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Am I too late to change mind on resignation and new job despite signing contract

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BentleybooandHuntertoo · 14/07/2025 21:37

I've been offered a New job it's a great opportunity, I have told my current boss where I have been working for 11 years today, she said she is gutted to see me go , I have not signed anything yet in terms of resignation, however I have signed my new job contract

I have come home from work tonight all of a sudden feeling physically sick and shaking I need to change my mind do you think I will be able to on both parts ?

In a state

No nasty comments please i feel awful and pathetic

OP posts:
JuniperJuly · 15/07/2025 08:54

Follow your instinct but remember the effort you put into finding a new job. Its not easy and people dont do it without a reason so what was yours?

Have you changed jobs before? Did you have this reaction then? How did that turn out? What impact is that having on your current thought process?

Before you spoke with your manager, how were you feeling? How much has she influenced your decision? Was what she said fair?

Has handing in your resignation made it "real" and a bit scary? That's normal. What was your immediate reaction on being offered the job?

Close your eyes and imagine going to work in 2 years time. Literally visualise your alarm going off, pressing snooze, feeding the cat, the smell of your deordorant... every single step. Dont over think it, just go with the flow all the way through to arriving at work. What workplace do you see first?

One thing I do that is actually really helps focus my mind on a difficult decision is flip a coin to decide.
Heads - I take the new job
Tails - I keep my current job
Your immediate reaction to whether its heads or tails eg relief or disappointment will tell you a lot about what you want without all the other noise.

In the meantime I would speak with your manager and tell her you are having a wobble and can you have a few days to really think it over. Dont tell your new employer until you know either way.

One place Ive worked at, once you've handed your resignation in, that's it but in most places there is some time to revoke it. Lots of people turn down new jobs but out of courtesy you need to tell them soon if you decide that.

Good luck whatever you decide.

TreeDudette · 15/07/2025 08:58

BentleybooandHuntertoo · 14/07/2025 21:45

She did ask if there was anything she could do to change my mind but as I have no real issues , it's a bit corporate company that follows guidelines so I understand I can't just go demanding pay rises and special treatment which I don't want

I work in a big corporate company and if your boss is keen for you to stay then absolutely she would be able to sort a pay increase or a retention payment for you. It is in fact the one time I can get out of cycle money for my team.
Don't leave if you don't want to but also be wary of imposter syndrome. I left a job where I'd been in the company for 14 years. I had sleepless nights for my whole 3 month notice period panicking that I'd not be able to do the new job. It was great and was a huge boost to my career. I still get the jitters now about leaving a company and moving and I don't do it lightly.

TheNoonBell · 15/07/2025 10:30

BentleybooandHuntertoo · 14/07/2025 22:09

Were you able to do both ? I only resigned today and have not yet signed anything, I have signed the new job contract tho, can I be sued?

If you have only just given notice, give it a few days and see if they counter offer. Last time I handed in my notice my boss offered me a 15% pay rise to reconsider, which I did.

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