OLD disaster stories… cheer a girl up!!

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After yet another ghosting, I’m feeling pretty glum… rather than dwell on that nonsense cheer me up with some disasters or fun stories…. Happy endings stay away…. For today at least!!!!

Sorry if I’m wrong, but this could read as a journalist trying to get a few stories. You didn’t share your story, OP.

Going on a first date with someone who told me he was being tested for psychopathy. Asked me back to his for "cheesecake" - hard no!

First date. Within 15/20 mins he proudly tells me he how he has 20k followers on TikTok.

I didn't see him again.

Oh gosh I’m not!!!
Ao met a guy going great for a few months, slept with him etc… all of a sudden turns out he’d not been separated from ex for years it’s was months and he was totally hung up on her.

went from message daily and essential being today to nothing over night! He only lives around the corner I’m dreading bumping into him!!

most recently a guy who I was talking to was messaging constantly, first thing last thing how are you etc… met for lunch, loads of chemistry went well, discussed a second date. Messages that evening next day - gone!!

i don’t know what I’m doing wrong. But rather than dwell I just wanted a giggle!

I dated a man who turned out to be on licence having been in HMP because he'd seriously abused previous partners. He didn't tell me, but accidentally sent me an email with his real name on it. Curious, and suspicious, I Googled the name. I immediately sent him a link asking if this was him & to explain himself. The name was a very unusual one so no doubt that it was him - also photos appeared. He admitted it was him, I told him that on no account to try to contact me again, reported him to the dating website & blocked him. A few months later a GF of his died at his property under suspicious circumstances. Boy, did I dodge a bullet there - thank God I didn't have sex with him!

I later met my <now> DH OLD who is the kindest sweetest person ever. He does most of the cooking, my laundry, ironing, cleans the house, does the garden. He's wonderful.

I feel your pain op and have had similar. You’re not alone 💐

Probably my favourite OLD story was meeting an actually very lovely man for a drink in the city centre and bumping into my then 13 year-old who had sneaked out of her dad’s with her friends. It was super awkward on both sides.. her for being caught out when she shouldn’t have been and for me trying to introduce him and forgetting his name 😂. I didn’t see him again. He was great fun but heavily into conspiracy theories and just a bit more than I could cope with.

Oh crap! 😱

Many years ago I did OLD, been married for 15 years so a while back. I could write a book on the stories there!

I had a date with a guy that went ok. He asked if he could see me again, and I agreed. On his way over to meet me he rang and said his uncle (similar age to him) was with him if that was ok? Err…well I agreed.

I went out to meet them and made small talk with both. My date mentioned going somewhere for next date, I said it would be nice and he said, oh no, you misunderstand, I thought you and Kevin would like to go? He was trying to set me up with his uncle!

I met another date and had a few drinks, had a good time. On the second date we went to the cinema and I realised I didn’t like him sober. He was sarcastic but in a really brash way and his neck was strange, like a lizard. He kept touching my leg in the cinema and it made me cringe.

I had another date with a guy I got on very well with over email. We met and I wasn’t attracted to him at all, but I stayed for the date and we had a nice chat. As I got out of the taxi by my house, he stuck his tongue in my mouth and started whirring it around like a helicopter blade. I avoided him after that and he started stalking me, calling me at all times and saying we were meant to be together because I went to school with his cousin.

I dated a bus driver who was a complete pathological liar and ghosted me one night. I was really worried about him and rang round the hospitals because I thought he must have had an accident. He left me but didn’t have the balls to even text me that. Arsehole.

My mother was the eldest of 7 children. Her parents had their own business, so, when my mother wasn't working as a teacher, she was looking after her younger siblings. On my parent's first date my mother was looking after her 2 younger sisters (then aged about 7 & 5) she had no choice but to take them on her date with her. My father bought them ice-cream sundaes, gave them money to play music on the Juke Box. Mum always said that she fell in love with him on that date & knew that he was a 'keeper' as he'd been so kind to her little sisters. They got married 6 months later & the little sisters were bridesmaids. 😍

They’ve all been disasters, totally given up now, I think back to my first ever online date after an 18 year marriage, I so hopeful and so naive lol, so bad it’s funny, the photos must of been quite old and his work photo gave me the impression of a respectable professional guy, bit of a reg flag that he changed the venue last minute to one closer to him as more convenient for him!, the cheek of it! anyway still went along, I shouldn’t of bothered, he looked far older dishevelled, terrible teeth, smelled strongly of alcohol, instead of walking away, I’m far too polite so had a drink with him, sat down then he got annoyed I chose the best seat, vaping right in front of my face, the last straw when he starting reminiscing about when he used to shag married women, that was finally enough, I just said I’m going now, and left him sitting there, quickly to my car without looking back. Sigh sadly no one has worked out for me, I only seem to meet ones that don’t have their shit together, financially, mentally, life is far more stable and reliable on my own.

