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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To invite the grammar and language pedants to share their pet peeves?

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AlertCat · 19/07/2025 14:33

AIBU to feel annoyed when I see people say Slither instead of sliver? It was even in a book I read recently. A slither of cake. No! That makes no sense, unless the cake’s been trodden into the carpet!

Also see: step foot in instead of set foot in

There’s plenty of others but those will do for now.

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MarxistMags · 21/07/2025 15:16

Chester draws. Ugh.

RitaIncognita · 21/07/2025 15:26

MarxistMags · 21/07/2025 15:16

Chester draws. Ugh.

"Draws" is specifically a pitfall for non-rhotic speakers.

trainedopossum · 21/07/2025 15:39

Serpentstooth · 21/07/2025 15:05

'Fall pregnant'. Where the hell did this come from and become everyday usage? Never heard it before the 1980s, now women are 'falling pregnant' everywhere. I don't like it with its connotations of error and fallen women. Banish it. Become pregnant just as we used to do.

Yes I think the connotation (for me anyway) of ‘pregnant to’ is that it is either a gift (from a woman to a man) or the consequence of something that was done to a woman.
Honestly I just find it irritating and that’s the closest I can get to an explanation.

SerendipityJane · 21/07/2025 15:45

Serpentstooth · 21/07/2025 14:54

Right. Enough is enough. I have just heard Stacey Dooley, on tv, say to a contestant "please may you make your way to the table?". In a different programme, some time ago, qshe said "please may you hand me your keys". It's irritating. How on earth can this happen? She obviously thinks it's correct usage yet I'm pretty sure she's never heard anyone else say this. Somebody, please, tell her the difference between 'can' and 'may'. My assumption is this has already happened but she's got the wrong end of the stick.

Diner: "Can I order a drink please ?"
Server: "Of course you can." (walks off ending conversation).

Diner: "May I order a drink please ?"
Server: "Of course you can. What would you like ?"

Mumtobabyhavoc · 21/07/2025 16:00

MasterBeth · 21/07/2025 09:16

Preferred by... you?

😂
Point taken.

Abitofalark · 21/07/2025 16:07

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 20/07/2025 09:11

It’s absolutely everywhere now, but ‘there is’ with a plural really irritates me.

Ah yes, reminds me of a presenter on Radio 4: 'There's people who...'

ConnieHeart · 21/07/2025 16:14

Serpentstooth · 21/07/2025 14:54

Right. Enough is enough. I have just heard Stacey Dooley, on tv, say to a contestant "please may you make your way to the table?". In a different programme, some time ago, qshe said "please may you hand me your keys". It's irritating. How on earth can this happen? She obviously thinks it's correct usage yet I'm pretty sure she's never heard anyone else say this. Somebody, please, tell her the difference between 'can' and 'may'. My assumption is this has already happened but she's got the wrong end of the stick.

I think maybe she & Alex Scott have had elocution lessons but taken it one step too far

cookiemon666 · 21/07/2025 16:29

No punctuation and no breaks to indicate a new paragraph

AlertCat · 21/07/2025 16:36

SerendipityJane · 21/07/2025 15:45

Diner: "Can I order a drink please ?"
Server: "Of course you can." (walks off ending conversation).

Diner: "May I order a drink please ?"
Server: "Of course you can. What would you like ?"

I had a teacher at primary school who used to insist on us using ‘may’ instead of ‘can’ when asking to go to the loo.

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AlertCat · 21/07/2025 16:37

“As best as you can”.

Surely it’s “as best you can”.

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pigsDOfly · 21/07/2025 16:50

The book I'm currently reading is full of 'was sat' when it should be 'was sitting'.

I'm about a third of the way through the book and I'm seriously wondering if I can actually finish reading it.

Just going back to your point about 'slithers' of cake OP. I once stopped reading a book because the characters kept having 'slithers' of cake - they seemed to eat an extraordinary amount of cake - and I just couldn't take it any more.

Sw1989 · 21/07/2025 17:28

I find People using the word been instead of being, and dose instead of does absolutely infuriating.

Abitofalark · 21/07/2025 17:37

SecretNameforMN · 20/07/2025 19:24

People who sat they are renting a house when they mean letting a house. These two terms are opposites not equivalentss.

