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AIBU to think employers aren’t going nearly far enough with adjustments and that ableist attitudes are still totally normalised?

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coffeeandmycats · 14/07/2025 18:09

I’m honestly so fed up with how “reasonable adjustments” are treated like some kind of special favour or workplace charity. They’re not. They’re a legal duty under the Equality Act, and they exist because without them, disabled people are shut out of employment or slowly squeezed out once they’re in.
Every time someone says “we couldn’t adjust the role” or “it wouldn’t be fair on the team,” what they usually mean is “we didn’t want to deal with it.” And that’s what drives me mad how often laziness, bias or lack of imagination is brushed off as “just being realistic.” That’s not realism. That’s ableism.
Most jobs can be adjusted. If someone can’t do one task but can do everything else why is the answer to push them out, instead of reshuffling the tasks or offering alternatives? We do this all the time in other settings. You wouldn’t chuck a kid out of school because they struggle with stairs. But in work, suddenly job specs are sacred texts.
And now, with the government trying to push more disabled people back into work (often with threats of benefit sanctions), where is the structural support? Employers still get to decide whether something is “reasonable,” even when they’ve shown time and again that they don’t understand or don’t care. That’s not a system that’s a gamble.
We should be encouraging every disabled person denied adjustments to take their employer straight to tribunal. I don’t care if it’s uncomfortable the law needs to be enforced. But also, it shouldn’t have to get that far. There should be an independent ombudsman-style service that employers must subscribe to something that can assess adjustment requests fairly and quickly, without making the disabled person go to war to be heard.
And honestly? If a business can’t afford to make space for disabled people, whether that’s with flexibility, equipment, transport help or task reallocation, then maybe they shouldn’t be in business. If your model only works when everyone is 100% able-bodied, then your model is broken. Shut it down.
AIBU to think we’ve got this totally backwards? That we’re still treating inclusion like a bonus feature instead of a basic requirement? That people who need adjustments are somehow seen as the problem instead of the systems and attitudes around them?
I’m sure this will rub some people the wrong way. Maybe that’s the point.

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AllPlayedOut · 15/07/2025 15:18

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:10

Thanks for your concern. Just to clarify my uncle has been barefoot due to his disability since his late 20s, and he’s now over 60. Every employer he’s worked for until now has accepted it as a reasonable adjustment, including in busy environments. He also travels on buses and trains barefoot with no issue, and he carries a letter from his doctor explaining the medical basis and why it’s necessary. What works for one person with neuropathy won’t work for another it’s very individual.
There was one incident on a train where a woman and her children took issue with his bare feet. She began filming him and shouting abuse, making him feel unsafe and targeted. My uncle pulled the emergency cord to halt the train and contacted the police. Officers attended, and ultimately he was able to continue his journey in peace after the woman and her family were removed from the train. That aside, he's had very few problems over the years.
He also has diagnosed autism, which means he sees the world in a very black-and-white way. He’s straightforward, literal, and follows rules to the letter but that doesn't mean he deserves to be singled out or victimised. His needs and behaviour come from how his brain is wired, and he has every right to be treated with dignity, just like anyone else.

Well yes what works for one doesn’t work for another but I’ve known a lot of others with neuropathy(Having worked in care) and I cannot think of anyone who would have been advised to go permanently barefoot because it tends to cause even more problems and worsen the neuropathy. Indeed they were actively advised against doing so.

