

We now have 51 percent of households accessing benefits. So those households who don’t claim are he minority.

If that’s an accurate figure that’s shocking.

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ForWittyTealOP · 21/07/2025 20:09

PeonyPatch · 21/07/2025 20:00

It’s idealistic. I have thought along the lines you have - but how do you propose we get there?

Who knows? I'm questioning whether what we have now is inevitable rather than formulating policy... But someone with a sharper mind than mine could certainly come up with something!

R0ckandHardPlace · 21/07/2025 20:10

january1244 · 21/07/2025 19:17

Only 37% of people claiming universal credit are in any type of work.
As long as you make 18hours equivalent of minimum wage, or for a couple £1437 between them, there is no requirement to seek more work. I would imagine that it’s a very low percentage that is in full time work, but can’t find a breakdown.
I think even from this thread it’s clear there is a problem with entitlement and people wanting to work fewer hours (or no hours) and claim benefits. When they could work more and contribute to society for everyone

You’re overlooking the 14% of UC claimants who are LCWRA (unable to work through ill health) or the 28% who are caring for a disabled child - 42% of all claimants. These numbers don’t include claimants who are caring for other family members than their own child.

That’s a vast majority of claimants (79%) who are either working, or who couldn’t work even if they wanted to.

mamagogo1 · 21/07/2025 20:10

Where it is a 2 parent family, one parent is expected to seek full time work, the other parent is meant to return to part time work as soon as their dc turns 3, prior they can be sent on courses eg cv prep

GogoGobo · 21/07/2025 20:10

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 19:55

No debts at all. You best be going to bed to get up early for work. Missing out on your kids life. Feel so sorry for you

State debt. Government debt.
I don’t mean your personal Provdent loan or your Freemans catalogue 🤣

BlackCatGreyWhiskers · 21/07/2025 20:10

ForWittyTealOP · 21/07/2025 19:56

The thing is it's not a brilliant post, it's actually rather odd. That kind of thinking assumes you can win within a warped system if you try hard enough. Our economic system is based on there being a few "winners" and a lot of "losers". Ask yourself, is it natural and inevitable to live the way we do? Is there nothing artificial in human animals working c75k hours over 40 plus years then retiring and dying? Could we not use our ingenuity to devise other systems not based on exploitation and a lifetime worrying about how to eat and keep a roof over our heads? We're so entrenched in ideas of "personal (over collective) responsibility", climbing ladders, being paid enough to maintain consumerist lifetimes that it's literally killing our planet. What is wrong with not participating in full time paid employment, taking time to care for ourselves and each other?

Because for you to not work FT and taking time for yourself and care for each other, someone else has to work FT, but is unable to care for themselves or care for others because they’re working, that’s the issue. Nobody can have something for free without someone else doing something for free.

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ForWittyTealOP · 21/07/2025 20:13

BlackCatGreyWhiskers · 21/07/2025 20:10

Because for you to not work FT and taking time for yourself and care for each other, someone else has to work FT, but is unable to care for themselves or care for others because they’re working, that’s the issue. Nobody can have something for free without someone else doing something for free.

Under the current system. Open your mind! Look up and see what could be possible if we weren't slaves to exploitative and damaging systems.

TwoFeralKids · 21/07/2025 20:13

january1244 · 21/07/2025 20:05

Because how is it fair that some have to work full time to subsidise others who choose to do the bare minimum. I’ve a three year old and a one year old and no family help also, it’d be lovely to do all the school runs etc. But fundamentally I believe in working and contributing. We want a country with services and free healthcare and education, and we need to pay for it. It’s not fair for some to opt out, but still expect all of the same services, and then on top of that to take extra money when they’re capable of working

I was actually planning to increase my hours but a possibly SEN child has put paid to that for a year but please continue to label me lazy.

26dX · 21/07/2025 20:13

Summerartwitch · 21/07/2025 20:04

''@PeonyPatch · Today 19:50
I’d much be a role model for my children than someone sponging from the system.''