I notice some people use 'renting out' a house to mean 'renting' it from the landlord. 'Renting out' to me means the owner is renting it out.

ScrambledEggs12 · 21/07/2025 17:39

Been instead of being and seen instead of seeing.

I'm just waiting for them to say human beans.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 21/07/2025 17:55

pigsDOfly · 21/07/2025 16:50

The book I'm currently reading is full of 'was sat' when it should be 'was sitting'.

I'm about a third of the way through the book and I'm seriously wondering if I can actually finish reading it.

Just going back to your point about 'slithers' of cake OP. I once stopped reading a book because the characters kept having 'slithers' of cake - they seemed to eat an extraordinary amount of cake - and I just couldn't take it any more.

What kind of books are people reading that the writing is so poor?

Abitofalark · 21/07/2025 18:02

mrpenny · 20/07/2025 19:56

i agree..it’s not uncommon to hear it now but I would argue that current ( arguably ‘incorrect’) use is because people don’t recognise the standard form ‘ cut and dried’.

The Grammarphobia quote you presented has to drag out a singular example from the seventeenth century, so, yes, I’d still argue that it would not be used in formal contemporary English…🙄

Arguably indeed. It's like saying 'done and dust' instead of 'done and dusted'.

Dery · 21/07/2025 18:06

People using “myself” when they mean “I” or “me” and saying “text” instead of “texted” (to me, that just sounds like the original word is “to tex”…).

Also the word “chiropractic”. It is used as a noun all the time by everyone including chiropractors but that form of word is clearly an adjective and the noun should obviously be “chiropraxy”. I accept I may be completely alone in this last one.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 21/07/2025 18:10

AlertCat · 21/07/2025 16:36

I had a teacher at primary school who used to insist on us using ‘may’ instead of ‘can’ when asking to go to the loo.

My mother was a primary school teacher and tried to get her class to use may instead of can in that situation. She nearly gave up when one little boy tapped her on the shoulder and said "Please May, can I go to the toilet?"

Abitofalark · 21/07/2025 18:22

AllMyExesWearRolexes · 20/07/2025 22:03

I'm happy with "shopping" but I've always thought of it as "going shopping" where "going" was the verb or "put the shopping away", where shopping was the stuff you'd bought.

Instead of 'shopping' in 'going shopping' or 'doing the weekly shopping', it has become 'the weekly shop', which I find slightly jarring. To me, 'shop' means the actual business / premises so 'doing the shop' sounds a bit dodgy.

marshmallowfinder · 21/07/2025 18:37

pigsDOfly · 21/07/2025 16:50

The book I'm currently reading is full of 'was sat' when it should be 'was sitting'.

I'm about a third of the way through the book and I'm seriously wondering if I can actually finish reading it.

Just going back to your point about 'slithers' of cake OP. I once stopped reading a book because the characters kept having 'slithers' of cake - they seemed to eat an extraordinary amount of cake - and I just couldn't take it any more.

Absolutely bloody awful. I'd be writing to the publisher.

Beachtastic · 21/07/2025 18:40

marshmallowfinder · 21/07/2025 18:37

Absolutely bloody awful. I'd be writing to the publisher.

Books are full of errors nowadays. The publishing model has changed over the years in favour of keeping costs down.

SerendipityJane · 21/07/2025 18:44

Beachtastic · 21/07/2025 18:40

Books are full of errors nowadays. The publishing model has changed over the years in favour of keeping costs down.

And a readership who don't care.

Eats shoots and leaves.

NorthernDancer · 21/07/2025 18:58

Ihavent read the whole thread, but it's John's Hopkins University, not John Hopkins.

trainedopossum · 21/07/2025 19:02

I will never say a tough watch, a challenging read etc and I roll my eyes when I hear or read it.
I guess there has always been a good read but afaik that was a standalone phrase.
I’m less a pedant than someone who is just easily irritated 🙊

trainedopossum · 21/07/2025 19:03

NorthernDancer · 21/07/2025 18:58

Ihavent read the whole thread, but it's John's Hopkins University, not John Hopkins.

It’s Johns Hopkins but I’m guessing that was your phone helping you 😀

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