macrowave · 15/07/2025 15:18

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:16

I agree that views will differ, especially when we’re talking about the “big picture.” But inclusion and economic stability aren’t at odds with each other. They depend on one another. A functioning economy isn’t just about the top line it’s also about ensuring people can participate in it fully, fairly, and legally.
Reasonable adjustments exist to stop people from being shut out of employment altogether not to let anyone “underperform” scot-free. No one’s arguing that jobs should be handed out regardless of capability. But capability isn’t fixed, and it isn’t always visible. That’s why the law requires employers to look at whether someone can do a role with adjustments, not just whether they tick a rigid checklist. It’s about potential and equity, not just paper qualifications or an exact replication of someone else’s path.
And when someone loses the ability to perform their original job through no fault of their own, offering a redeployment opportunity they can succeed in is not favouritism it’s the legal and ethical thing to do. Yes, others may have “earned” it through traditional routes. But if the alternative is pushing a disabled person out of work entirely? Then the adjustment isn't an unfair boost it’s a lifeline.
This idea that we must all be judged by identical standards, regardless of barriers, isn’t meritocracy it’s gatekeeping dressed up as fairness. Real fairness means recognising that some people face more obstacles than others and adjusting accordingly. That’s not weakness. That’s civilisation.
And frankly, the country doesn’t suffer because we support disabled people. It suffers when we waste talent, ignore lived experience, and act like empathy is some sort of threat to efficiency.

Honestly, ChatGPT is so bad for the environment. It also affects your brainpower, but that ship may have sailed... #StopTheSlop

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:19

macrowave · 15/07/2025 15:18

Honestly, ChatGPT is so bad for the environment. It also affects your brainpower, but that ship may have sailed... #StopTheSlop

it's not AI. I am typing myself...

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Nospecialcharactersplease · 15/07/2025 15:20

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:16

I agree that views will differ, especially when we’re talking about the “big picture.” But inclusion and economic stability aren’t at odds with each other. They depend on one another. A functioning economy isn’t just about the top line it’s also about ensuring people can participate in it fully, fairly, and legally.
Reasonable adjustments exist to stop people from being shut out of employment altogether not to let anyone “underperform” scot-free. No one’s arguing that jobs should be handed out regardless of capability. But capability isn’t fixed, and it isn’t always visible. That’s why the law requires employers to look at whether someone can do a role with adjustments, not just whether they tick a rigid checklist. It’s about potential and equity, not just paper qualifications or an exact replication of someone else’s path.
And when someone loses the ability to perform their original job through no fault of their own, offering a redeployment opportunity they can succeed in is not favouritism it’s the legal and ethical thing to do. Yes, others may have “earned” it through traditional routes. But if the alternative is pushing a disabled person out of work entirely? Then the adjustment isn't an unfair boost it’s a lifeline.
This idea that we must all be judged by identical standards, regardless of barriers, isn’t meritocracy it’s gatekeeping dressed up as fairness. Real fairness means recognising that some people face more obstacles than others and adjusting accordingly. That’s not weakness. That’s civilisation.
And frankly, the country doesn’t suffer because we support disabled people. It suffers when we waste talent, ignore lived experience, and act like empathy is some sort of threat to efficiency.

Are you generating your responses using AI, OP? Because that was a remarkably detailed response that you formulated in the three minutes since I posted. Also a bit repetitive of what you’ve said before and using some key words I tend to associate with ChatGPT (e.g. gatekeeping).

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:20

AllPlayedOut · 15/07/2025 15:18

Well yes what works for one doesn’t work for another but I’ve known a lot of others with neuropathy(Having worked in care) and I cannot think of anyone who would have been advised to go permanently barefoot because it tends to cause even more problems and worsen the neuropathy. Indeed they were actively advised against doing so.

fair enough, my uncles condition is more complicated, however over the 40 years his feet have adapted well. He has thicker soles on his feet and can comfortably walk over rough surfaces without issue etc.

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coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:21

Nospecialcharactersplease · 15/07/2025 15:20

Are you generating your responses using AI, OP? Because that was a remarkably detailed response that you formulated in the three minutes since I posted. Also a bit repetitive of what you’ve said before and using some key words I tend to associate with ChatGPT (e.g. gatekeeping).

no not at all, however I don't use AI for my responses, but I did re use some of what I have said to previous people which may speed up the response times to be fair.

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WhereIsMyJumper · 15/07/2025 15:21

Nospecialcharactersplease · 15/07/2025 15:20

Are you generating your responses using AI, OP? Because that was a remarkably detailed response that you formulated in the three minutes since I posted. Also a bit repetitive of what you’ve said before and using some key words I tend to associate with ChatGPT (e.g. gatekeeping).

