Holiday without toddler

[Skunkyways]

Hi all, just wanted some opinions about wwwyd in this situation. I have 2yr old DD who has always been a terrible sleeper for various reasons. We don’t have family close so it’s been hard, but my parents have offered to take her for 3/4 nights at their house( they want to) which means me and my DP can have some time to ourselves and some R&R time. My partner is keen to do a little mini break away, maybe Spain, which sounds lovely but I’m a bit nervous about leaving the country without her. Shes stayed with them once before for 3 nights but I was only an hour away. I’m not concerned about leaving her with them, she would be well looked after and she loves them. I have more of a fear of what if something happens to us both when we are away. It’s a bit irrational, in theory anything could happen if we drive an hour down the road! We of course could just stay in Uk but it’s often just as expensive and we both like the idea of going somewhere hot for a few days

YABU- just go on holiday and enjoy this time to yourselves when you can
YANBU- I would not leave my DC to go on holiday abroad, anything could happen

Go to Spain. Have fun for a few days. Feel the wind in your hair, and the sun on your back. And have a big cuddle when you get back.

We did this when DC was 2; it was booked before DC was born and I had a wobble about going but the break did me and DH so much good. If you decide to have another it can be harder to do these things so go for it while you can

Do it and enjoy several nights of unbroken sleep! My MIL has done this for us, and I genuinely don't think there is anything more valuable she has offered us than time to travel independently.

I wouldn't have at 2 with any of mine, but you know your child. If you think she will enjoy the stay with her grandparents you can enjoy a break

Go for it. It's only 4 days and you and your husband will really benefit from it. If and that's a Big IF anythjng were to happen you could be home the matter of hours.

You won't regret it although you more than likely will find it odd not having your child with you.

Don't worry about the what it's. They may never happen

I wouldn’t at that age but I know DC wouldn’t have been happy apart for a few nights, my siblings have done and enjoyed the break.

If your DC, your parents and husband are all good then why not.

If there is an emergency there are usually plenty of flights between Spain and the UK.

I worked in consular assistance in Spain, the main ‘emergencies’ were people losing their passports so be careful of pickpockets.

Get travel insurance and enjoy.

I wouldn’t have been a flight away when my children were that age. A few hours drive maybe, but flights get delayed and cancelled or fill up, so if you needed to get back quickly it could be a challenge. I find that if I am so unsure of a decision relating to my children it is normally a sign that I don’t feel comfortable and that I should pay attention to that instinct. Two is still very young.

Personally, I would never have done this. I always really enjoyed holidays with DC. First child free holiday was when DC was 17 but I would have rather DC had come.

I wouldnt have enjoyed a break without my baby, not abroad. Personally I would look hire a hire a villa, take the grandparents and get them to help out for the duration of the break.

Thanks all for your advice, mixed bag, but i guess I wanted reassurance that it wasn’t a terrible idea and that people have happily done this before!

Don't leave your child no matter what anyone says. My three were awful sleepers, my eldest could be up 20+ times a night but I never ever left them overnight with anyone. She's your daughter therefor your responsibility.

Go! Have time with your husband.

@cherish123 why?? Surely you and your husband were ready for a couples only holiday by then??

Absolutely go!!!!!

If you’ve got the offer of help with DD and you’re confident she’ll be totally safe and looked after while she’s there, do it!!!!

I love holidays with my DCs - splashing around the pool, building sandcastles, running around on the beach with a ball…..but it’s not much of a break for me or DH 🤷🏻‍♀️😂
So we are no stranger to an adults-only holiday, even if it’s just a long weekend somewhere short haul. It’s blissful to just have a couple of days where my only responsibility is to make sure I eat enough to soak up the local wine.

I haven’t and wouldn’t but I see that’s not what you’re after. If you want to then I’m sure it’ll be fine.

No one right answer. I was left, as my husband. We left our small children with grandparents. Our grandchildren are left with us.

I remember being left, guilt at leaving, and now I gently & lovingly support our grandchildren. They will be back I say, and you’re safe here.

Acknowledge your irrational fear and enjoy a few days away

Go and enjoy the child free time. My son is 4 this year and we each go away with friends once a year and recently we went away together to Italy for 4 nights. Going to NYC next year too. He's totally fine without us and we get much needed time together.

Bloody hell mate

Go, have fun and spend some time with your other half! DH and I did a 3 night trip abroad last year as the in-laws offered to have our 2 year old and it was like a little holiday for her too. She had a great time and we got to have a much needed break. Take the opportunity while it's there!

I'm going away without my toddler for three nights for the first time soon for a wedding and I also keep having intrusive thoughts about what if the place crashes etc!

Do it!

Mine are 2 and 15 month old twins and DH and I are going away abroad for a week on Monday. Can't wait!

I wouldn’t. None of my children would be happy to be apart for more than a half day. Perhaps 24 hours absolute max. Plus I wouldn’t relax knowing they’d be crying for me.

Go. Have an amazing time.

I love going on holiday with my children but if I had the chance to also go away with just my husband I would definitely do it :)

Husband and I went to Venice for work when our son was nine months old. He was with his grandparents for five days. He was fine and so were we.

Go, go ,go! 3/4 days will go so fast. you'll be home before you know it and your dd will be delighted to have a change of routine. If you feel guilty get her a little present and all will be forgiven 🤗 I did this recently with my dd who was 1.5 She was absolutely fine and had so much fun.