Holiday without toddler

[Skunkyways]

Hi all, just wanted some opinions about wwwyd in this situation. I have 2yr old DD who has always been a terrible sleeper for various reasons. We don’t have family close so it’s been hard, but my parents have offered to take her for 3/4 nights at their house( they want to) which means me and my DP can have some time to ourselves and some R&R time. My partner is keen to do a little mini break away, maybe Spain, which sounds lovely but I’m a bit nervous about leaving the country without her. Shes stayed with them once before for 3 nights but I was only an hour away. I’m not concerned about leaving her with them, she would be well looked after and she loves them. I have more of a fear of what if something happens to us both when we are away. It’s a bit irrational, in theory anything could happen if we drive an hour down the road! We of course could just stay in Uk but it’s often just as expensive and we both like the idea of going somewhere hot for a few days

YABU- just go on holiday and enjoy this time to yourselves when you can
YANBU- I would not leave my DC to go on holiday abroad, anything could happen

We used to have a weekend away every year when my son was younger and he would stay with my parents. He would often ask to stay with them anyway though and when he was older would go for weekends away with cubs/scout’s etc.

Absolutely. If I had parents or in laws who wanted to do that for me - I would bite their hand off! Enjoy!

Absolutely go!

Im doing this next February, going to visit my sister in Thailand for a week as she moved there last year. My daughter will be nearly 2, and she will be with her dad at home probably having an amazing time. I do feel slightly guilty, but at the same time, I need a break, I want to see my sister, and I know she’ll be looked after properly. Go, have fun!

ExH and I went to New York for 5 days when DS1 was 9 months old we enjoyed so much we repeated it the next year. DS stayed with both sets of grandparents and was never traumatised by it

It's not about being ready. I actually like spending time and going on holiday with my DC.

Some people do both. It's perfectly possible if you can afford it.

What an insane take. I thought I’d seen it all on this website. She’ll be with grandparents, not left on the street! God forbid a mother should have a break.

Honestly OP you know your child best. I personally think it’s good for you and for your relationship to have some time together.

We did it for the first time when my son was just under 2. We had an amazing time! DS was absolutely fine, he enjoyed a few days with grandparents and didn't even ask about us much 😅

You know your child best. Did she ever stay with grandparents overnight? If she was fine for 1 night then most likely she'll be fine for 3-4.

WHO have you got to look after three toddlers??? I’m so jealous, my friends are always off for child free breaks like this, no-one has offered for my two toddlers

I have, I do, I would.

Your DC will be looked after and cared for. Your parents have offered so are clearly happy to do this.

Get something booked.

I have two DC, both late teens. We went most years for a long weekend without them. My parents would take them to Butlins or similar. They have fantastic memories

Thank god for Grandparents! One set is having the twins and the other set is having 2yo.

Feel incredibly grateful that we can go away and not worry about them.

@cherish123

yeah do both! family holiday and then a holiday for just you and your husband as a couple!

@RoseAlone

sorry for your experience. It’s sad you couldn’t see that you and your relationship mattered too and that child free time is so important.

Totally done in my culture. Kids regularly spend extended times with family for weekends, summer holidays , weddings and trips . You will gain nothing but good from it

I answered the poll wrong. Go and enjoy yourself. Opportunities like this won't happen often so please try not to feel guilty. You deserve fun & a good nights sleep too. And Spain isn't far incase of emergency (although very unlikely so try not to think about that)

go go go!

Enjoy, that’s great! We don’t have grandparents that could cope close by, and it’s £408 a 24 hour period for our sitter 😬 which just makes a trip feel unaffordable

Absolutely not a terrible idea! We left our DS at c.6 months for a UK weekend (with adoring and very capable grandparents) and again at 1yr old to go on honeymoon for a week abroad.
DS now 9 and DD is 5 and we leave them with my DM & DD once or twice a year for up to a week. You’ll get a lot of mumsnetters that will tell you they couldn’t possibly leave their DC and only want to spend their free time with their DC, and that’s fine but you do what is right for your family, don’t let yours be judged by strangers and whatever you decide; have fun!!

Oh you’re so lucky to like your children.. all us mums leaving them safely with trusted friends or family hate our kids and spending time with them🙄

As someone who was in a similar situation 18m ago.... go to spain

You may never get this opportunity again.

Your Parents health may change faster than you or they think (mine certainly did).
We were lucky enough we did 6 days when oldest was a year...next adult only holiday will probably be in 15 years 😬

You also have to invest in your relationship with your dh - go be free and reconnect.

I love the bones of my kids but I'm so jealous! 🤣🤣🤣