To still go on holiday by myself after domestic incident

[Chumpachumpa]

H and I not got on for several years. DS1 and DS2 late and mid teens. H and I argued tonight and he slapped my arm . It’s a bit red. No previous domestic abuse to me or kids.

Reported to police. They came and gave a caution as I requested. I’m disappointed and shocked but otherwise fine. Unsure if kids woke up and heard police in the house.

AIBU to go on holiday with DS mis as planned by myself tomorrow?Or is it good idea to have some distance . Holiday is in UK 5 hours away and for 5 days.

I think that by going away you are saying that this incident was no big deal really. So was it a big deal or not?

You would know your mum was going on holiday the following day anyway so why would be better disturbed at that?

Because it wouldn't be normal for my parents to have a domestic with the police called.

So the husband has slapped her during an argument, and now posters are expecting her to give up her planned holiday with her sister as well? Just why?

It's not the OPs fault that the holiday is the next day but my primary concern. would be dc. If you can't understand that then...

And I don't see why the " children" who are mid teens would be unsafe in his care.

Honestly it's amazing how many people make wild comments that are irrelevant to the OP

I wouldn't necessarily think my dc were unsafe but I don't know the DH or is mental health.
I would be worried about how my teens felt.
Are people really minimising a domestic with police as something teen dc would be blasé about it? Breakups/marital problems can be devastating to teen dc.

Why are you still together when you haven’t been getting on for years? What is stopping you leaving?

Who are in there teens and its never been said he's been aggressive in any way towards them.

A police caution isn't issued i. Someone's living room at the request of the 'victim"

A man accused of DV isn't going to be told 'just go for a walk'

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A man accused of DV would ABSOLUTELY be told to 'go for a walk'. If there is no injury and no likelihood of prosecution police won't arrest someone and if they don't arrest them they give them words of advice. Go for a walk is exactly the sort of thing police would tell someone in a situation like this.

And why wouldn't they issue a caution if he accepted that he did it? 'At OP's request' likely means they asked her what her preferred outcome was from the available options and she requested that it was dealt with via a caution.

@BabyCatFace

Where i work theres no way in hell they'd be told to go for a walk. Runs the risk of things escalating when he returns.

They absolutely could issue a caution if appropriate but it would be their decision and done at the police station

Although it sounds as if op is not UK resident so it may differ.

I’m surprised the vote is YANBU to leave the kids with the guy who just hit you home alone with your kids for a week. Go away and take the kids with you OP! They may well have heard last night occurring and it’d be crap to just leave them in that situation now. Either take them with you or arrange for them to stay elsewhere if you really need to be without them. Can you throw out the husband?

to be fair for a slap on the arm i wouldn’t have phoned police it’s a bit ott. Probably would’ve given hi a right hook to be fair

@LIZSthey are joining in holiday in uk 5 hours drive away