Claiming benefits you are entitled to if you need help is not ''sponging from the system''.

I work but having paid taxes for 25 years I would have no issues with claiming if I could no longer work.

Any decent society needs a safety net in place.

The UK has some of the lowest benefits rates and state pension in Europe already anyway.

Maybe it is not a popular opinion, but I also can't help but think that having two parents who work long hours/full time is not great for young kids and their development.

It is sponging if she said she’d rather have the UC top up than get her ass off to work 😂

TwoFeralKids · 21/07/2025 20:14

mamagogo1 · 21/07/2025 20:10

Where it is a 2 parent family, one parent is expected to seek full time work, the other parent is meant to return to part time work as soon as their dc turns 3, prior they can be sent on courses eg cv prep

They don't have to do any of these things if the partners earns over the AET. I haven't been contacted since my youngest had his third birthday.

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:14

GogoGobo · 21/07/2025 20:10

State debt. Government debt.
I don’t mean your personal Provdent loan or your Freemans catalogue 🤣

State debt, wtf you on about
You make me laugh
It's called UC and I get it because I can. Enough said

ChristOlive · 21/07/2025 20:16

This thread is depressing. Makes me wish I could opt out of the social contract.

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:17

26dX · 21/07/2025 20:13

It is sponging if she said she’d rather have the UC top up than get her ass off to work 😂

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I work part time and get UC too. You should try it and spend more time work your kids. I feel so sorry for you.

Kitte321 · 21/07/2025 20:18

The argument that young children are better off at home lacks nuance.

  • There are some families where that simply isn’t the case. In some cases, early years education provides a much better platform than the one provided at home.
  • There is a direct correlation between income and outcomes. Families reliant on benefits lead to worse outcomes.
  • If one parent can afford to stay at home because of one high earner that can be optimal. But that family wouldn’t need benefits.

My view - being on benefits shouldn’t be a lifestyle choice. If I choose to have children, I am committing to paying for them. Sure, if something unexpected happens there should be a safety net. But otherwise - I should be providing for my own family.

26dX · 21/07/2025 20:21

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:17

I work part time and get UC too. You should try it and spend more time work your kids. I feel so sorry for you.

You don’t know what I do for work darling, I spend loads of time with my babies without sponging off the gov 😘

Morgenrot25 · 21/07/2025 20:21

GogoGobo · 21/07/2025 20:10

State debt. Government debt.
I don’t mean your personal Provdent loan or your Freemans catalogue 🤣

🫣🫣🫣

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:23

26dX · 21/07/2025 20:21

You don’t know what I do for work darling, I spend loads of time with my babies without sponging off the gov 😘

Aww darling. Like when??? Half a hour in the morning and a hour at night.
I would hate to have your life.

GogoGobo · 21/07/2025 20:25

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:14

State debt, wtf you on about
You make me laugh
It's called UC and I get it because I can. Enough said

Oh dear!
I think it's probably a good thing you are only "working" half the time!

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:26

GogoGobo · 21/07/2025 20:25

Oh dear!
I think it's probably a good thing you are only "working" half the time!

My son is at school. I work part time and claim UC BECAUSE I CAN, THE SYSTEM ALLOWS ME TOO. Are you really that thick. I spend loads of time with my son. I'm enjoying life. Try it hun

Parker231 · 21/07/2025 20:26

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:17

I work part time and get UC too. You should try it and spend more time work your kids. I feel so sorry for you.

You are getting universal credit because your income is so low. I’ve always wanted more for my family together with the example I’m setting my DC’s.

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 20:28

Parker231 · 21/07/2025 20:26

You are getting universal credit because your income is so low. I’ve always wanted more for my family together with the example I’m setting my DC’s.

I get it topped up so I get quite a bit each month without paying a lot of tax.
I dont have the stress of working full time and missing out on my sons life

Praying4Peace · 21/07/2025 20:29

Pirating55 · 21/07/2025 19:51

So I do part time darling. Why would I work full time and miss out on my kid growing up???

Some people can't afford to work part-time as much as they would like to.

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