To just want to stay in my garden?

[JudesBiggestFan]

All my life, during the summer I’ve wanted to be out and about. Beer gardens, weekend trips to the beach (i live in the midlands), festivals, long walks in beauty spots near and far. I’ve just realised that this summer, at the age of 46, I finally can’t be arsed. I just want to go to work, take my kids to cricket matches at pretty local grounds and then sit on my ample backside in my back garden, sometimes with my feet in a paddling pool. The thought of the crowds, the expensive parking, the expensive drinks and ice creams, the slight edginess I feel in city pubs as soon as it gets warm because people can’t hold their drink…I can’t be arsed with any of it! Am I old before my time or is this a normal life stage?

I’m 62 and feel like this now. I think you’re a bit young to be…

I think you’re being reasonable!
I think things have been overly changed for profit but quality reduced so it’s not worth a lot of those things.
i can’t guarantee a drink will be in a nice glass, with ice and the right trimmings despite paying loads for a spirit mixer, so why go out? Things I used to enjoy just don’t seem worth it now (experience vs cost).

Yanbu im in my 30s and feel like this

I think it is perfectly acceptable to want to stay at home and enjoy your own peace and surroundings! It’s good to slow the pace down sometimes. I like my own company as well as socializing. We go through different phases so enjoy the one you’re in right now.

I'm with you, although I will venture out the odd morning mid week before the teenagers are up and about! Retired now and my time's my own, but my favourite spot is just outside my patio door in the reclining sun chair, under the big brolly, rubbing my hands against the lavendar in the border, audio book on, and drinking my home made ginger and lemon cordial with fizzy water and tons of ice. Only ten steps to the loo and a refill. Although I usually conk out first. LOL. 😊

I’m with you OP. Summer in the garden, no queues and other people - love it!

I’m in my 30s and have felt like this for years!
something about sunshine and heat just makes certain types worse. Day drinkers mostly.

Also the crowds are ridiculous, everything is expensive and im paying enough in mortgage so intend to fully enjoy my own house and garden.

Yanbu
I ventured out with my partner and eldest daughter to a beer garden to sit in the sun.

they put mint in my pimms ffs
not doing that again

It's too hot atm. I'm 45 and went to the beach the other day..absolutely hated it. Had to leave. Sunbathing on my back patio, bliss.

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head, @101Nutella - I used to love going out, it was a real treat, and generally nicer than anything I’d put together at home. But now, meals out are so often disappointing, even though quite expensive. So, what should be a treat, ends up feeling quite dispiriting. A glass of something lovely in a peaceful back garden is very appealing in comparison.

I am the same , in my 50s and I am happy in my own home and garden , too much drama for me in the real world.

Just be careful it doesn’t escalate.

I started with some MH problems a few years back. Started staying on at weekends as work was enough for me. Then I had to leave work as things got worse.
Im now 5 years in with multiple MH issues. My circle got smaller and smaller. I now only leave the house for MH appointments. I have no friends anymore. I only see my husband and children when they visit.

It can be very lonely.

I’m late 30s and have felt like this for years. It’s to hot to be out all day. It’s nice to go for a walk or out when it’s comfortable like 20 degrees or just over but 25 plus is just horrible to me.

Of course yanbu. Do what you want. I cba with any of it either.

I've never really been one of beer gardens or pubs tbh! But I've liked getting out for a walk somewhere interesting at the weekend or seeing a friend for coffee and I still, do like doing that.

I'm not so good at sitting whether it's out or in the garden. I'm starting to appreciate "sitting" in my mid 40s. I've always had work that's spilled into the weekend of stuff with the kids or 101thinga I need to do (boring things and trips to get things or cleaning or admin). I'd prefer sitting..
These last 2 years I've really got into my garden and I love it ❤️.

(but BTW there is supposed to be mint in a jug of pimms isn't there??)

Not the point but Pimm’s definitely has mint in

I feel the same! Embrace it x

I still like beer gardens and walks but I’ve never wanted to go to festivals or overcrowded beaches in the summer. I don’t really like crowds in general but I like being out and about still.

I got home today after a week away, and I've told my husband that was the penultimate holiday I was ever having. (Penultimate because he's booked another holiday in September.). Why go away when I have everything I need and want at home? I'm not averse to the odd day out, but I'm coming home when it's done.

30’s here and nothing gives me more pleasure than a weekend at home, pottering about the garden.

YANBU. Hell is other people, I'd far rather be in my own space with no lairy people or having to walk miles and then queue up for a manky public toilet with no toilet roll. A cornetto from the freezer will do me.

Ooo ginger and lemon cordial....sounds delicious. How do you make that? Would you mind please explaining? Thank you!

I lived for ten years in a house that didn't have a garden (just a small paved yard that also housed the bins...) and I found summers really hard. I felt I always needed to be out of the house going somewhere to make the most of the good weather.

When we move three years ago to a house with a lovely big garden for my daughter to play in I suddenly realised how much a wonderful thing it is - I don't ever feel like I waste the day anymore. Spending time just reading, or doing a bit of gardening, or eating outside, or just sitting out getting some vitamin D etc...it feels like I make good use of the day and have a lovely sanctuary at home now. Embrace it.