Dear God! I've had dates like that - turning up in stained tee shirts etc. Thinking an acceptable date was a takeaway coffee in a car park - yes, seriously!

My DH turned up with flowers & a bag of home-grown tomatoes. BIG TICK FOR THAT - especially the tomatoes LOL!

From then on he always brought flowers & tomatoes, well until the tomatoes ran out, but always brought me flowers.

I didn't sleep with him for over 3 months & when we finally did - BOY it was the best & still is. I love him so much. He still buys me flowers & tells me how much he loves me several times a day. This 4 years later.

I would say keep going, you may find 'The One' as I did.

Umm wondering why Mr bad teeth, lying, alcoholic cheater is single?.....😂

When I was OLD there seemed to be an awful lot of single, bald, overweight men living in Wales. Just saying....

Met a local guy for a morning/daytime date. Seemed very nice, entirely normal, telling me about his kid from a previous relationship. Got on very well, ended up walking around town together long past lunch time. Walked past his building, asked me if we could pop in to his flat to get some cash before he has to go to the shop in a bit. Said alright, because I'm an idiot.

Proceeded to take me to the kitchen to give me a packet of mini cookies (as we hadn't had lunch) then immediately pull a sharp knife on me... "as a joke" he said after a long 20 or so seconds.

I swear to god I almost died and he changed his mind last minute or something. Was horrible. I was stupid to go into the flat of course, but not stupid enough to deserve a stabbing.

Should have reported it to the police in hindsight...

Another guy I met through OLD I didn’t end up dating at all, but we hit it off really well and I paid him to do some handyman type jobs because he needed work, and it was a nice arrangement. Every time he drove to my city I reminded him about the congestion charge, and every time he ignored it. He will have got so many fines that he made a massive net loss 🤦‍♀️.

@ImaybeoldbutstillrandyGlad you found your one in the end, he sounds great, just plenty of frogs 🐸 to wade through.

Goodness @Agixthat is terrifying, a sobering thought not to trust anyone too soon.

It could be, same as any thread. What difference does it make?
Not me op, but I know of one where the man was a total mummy’s boy. They went to a restaurant, and when they were presented with the menu, he phoned his mum to ask her which meal he’d prefer 🤢 😂

I’ve just been reminded of a friend of mine many years ago. She met a man, they went to a petting zoo and he started poking his fingers in the snouts of the pigs!!!!

Brilliant….. I could live with this…! It’s the ghosting that’s a load of crap…… wish they’d grow some f**king balls and say ‘hey your not for me’ 😬😬

Back in 1974 when I was 17 I met a really lovely guy at a disco. He was about 21 years old and really nice looking with a gorgeous smile. He was wearing jeans, T shirt, baseball boots, just normal stuff. We danced a bit, chatted and generally seemed to click. Anyway, we exchanged numbers and a few nights later he phoned asking would I like to meet up. The only thing was he'd booked a holiday to Spain in a few days time (it was summer) but he'd love to see me before he went. He couldn't stop thinking about me he said. I was really busy for the next few days but my family was having an informal sort of BBQ party at home, so I asked him if he'd like to come along. Not ideal I know, but I was really keen to see him before he went. He jumped at the chance and said how kind it was of me to invite him. All good. Anyway, he turned up wearing full female attire. Not only that but they looked like women's clothes from the 1920's. He looked like Jack Lemmon in Some Like it Hot (google it if you don't know). I mean, I was a bit boho myself but this was another level. He didn't bat an eyelid all evening as I introduced him to my family. Poor old aunty Iris nearly fell off her chair. I did not pursue the relationship.

I agree, it sucks.

I have many! One that stands out in my mind though was a guy I met in a pub just for a drink. We’d been chatting a bit online, and he seemed pretty easy going and easy to talk to. Got to the bar, said Hi, and he’d already ordered his drink, and when the bar lady asked if there was anything else, he said No…! Just good manners to offer to buy your date a drink, surely?! I would have if I’d got there first! Anyway, he then spent the rest of the date explaining (unprovoked and uninvited) that Boris Johnson was going to “sort this country right out”. I was a single mother at the time, with one night off every other weekend, so after I finished my drink, I got up (him still mid-sentence) and said I was going to go. He said “oh, I feel like I’ve said something wrong”, and I said “no don’t worry, I’ve just gotta go, I’ll see you round” he said “well that doesn’t seem likely?” And I said “no probably not, bye!!” And left! Bought a bottle of wine and went home to drink it in front of Netflix! 😂

I turned up at one guy's house to find him cutting the grass with a machete!

One guy talked to me about canals for 2 hours, I was too polite to leave!

Another guy suggested a walk, he took me to his parents' graves! On a second date!

Honestly, I get the worst luck. I've given up now.

Paranoid much?