Is this a little strange

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So a friend of mine had 1 ds 19 years old.
She is always posting pictures of him on social media with captions like, my world, my beautiful son, my son has done this at the weekend, so proud of him and my son living his best life with videos or pictures of him out with friends etc.

I find this a little strange and weird. Yes we all love our kids but he’s 19 years old not a young child. It’s like she’s obsessed with him.

I know it’s none of my business before anyone starts. Just wondering AIBU thinking it’s a bit to much?
If I posted pics of my ds like that he would find it really embarrassing

I misread it as 19 months and thought yeah that’s not so strange but 19 years seems odd and yes embarrassing

Same!

This sound exactly like a work colleague I had a few years ago!

She was divorced and her teen son lived with her. She'd take photos, almost daily, of him with a plate of food that she'd cooked him and share them facebook. Apparently, they were very close and she'd often comment on seeing him in the shower and he had no issues with this! VERY odd.😕

I find Liz Hurley and her posts with her son on Instagram odd.

Infantalising an adult , what can go wrong - a hell of a lot.
Poor kid.

He's not 19, he's 228 months.

Ah what harm.

I’m glad it’s not just me then who thinks it’s a little strange

I know someone who does this with her son but she did lose her daughter so I can kind of understand why.

I have a friend who does this with both sons. And now grandson too. Both living quite interesting lives. Even her profile picture is of one of her sons and his girlfriend. Find it a bit odd but it’s harmless really. She’s just proud of them.

She's posting publicly what I'll freely admit to thinking in my own head! Part of me wants to shout from the roof tops about my amazing adult DC. But well, you don't, do you? They'd die of embassment for one thing. I don't think its weird she thinks this, just unusual not to obey the social rules and keep it to herself.

It’s weird.
My Mum would post about me and my two brothers if there was an occasion (birthday/graduation etc.) but every day? Very strange.

My exs mom used to share photos of her son that he was tagged in by friends with similiar captions that you mentioned. He was like 28.. He kept begging her to stop as it was embarrassing and his friends kept asking why she was sharing their photos that they posted. It was weird, and she absolutely was obsessed with her son beyond a normal level. I used to feel sorry for her daughter, she was so obviously pushed aside and living in the shadow of her brother. She babied her son so much he was in his late 20s and couldn't turn an oven on or wash his own clothes. She majorly stunted him as he is 32 now and has made no progress in his life

I would really hate this as an adult, but as a teen I'd have been mortified!

😂

It makes me feel quite nauseous. It's just not healthy.

Yes it's odd. My colleague has a son, 10, who is away with his df on holiday for a week. She has asked him to ring her every morning and every night. Has been furious today as only spoke to him for 3 minutes this morning, has been texting the father and his girlfriend. She's also posted on fb how much she's missing him and has bought him new pjs and bedding for his return. Mind. Blown

My dc are going away with their df for 2 weeks, yes I'll miss them, but I want them to be having such an amazing time they're not missing me!

I'll ask the question! Does she have a significant other or is it just her and her son at home?
The women I know that behave like this have subconsciously promoted their son to 'the man of the house' and treat them more like a life partner than their child (nothing sexual obvs).
It's like some women need a man at home and their son fits the bill....not good for the adult child, he's probably going to struggle to move out and be independent.

😂😂

Are these the future husbands of the women posting on MN about their MILs who can't let go?

I know someone like this. Their Facebook feed is the same! They came to work for me briefly. She spent the whole time telling me what a genius her son is, how exceptionally brilliant and kind, how they are exceptionally close, how he is handsome and gifted etc etc. She literally didn’t have any other topic of conversation and she showed very little interest in the job or anything else!

It really came across as though she was obsessed with him and I found her level of devotion quite worrying tbh! Of course we love our dc but this was beyond mother’s love; it seemed unbalanced . It was as if her life didn’t exist outside of him!

I fear it will all end in tears! I’m afraid mothers like this who do not respect their child’s right to an autonomous life, do so much damage, are they are their own worst enemies , because the child becomes more and more resentful as a teen, the mother still won’t back off, and proceeds to ruin their adult child’s relationships, and then the adult child has no choice but to go lc or nc.

Or the mother and son (usually it’s mother and son but occasionally mother and daughter) are locked in to a co-dependent resentful life for ever more. And adult sons in these types of relationships usually turn in to over-indulged, infantilised, unpleasant people. You get the odd father and daughter relationship like this too, but in my lifetime it’s mainly been overbearing mothers who have behaved in this proprietorial way who can’t take a step back when their sons marry, and who don’t understand that the ultimate goal of child-rearing is to raise an adult who is free and independent of you!

Remember when Madonna posted a photo of Rocco on social media in his swimming shorts and captioned it “sausage”? 😱

I dunno, he's an adult, if he's fine with it I don't think it's your place to judge.

There's so much shit and unpleasantness in the world, this just doesn't seem worth worrying about, even though I would never do it personally.

😳 what the fuck!

It's not something I'd do, but why do you give this headspace?

Do you feel validated that people are agreeing with you