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Drug use- what do you find acceptable?

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Rachmumoftwo · 27/05/2008 11:55

There is a thread that has touched on this already. What is acceptable drug use in your eyes? Is it OK to smoke a little weed when the children are in bed, or take cocaine on weekends or holidays, or is it totally irresponsible to even entertain the idea of drug taking if you are a parent (or if you are planning to be)?

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CoteDAzur · 09/02/2009 17:19

I agree with duchesse. And would like to point out that most recreational substances, although illegal, do not create the kind of dependence necessary to push the user to prostitution, stealing, and hurting others.

CoteDAzur · 09/02/2009 17:22

"I just don't understand the need to get high."

Because it's not a 'need'. It's a pleasurable, fun thing. Like eating chocolate - you don't 'need' it, can live without it just fine, but once in a while it feels so good to just eat some.

It's like saying "I just don't understand the need to play football" or "I just don't understand the need to drink wine". Well, because it's not a need. But it's nice to relax with a glass of good wine after a long day.

Then again, I like driving fast, as well So obviously very different personalities and risk-taking profiles at work here.

Peachy · 09/02/2009 17:23

That's very true but there is still a kinfd of psychological dependence (as distinct from chemical dependence) attached to the more 'manstream' drugs such as cannabis that does affect family life.

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 17:30

You are more definitely fun than me, Cote . I am well known for being a boring about this stuff anyway. I don't eat much chocolate either. God, I am sounding monastic now.

CoteDAzur · 09/02/2009 17:43

You don't eat much chocolate

Live a little, woman

Peachy · 09/02/2009 17:44

chocolate is pretty rank

OTOH if it's a nice cake then yummmmmmm

CoteDAzur · 09/02/2009 17:50

How can you not like chocolate?!?

You are the enemy of fun, Peachy

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 17:55

I like a bit of really dark stuff after dinner. But just not lots of it.

Peachy · 09/02/2009 18:31

OOh no I do like fun me! Just- not chocolate tastng fun.

Dncing the night away laughing my head off fun yes, eating piles of cake gossiing fun indeed. Spending all my money browsing in the shops oh yes.

Just not chocolatey fun.

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 19:46

I do like a good party and a dance.
I am not completely square.
I like topless sunbathing too.

malaka · 09/02/2009 19:54

BoffinMum - some of us are just made different I suppose. I like extreme skiing, fast driving and I dive (and ride horses!). I also enjoy recreational drugs occasionally.

I wish I had the patience to knit or was the sort of person who planned weekly meals in advance but I'm not.

It would be very boring if we were all the same wouldn't it?

malaka · 09/02/2009 19:55

ps I don't like chocolate and wouldn't dream of topless sunbathing

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 20:00

Absolutely. God forbid everyone should be like me. I would only get more and more boring then with no inspiration to be daring.

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 20:00

PS I am OK on a horse. Somehow that feels different.

malaka · 09/02/2009 20:09

I'm unsure if you thought I was being bitchy but if you did, I wasn't. You're not remotely boring. I've read your posts and you're very interesting and clever I think.

I actually think it is a major character flaw that I'm constantly looking for the next high. It really isn't a very attractive character attribute and not especially compatible with being a mother either.

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 20:13

Cheers Malaka xx. No, I thought you made a good point actually. Plus my skin is reasonably thick.

pamplemousse · 09/02/2009 20:13

I was going to post something similar about drug use. I like to drink but to get happy not paralytic and I'm not opposed to occasional weed smoking (though its been about 5 years now...!) but none of the other stuff appeals to me at all. I feel sad though because I have 'lost' many friends and my sister as they like to party hard and take drugs whereas I don't, they get on a completely different level - all spacey and weird usually and I found it no fun to go out with them anymore. Now my mum friends have started saying the same, how they wish they had a bit of coke or whatever.
I hate clubbing and I hate class A drugs, does that make me boring?!
I like horseriding (?!), drinking wine and having a laugh with my friends...

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 20:31

It is interesting how the whole drugs thing is associated with being cool, and the whole chugging along placidly isn't. Even with some mums.

I went to a do recently with a bunch of broadcasters and a load of them were nipping out to do coke in the toilets between courses. They were talking such utter tripe afterwards. I didn't think that was cool.

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 20:32

Malaka, I have to say I do need a bit of encouragement to go on fairground rides and so on, so I rely on the daring to help with this.

pamplemousse · 09/02/2009 20:36

Thats the thing though Boffinmum its a bit them and us, I find once people find out your not into getting off your face and talking shit, which I find coke makes people do, they don't want to know you so much and go off and find someone to go to the cistern with instead ;)
I don't mind if its people you don't know much, its just a lot of my friends have recently started going on about oooh lets go out and take loads of drugs, which is a shame cos I like to go out and have a laugh instead! Makes me feel like I am boring and had a sheltered life, which I haven't, I've plently of oppotunity, just not taken up the offers!

malaka · 09/02/2009 20:42

Cokeheads are very boring. Perhaps those mums that woman at the Observer was going on about had done coke - that would explain their dullness

I will encourage you onto exciting rides at the fairground though Boffinmum (except for those back and forth ones which make me puke)

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 20:54

That's a good point Pamplemousse, perhaps that's what bothers me, the cliqueyness of it all.

Come around my place for some extreme topless Scrabble and a vimto

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 20:55

As long as I don't have to open my eyes, Malaka!!

pamplemousse · 09/02/2009 21:00

You don't drink Vimto do you? Imagine the sugar rush you'd get from that!!!!!
I won't help you with fairground rides though I am terrfied of them all, except the up and down horses.... oh, you know what maybe I am a bit boring! I was 30 yesterday so I'm thinking maybe I am supposed to suddenly be all at peace with myself and my decisions!?

BoffinMum · 09/02/2009 21:02

The up and down horses are well scary IMO.
Anything for children over the age of 5 is out of my league. At theme parks I just hold the coats and bitch about the crowds.

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