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To think this is the start of type 1 diabetes

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NeuroSpicyCat · 10/07/2025 00:11

Hand hold please.

My 13 year old son informed me tonight that he wet the bed last night.

This has never happened before.

His late father had Type 1 diabetes which started around this age.

My son also has a sore tummy (that comes and goes) and sore calves (that come and go).

He seems to have low mood also.

He's always been really thin.

My husband (his stepdad) is driving to A&E with him right now. I’m staying home with the other 4 children. (I can’t drive).

I’m autistic and scared. I’m so worried for him. AI said he is highly likely to be diagnosed given his symptoms and family history, and he’s likely to be urgently admitted to hospital.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

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TrainGame · 10/07/2025 18:19

OP you can get a genetic test to find out if you're DS is more predisposed to Type 1 diabetes. https://www.elsadiabetes.nhs.uk/ It's a trial that's ongoing in the UK run by the NHS.

I would have done it for one of mine but DC was too old at 14. I understand your worry.

Here also is an interesting medical research report: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35045871/

HAMSAB (high-amylose maize-resistant starch modified with acetate and butyrate) is not commercially available, (the stuff used in this trial) nor are we mice so take the study with a pinch of salt but it's something to consider.

Anything that increases short chain fatty acids are a good thing for any human!

Foods That Promote SCFA Production:

Fruits: Apples, pears, berries, oranges, and bananas are good sources of fiber.

Vegetables: Broccoli, carrots, spinach, kale, and sweet potatoes are excellent choices.

Legumes: Beans and lentils are rich in fiber.

Nuts and Seeds: Almonds, chia seeds, and flaxseeds provide fiber and healthy fats.

Whole Grains: Opt for whole grains over refined grains for more fiber.

Psyllium Husk: A fiber supplement that can be added to the diet.

Popcorn: A good source of fiber, especially when prepared with minimal added butter or oil.

Fermented Foods: Fermented foods like yogurt, sauerkraut, and kimchi can also contribute to SCFA production.

Resistant Starch: Foods like potatoes (especially when cooled after cooking), unripe bananas, and cooked and cooled pasta contain resistant starch, which is fermented by gut bacteria to produce SCFAs.

Good luck OP x

The ELSA Study

The ELSA Study

https://www.elsadiabetes.nhs.uk

Bearinthesmallmessyflat · 10/07/2025 18:21

Please never use AI for medical advice.
It’s a pattern recognition machine, not a search engine.

Anxiety17 · 10/07/2025 18:25

Alondra · 10/07/2025 12:57

I didn't say pancreas. I said kidney and pancreas transplants because of type 1 diabetes. When insulin no longer works, the first major organ affected are the kidneys, leading to kidney failure. Failure that in severe cases leads to heart attacks and affects other organs.

I live in Australia and you only need to google kidney/pancreas transplant diabetes 1, if you don't believe me.

BTW, none of my posts are from googling. What I'm posting is from professional and personal experience.

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right and that’s regularly offered on the NHS is it? Along with controlling your autoimmune condition with exercise and diet?

beesandstrawberries · 10/07/2025 18:50

I completely understand why you panicked, but this is why a&e is bulked up and people in life threatening emergencies can’t be seen. You could have phoned 111, you could have got a gp appointment. My son was severely unwell when I phoned 111 once and they sent an ambulance based on my communication with them. So that could have happened with you. I just really take the need of people being in a&e seriously as when I was a child I had a mastoid infection and had to sit in a&e for hours because it was so busy. When I finally got seen, I had to be rushed for surgery as I was septic and if I had to wait any longer I likely would have died.

so that’s what a&e is for, genuine people risk life or death waiting because people didn’t want to take the time to see the gp or phone 111. I think everyone should be entitled to healthcare equally but come on, this was not an emergency.

Winter2020 · 10/07/2025 18:51

OP,
Don’t let anyone undermine you for seeking medical attention for your child when you felt that they needed it.

The same posters would tell me “you took your son to A&E because he had stomach pains?”, “You took your son to A&E because he was sick after dinner?”
Yes and I’m bloody glad I did because his Crohn’s disease is now diagnosed and treated and he has his life back when the GP/paediatrician was getting us nowhere.

Undiagnosed type 1 can be deadly as you know. Do you know if it is possible/ok to test for ketones or test blood sugars if you are concerned to be prepared if you have the same concerns in future? I have no clue just wondering if this would be helpful.

If your son is diabetic I believe there are advancing technologies now to help you all manage.

Hope he is ok.

Winter2020 · 10/07/2025 18:54

beesandstrawberries · 10/07/2025 18:50

I completely understand why you panicked, but this is why a&e is bulked up and people in life threatening emergencies can’t be seen. You could have phoned 111, you could have got a gp appointment. My son was severely unwell when I phoned 111 once and they sent an ambulance based on my communication with them. So that could have happened with you. I just really take the need of people being in a&e seriously as when I was a child I had a mastoid infection and had to sit in a&e for hours because it was so busy. When I finally got seen, I had to be rushed for surgery as I was septic and if I had to wait any longer I likely would have died.

so that’s what a&e is for, genuine people risk life or death waiting because people didn’t want to take the time to see the gp or phone 111. I think everyone should be entitled to healthcare equally but come on, this was not an emergency.