Yes I thought this too.

I wonder if ChatGPT will start requesting reasonable adjustments

macrowave · 15/07/2025 15:22

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:19

it's not AI. I am typing myself...

Some of your responses are clearly written by a human. However, the vast majority are AI, and it's frankly laughable and an insult to my intelligence to lie about it.

Pricelessadvice · 15/07/2025 15:23

Surely a reasonable adjustment for a person with a foot problem that means they can’t wear formal shoes would be to wear dark coloured trainers?
Why are people walking barefoot around an office? That’s not a reasonable adjustment. That’s a health and safety risk.

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:24

Pricelessadvice · 15/07/2025 15:23

Surely a reasonable adjustment for a person with a foot problem that means they can’t wear formal shoes would be to wear dark coloured trainers?
Why are people walking barefoot around an office? That’s not a reasonable adjustment. That’s a health and safety risk.

How would dark coloured trainers help his feet? he hasn't worn shoes for 40 years!

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CaptainFuture · 15/07/2025 15:28

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 10:25

It’s not a “promotion” as a reward it’s a reasonable adjustment to keep a disabled person in employment after their original role becomes unsuitable due to disability. It’s not about climbing the ladder faster than others it’s about avoiding being pushed off it completely.
You don’t get to demand that every career move be earned in the exact same way when the entire point is correcting systemic inequality. If someone has lost the ability to do their job through no fault of their own, and there's a suitable vacancy they can do, the employer has a duty to consider them for it even if others might be more “deserving” in your eyes.
If your idea of fairness is “treat everyone the same no matter their barriers,” then it’s not really fairness it’s gatekeeping. This country isn’t “going down the toilet” because we make space for disabled people. It goes down the toilet when we let resentment replace basic empathy and lawful inclusion.

So @coffeeandmycats would a demoted role and less pay be OK then?

CNDflag · 15/07/2025 15:29

Bet his feet are minging, OP 🤢😂

Geminijes · 15/07/2025 15:30

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:20

fair enough, my uncles condition is more complicated, however over the 40 years his feet have adapted well. He has thicker soles on his feet and can comfortably walk over rough surfaces without issue etc.

I take it he attends any interviews barefoot then so surely he would be asked by the interviewer why. So how does he answer the question, is he truthful about his condition and that he would need to work barefoot?

ObelixtheGaul · 15/07/2025 15:30

My difficulty with all this is that the point of access to work and the law surrounding reasonable adjustments was put in place for those who find it difficult to get any employment at all because of their disability.

To use a PPs example, there is a wealth of difference between someone with say, 2% vision struggling to find any work at all despite ability and the availability of technical adjustments and someone who simply needs to work in a less stressful, fast paced environment.

A good example is the PP talking about a co-worker in the police force that doesn't do conflict and can't work nights. There are plenty of jobs out there where you don't have to work nights and won't have to deal with conflict at that level. There aren't plenty of jobs for somebody with 2% vision without support.

I have anxiety and dyscalculia. For that reason, I am not applying for high stress jobs which state 'good numeracy required' in the job description. I am not without any other options (obviously, as I have managed to be employed for over 30 years). I don't have as much choice as people who CAN do those things, but honestly it's no different to most average people seeking employment who have differing strengths.

I am not suited to certain types of work, just like 90% of the population. I'm not going to apply for a job I know I can't do without support from the get go. I have other options available to me.

Some people cannot access any type of employment without support. Even with support, their options may still be limited. Nobody with very low vision is going to be applying to be a truck driver. Hopefully one day, technology might enable this, but not at the moment.

These are the people for whom access to work and adjustments are vital. Not somebody who could simply work in a sector more suitable.

SleeplessInWherever · 15/07/2025 15:30

His feet are hardened by having not worn shoes for 40 years, but also he needs cushioned flooring… for his hardened feet that can withstand the pavement.

Right. Okay.

