I’m SOOOO emotional about dd starting school

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My little girl starts school in September and I am a wreck. I’m experiencing secondary infertility and always imagined I’d have another by now but its not just that and I am a MESS. Her nursery “graduated” this week (even though she’s going there all summer) and I’ve cried every day. Am I going nuts or is anyone else insanely emotional about the thought of school?

I found it very emotional too, hugs.

I got a little teary on the last day of nursery with my second, as they'd been so fantastic over the years. Didn't find them starting school emotional at all, just annoying as they did half days for weeks.

Remember that the point of parenting is not ultimately to have children, but to bring up adults. So every milestone is positive progress towards that. Try to be excited about what’s to come, not sad about what’s past.

Thanks for responses everyone. May be worth saying I had a miscarriage a couple of weeks ago. A bit of a relief to know I’m overreacting and I’m not going to feel like this right the way until September!

I was exactly the same. I cried the last time I picked my DS from preschool and cried the day he started school.
He’s now just finished yr2 about to go into yr3 - junior school! The last 3 years have flown by and I’m emotional all over again!
Once your DD starts the emotion will go and instead you’ll be excited to hear about her day and see how much she learns at school. The school days and terms just seem to fly by though!

Just wait till they have the last day of primary school like I have today 😭😭😭but you’ve got so many happy memories to come don’t worry! And fingers crossed another little one comes along soon for your next round of baby and toddler fun 😀

I've never got emotional over stuff like this with my kids but it seems most people do, so just let yourself feel what you feel.

I have a little sob and baby photo binge at the end of every school year 😂

I am so emotional, this is my third and last and the end of an era for me. I have been a mess for the last couple of weeks.

I'm sorry for your loss, absolutely this is an emotional moment for many people and of course you'll be feeling that emotion very strongly with such a recent miscarriage.

I have also felt emotional when mine started school but the hardest was when I was also longing for another baby, the sense of time slipping away from you is so acute when you are in that situation.

I hope the summer has plenty of joyful moments xx

I really struggled too! Cried everyday for weeks before she started ! It does get easier xx

Same, yet I was on Instagram earlier and must have seen about 10 posts from different people all sobbing about it - I think I must be a hard hearted bitch tbh, just think “well
what’s the alternative? They never grew old enough to not start school? Give your bloody head a wobble ffs 🥴”,
think I’ll be staying away from Instagram for the next week or so, the amount of people
who seem unable to cope with very routine normal things don’t half make life hard and dramatic for themselves (not just talking about school leavers here).

Totally normal.
And especially if you are experiencing secondary infertility ❤️
What’s not normal is being separated from our young children 5 full days a week. But I would say that as I home educate my DC.

Every milestone is emotional especially with your first born ❤️ I'm sorry you had a miscarriage and going through infertility 😔 ask your doctor to prescribe you progesterone next time your pregnant start taking it. Probably a combination of both feelings that's why your emotions are high, buts it's totally understandable and it's such a step up from nursery/reception, try not to let your daughter feel your emotions as I've noticed kids get more upset and don't want to go school. I work with early years school children and today I was hyping them all up on how exciting the step up.will be in September....try to be positive around her, first few days will be hard for you and her but I promise you kids adapt very quickly, it's us who worry for no reason. Wishing you and your girl all the best for SEP and hope you get your rainbow 🌈 baby soon 🙏❤️

I don’t know if it’s hard-hearted, but it’s certainly pretty black and white thinking.
those people who are emotional don’t cry because they wish their child wasn’t growing up. They can BOTH be happy their child is progressing and find it a bittersweet pleasure to see. You can both want something and be sad for the loss of the other thing.

you’d struggle if you met me. I can cry over all sorts of ‘routine’ things.

I’ve got one starting primary school and one starting secondary. It’s very emotional. Motherhood just is like that though. You feel EVERYTHING so keenly.

It never ends. My youngest has just moved out and im a mess. Crying over baby pictures and first days of school photos. Every milestone is a new wave of emotions xx

I think this is some people's normal and as long as you're being positive about the transition with your child it's fine.

DS2 had his nursery graduation yesterday and I cried like a baby😳 DS1 will be going in year 5 in September and I feel a bit emotional about that too as I know how fast it’s going to go and he’ll be leaving before I know it

My child has just finished primary and I feel really sad! And felt the same when he was about to start primary. I’m so sentimental and it’s a real burden!

I felt that way as well, but they were actually both ready to go, settled well and thrived at school. I'm very sorry for your loss. Understandable that you feel emotional.

YANBU. I’m very sorry to hear about your recent loss too, it’s completely understandable that will be making you feel even more emotional. Sending hugs.

My youngest starts school in September. It’s a funny one- I have no concerns about her or the school, she’s ready and excited. However, it does feel like an end of an era for me, the end of a beautiful 7 years with one or both of my children at home. When my son started I still had my beautiful girl with me, and over time all of the lovely activities and things we do together have come to an end. So trying to make the most of our last couple of days eating lunch and having the afternoon together. It feels like I’m being made redundant from the best job I’ve ever had and will ever have!

I have made some exciting new plans for me though! I’ve recently passed a counselling course, so am going back to college to do the next one. Also doing some very structured linked volunteer work. It all fits within my existing school run commitments. It’s great to be studying again, and I think without that I would be much more upset come September.

I hope everything goes well for you and your little one, good luck! 😊

Sorry to hear about your fertility issues, there will be a lot more emotion than someone who feels they have completed their family by choice.

I think sometimes I’m a bit of an anomaly as I couldn’t wait for my (lovely) kids to start school. I seemed to be the only dry eyed one at the last day of primary assembly as well, practically skipping out the school (nothing wrong with the school). I think because I was a single mum with no physical childcare from their dad, I treated a lot of their childhood as a tick list: pre school over tick, primary, tick, senior tick. Now one is at uni and the other graduated I’ve put away the tick list and love that they are now (very lovely) adults.

I hope your dd settles in well as that will be a huge emotional weight off you.

I’m so sorry about your miscarriage. That will be adding a layer to your emotions for sure, but these milestones are big news for us parents. It just shows how much you love your little girl.

Let your tears for both of these things flow. I hope you’ve got lots of love and support around you. Big hugs.

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