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AIBU?

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To not attend A&E?

89 replies

PassMeAGripPlease · 18/07/2025 13:56

One foot and leg swelled up completely out of the blue the other night, skin indented when pressed. Saw the GP yesterday morning, they measured and said the leg is 3cm larger than the other due to swelling. Recommend A&E. I didn’t attend as severely anxious around lots of people.
Leg seems to have gone down, no indenting or anything this morning. DH really wants me to get it checked out and is bothering me about it.

AIBU to think it was just something random and that it would be time wasting for me to go to A&E today given the symptoms have gone?

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ButterCrackers · 18/07/2025 18:53

PassMeAGripPlease · 18/07/2025 18:30

I’ve managed to make it to A&E. The long wait begins.

Thank you everyone for your encouragement.

I hope that all will be ok. It’s good that you are there. Fingers crossed for you.

ninjahamster · 18/07/2025 18:55

PassMeAGripPlease · 18/07/2025 18:30

I’ve managed to make it to A&E. The long wait begins.

Thank you everyone for your encouragement.

Well done. I suffer severe anxiety and only leave the house for scheduled health appointments. I understand how difficult this will have been to do. I hope your wait isnt too long and distressing x

rainbowruthie · 18/07/2025 18:56

PassMeAGripPlease · 18/07/2025 18:30

I’ve managed to make it to A&E. The long wait begins.

Thank you everyone for your encouragement.

Well done, hope that the wait is not too long.

Itsabummer · 18/07/2025 18:56

HarrietBond · 18/07/2025 18:51

I hope the wait isn't as bad as you fear, @PassMeAGripPlease.

For anyone else in this situation, I'd suggest asking your GP or 111 for an SDEC referral. It's a new provision in every hospital with an A&E and is essentially direct admission to a temporary 'ward' which enables the hospital to run tests on you quickly. This is exactly the sort of thing it's perfect for and it's a shame all GPs aren't using it. I was referred for a D Dimer recently with a mysterious pain I thought was a pulled muscle in my chest (and indeed luckily that was all it was). From filling in the online GP triage form asking for pain relief, to being called straight in to see them face to face, to being sent to SDEC, blood test, chest x-ray, ECG, consultant read out, codeine prescribed and handed to me, and home again, was under four hours in total.

What is SDEC - what does it stand for?

husband was sent direct to Acute Assessment ward but that was still trolleys and you were still in the A & E queue but at least not in the waiting room. (At least medical staff were close by)

monkeysox · 18/07/2025 18:59

PassMeAGripPlease · 18/07/2025 18:30

I’ve managed to make it to A&E. The long wait begins.

Thank you everyone for your encouragement.

Good. Have a big grip.
Dvt does not fuck about. Your next trip out the house may well be in a coffin if you dont go get some help.
Please go. 💐

monkeysox · 18/07/2025 19:00

monkeysox · 18/07/2025 18:59

Good. Have a big grip.
Dvt does not fuck about. Your next trip out the house may well be in a coffin if you dont go get some help.
Please go. 💐

Well done. Sorry I thought id replied to an earlier message.

HarrietBond · 18/07/2025 19:03

SDEC is Same Day Emergency Care: NHS England » Same day emergency care

It's aiming to reduce the number of hospital admissions by running what used to be in-patient tests through what is functionally a temporary admission. In practice it's also a great place to refer people you are sending for specific tests that don't need A&E services - so you free up A&E instead. SDECs are direct entry, far less chaotic than A&E, and very efficient as you are simply sending patients for tests and then reading back the results. They are particularly good for elderly frail patients but our hospital has a separate frailty SDEC too.

In between my tests I had a designated chair to sit in and was given food and drink. The staff were noticeably less frazzled.

Notouchingmybhuna · 18/07/2025 19:03

Itsabummer · 18/07/2025 18:56

What is SDEC - what does it stand for?

husband was sent direct to Acute Assessment ward but that was still trolleys and you were still in the A & E queue but at least not in the waiting room. (At least medical staff were close by)

SDEC ( same day emergency care) is part of a long term ‘strategy’ to improve emergency care in England. It is very definitely not available in all A&E units/hospitals.

HollyhockDays · 18/07/2025 19:04

Well done. Hopefully you can be seen quickly.

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/07/2025 19:05

Really glad you’ve gone to A&E. Many years ago in my early 20’s I had sudden symptoms of DVT that I only recognised because of a magazine article I had read. I left work and walked into GP who called an ambulance. It saved my life. Had I not gone on that day they said I would have unlikely survived the weekend. It was from the pill. It’s not worth the risk. I hope it turns out to be something less serious for you.

HarrietBond · 18/07/2025 19:05

Notouchingmybhuna · 18/07/2025 19:03

SDEC ( same day emergency care) is part of a long term ‘strategy’ to improve emergency care in England. It is very definitely not available in all A&E units/hospitals.

Ah, I was told it was, but I stand corrected. That's obviously the ambition.