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:31

Geminijes · 15/07/2025 15:30

I take it he attends any interviews barefoot then so surely he would be asked by the interviewer why. So how does he answer the question, is he truthful about his condition and that he would need to work barefoot?

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yes if he attends in person he is. However for the current role he was interviewed on teams only.

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SleeplessInWherever · 15/07/2025 15:32

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:31

yes if he attends in person he is. However for the current role he was interviewed on teams only.

What so he didn’t say “my name’s Dave and I don’t wear shoes”?

Seems a fairly large thing to leave out!

Gloriia · 15/07/2025 15:33

SleeplessInWherever · 15/07/2025 15:30

His feet are hardened by having not worn shoes for 40 years, but also he needs cushioned flooring… for his hardened feet that can withstand the pavement.

Right. Okay.

It's crazy isn't it.

An idiot's guide on how to take the piss out of employers without any recognition on how this awful entitled behaviour makes life so much harder for genuinely disabled people needing adjustments at work.

Geminijes · 15/07/2025 15:33

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:31

yes if he attends in person he is. However for the current role he was interviewed on teams only.

His previous role that required his employer to fit new flooring… was he barefoot at that interview or was that also conveniently on teams?

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:34

CaptainFuture · 15/07/2025 15:28

So @coffeeandmycats would a demoted role and less pay be OK then?

Reasonable adjustments aren’t about handing out perks or demotions they’re about keeping disabled people in work, safely and fairly. If someone can no longer do their original job due to a disability, the employer has a legal duty to explore alternatives. That includes suitable vacancies even if they’re at a different level—because forcing someone into a demotion and pay cut because they’re disabled would likely be classed as discrimination under the Equality Act.
So no, moving someone down a pay grade isn’t an acceptable default solution, especially if there’s a role available that matches their skills and doesn’t worsen their financial position. This isn’t about gaming the system it’s about making sure disabled people don’t get punished for something outside their control.
If that bothers you more than the idea of someone being pushed out of work entirely, maybe ask yourself why that is.

Read the below examples where this has been upheld in law:

Mrs A D Wade v Sheffield Hallam University: UKEAT/0194/12/LA - GOV.UK

Pay protection: the cost of reasonable adjustments | Womble Bond Dickinson

Mrs A D Wade v Sheffield Hallam University: UKEAT/0194/12/LA

Employment Appeal Tribunal judgment of Judge McMullen, Mr B Beynon and Mrs R Chapman on 15 April 2013.

https://www.gov.uk/employment-appeal-tribunal-decisions/mrs-a-d-wade-v-sheffield-hallam-university-ukeat-0194-12-la

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SleeplessInWherever · 15/07/2025 15:34

Gloriia · 15/07/2025 15:33

It's crazy isn't it.

An idiot's guide on how to take the piss out of employers without any recognition on how this awful entitled behaviour makes life so much harder for genuinely disabled people needing adjustments at work.

Like I said earlier - one of my previous employees could at one stage sit on chairs in all other locations apart from the office.

The sofa at home - fine. The one in the office, absolutely not.

Some people make taking a lend their life’s work.

Gloriia · 15/07/2025 15:34

Did the op mention the 2010 Equality act?

coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:35

Geminijes · 15/07/2025 15:33

His previous role that required his employer to fit new flooring… was he barefoot at that interview or was that also conveniently on teams?

this role was during the pandemic, he then returned to the office bare foot.

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coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:36

SleeplessInWherever · 15/07/2025 15:34

Like I said earlier - one of my previous employees could at one stage sit on chairs in all other locations apart from the office.

The sofa at home - fine. The one in the office, absolutely not.

Some people make taking a lend their life’s work.

I can't comment on that example but my uncle has worked his whole life and only ever used the employment tribunal process 2 times so far.

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coffeeandmycats · 15/07/2025 15:36

SleeplessInWherever · 15/07/2025 15:32

What so he didn’t say “my name’s Dave and I don’t wear shoes”?

Seems a fairly large thing to leave out!

He isn't legally required to disclose this in the interview.

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