There's one in our not-particularly-distinguished general hospital so at least it's not confined just to the major hospitals.

mintydoggyv · 18/07/2025 19:26

PassMeAGripPlease · 18/07/2025 13:56

One foot and leg swelled up completely out of the blue the other night, skin indented when pressed. Saw the GP yesterday morning, they measured and said the leg is 3cm larger than the other due to swelling. Recommend A&E. I didn’t attend as severely anxious around lots of people.
Leg seems to have gone down, no indenting or anything this morning. DH really wants me to get it checked out and is bothering me about it.

AIBU to think it was just something random and that it would be time wasting for me to go to A&E today given the symptoms have gone?

Hi ya l understand fully , my wife passed in feb with vascular dimentia and at the moment l don't feel like leaving home , but a month ago my leg did swell up and l went to the gp and was told to go to hospital . Well l said l would see but the gp called an ambulance l went . In the end l had a clot and the hospital never operated l had an injection and cleared it , You are very brave if you have mental health issues please try and go , l am certain your hubby loves you and does not want you to leave him ,l hope you are getting help for mental health possibly don't leave it to long before you get help or a check over for your leg please . William

reversegear · 18/07/2025 20:09

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/07/2025 19:05

Really glad you’ve gone to A&E. Many years ago in my early 20’s I had sudden symptoms of DVT that I only recognised because of a magazine article I had read. I left work and walked into GP who called an ambulance. It saved my life. Had I not gone on that day they said I would have unlikely survived the weekend. It was from the pill. It’s not worth the risk. I hope it turns out to be something less serious for you.

Could you share the signs that you noticed I think I’m in the dark about these.

cannynotsay · 18/07/2025 20:12

Hope it’s not that long a wait, well done for getting up and out. xx

NewbieYou · 18/07/2025 20:32

As someone with a severe phobia often the only way to break it is to plough through it OP. My phobia is blood-injection-injury phobia… it would cause me to pass out when someone nearby had a nose bleed I was so terrified. I had a medical issue and had to have so many blood tests… now years on I have to have one every 3 months still. And now, I’m OK. Because I’ve done it so many times, cried, fainted, tried to run away, but did it that eventually your brain says ‘oh, this is ok then I guess’.

You won’t get better by not pushing through the phobia. You must confront it head on over and over and over again even when you can’t think straight you’re so terrified.

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/07/2025 21:13

reversegear · 18/07/2025 20:09

Could you share the signs that you noticed I think I’m in the dark about these.

Sure, I had sudden calf pain, it was red and swollen. I also had chest pressure and breathlessness. I had only read the Cosmo article a few days before and it spooked me so I got on the train home and walked into GP (those were
the days!). Fortunately GP was on the ball
and called ambulance. To be honest the symptoms were not what I would describe as “critical” but I just knew.

BitOutOfPractice · 18/07/2025 21:29

I’m not saying it’s not difficult. I’m saying it’s absolutely imperative.

glad you got there. Hope the wait isn’t too long or busy.

Gemmawemma9 · 18/07/2025 22:02

Op, I’m really glad you went. It took a lot and you’ve done brilliantly. I hope your wait isn’t too long and that everything turns out fine.

mintydoggyv · 18/07/2025 22:08

If you are at a and e you are fantastic well done please update us as we are very worried about you , you are great

Daysgo · 18/07/2025 22:10

Just seen u went to A&E . Good for you op. You need this to be checked. Best of luck.

IOYOYO · 18/07/2025 22:20

well done for getting there @PassMeAGripPlease i hope you’re seen soon

TheShadowOfTheWizard · 19/07/2025 02:24

I've been in A and E twice in the past 6 weeks I feel your pain.

Well done for going

We rang an ambulance for a suspected heart attack and were told an ambulance would be hours, and to make our own way there.

Can I recommend keeping 300mg aspirin tablets in. Most people have the 75g.

TheShadowOfTheWizard · 19/07/2025 02:27

op I'd love to know how you're getting on. That's around 8 hrs from your last msg.

Ok NHS link for signs and the key points

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/deep-vein-thrombosis-dvt/

Symptoms of DVT (deep vein thrombosis)
Symptoms of DVT (deep vein thrombosis) in the leg are:

  • throbbing pain in 1 leg (rarely both legs), usually in the calf or thigh, when walking or standing up
  • swelling in 1 leg (rarely both legs)
  • warm skin around the painful area
  • red or darkened skin around the painful area – this may be harder to see on brown or black skin
  • swollen veins that are hard or sore when you touch them
  • These symptoms can also happen in your arm or tummy if that's where the blood clot is.
PassMeAGripPlease · 19/07/2025 02:33

I’ve had a blood test and BP taken but apart from that nothing else. Still waiting to see anyone.

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TheShadowOfTheWizard · 19/07/2025 02:40

Well done you for sticking. Hoping you get good results quickly. So much waiting. Get snacks in. ❤️

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