If the OP rang 111 concerned about type 1 diabetes her child would need to be seen. No call handler is going to say “oh I’m sure he’ll be fine” that is not going to happen. Sending an ambulance would be more resource intensive than taking him to A&E.

Edit: undiagnosed type 1 diabetes is a life threatening emergency.

Winter2020 · 10/07/2025 19:05

blackpooolrock · 10/07/2025 13:05

I think it was a little unreasonable to take your son to A&E based off an AI diagnosis. The reason to call 111 is to talk to a healthcare professional who can will use their experience to help provide some kind of answer to what may have happened.

I do know someone who's son was taken into hospital and diagnosed as T1 but they were extremely ill when it came on. They get helicoptered into hospital he was so ill with it.

I this it's a big leap from a vague sore stomach to wetting the bed once to get them to A&E quickly thinking they are a type1.

AI is a dangerous tool. No one should be using it in this kind of scenario.

You think OP should have waited to see if her son got extremely ill - then he could be helicoptered in?

Edit someone cannot tell if the child is diabetic over the phone. It’s not possible.

TourdeFrance2025 · 10/07/2025 19:07

rainingsnoring · 10/07/2025 11:20

Wrong about what exactly? There is a lot of hyperbole on this post about a boy who wet the bed once.

Read the post I quoted.

TourdeFrance2025 · 10/07/2025 19:17

Rosscameasdoody · 10/07/2025 11:30

It’s unbelievable. Posters were actually advising OP to discharge her son and leave, rather than waiting to see a doctor. The repercussions of discharging against medical advice can be quite significant and the hospital wouldn’t have followed up with the GP on any further testing had they done this. I was berated by one poster who said the only reason they were asked to stay is that a triage nurse can’t discharge them without them seeing a doctor, which is utter nonsense. So clearly the point of triage isn’t understood either !!

🤬🤬. Especially when you make out you're some kind of medical person (which they're clearly not)

TourdeFrance2025 · 10/07/2025 19:19

rainingsnoring · 10/07/2025 11:33

Why should @icallshade not make her perfectly reasonable comment?

She is correct that the OP has over reacted to what she has described and I can understand @icallshade's anger given wha happened with her genuinely unwell child.

Because she was saying it was because he wet the bed once. Minimising the OP's other reasons she was worrying.

JifNtGif · 10/07/2025 19:20

I hope OP's child isn't still in A and E after wetting the bed once.

TourdeFrance2025 · 10/07/2025 19:21

rainingsnoring · 10/07/2025 11:38

'I'm sick to death of people that don't understand diabetes is a serious, life threatening condition.'

Literally no one has said that. You seem to be arguing with yourself.

FGS at least read the posts I'm quoting before quoting me with more of your pointless posts.

Pricelessadvice · 10/07/2025 19:24

Ficklebricks · 10/07/2025 16:56

Actually you're wrong. Depending on where you live A&E isn't just for emergencies anymore. Our local A&E Will triage urgent but not quite emergency cases to an on site all night GP service. You turn up at A&E, they quickly assess you and send you across the hall to a brand new urgent care building staffed with GPs and nurses. We were very grateful for the service when my daughter had appendicitis symptoms on a Sunday evening. It wasn't quite deemed serious enough for A&E but she did need a medical professional to examine her straight away. This was the proper use of the service based on advice from 111 and is exactly what it's designed to do.

The NHS make it very clear what A+E is for. They have done numerous campaigns to try and stop people going for no reason. If yours is different, then I imagine it’s well advertised as this. But the majority of A+E’s are for accident and emergencies only.

notimeforregrets · 10/07/2025 19:25

Anxiety17 · 10/07/2025 18:25

right and that’s regularly offered on the NHS is it? Along with controlling your autoimmune condition with exercise and diet?

You forgot the cinnamon. Hmm
There's so much disinformation about T1D all over this thread that I don't even know where to start.

TourdeFrance2025 · 10/07/2025 19:26

ArmySurplusHamster · 10/07/2025 11:45

Being dragged off to A&E because you pissed the bed? At 13? No, of course the boy will have been completely unembarrased.

Well I'm sure his SD was more tactful, it's not the only reason his mum was (understandably) worried. His late father had it, I'm sure the kid understands.

Pricelessadvice · 10/07/2025 19:27

Rosscameasdoody · 10/07/2025 17:03

He has type 2 diabetes which goes hand in hand with long standing and serious vascular problems, along with heart failure. He’s had both legs amputated because of these problems. Standing instruction that if there are any concerns out of hours the first port of call is A&E, where they can get to him and see what’s needed rather than risking death waiting for GP or 111. You really don’t know who you’re dealing with on these threads and a snotty and supercilious attitude sometimes backfires badly. I’m assuming an apology will be along any time now - but probably not. Maybe change your username because your advice isn’t so priceless in this instance is it ?

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And just as I don’t know about your personal situation, you don’t know about mine and why I feel so strongly about people turning up to A+E for no good reason.

TourdeFrance2025 · 10/07/2025 19:28

Rosscameasdoody · 10/07/2025 11:51

Not to mention that it would be discharging yourself against medical advice and the hospital would not follow anything up. It’s ridiculous - if they had to go back to A&E they would have to go through triage and wait all over again.

Edited

Yep. Ridiculous she wouldn't have waited, but would have started the whole thing again the next day 🙇🏻‍♀️

TheFairPoet · 10/07/2025 20:35

TourdeFrance2025 · 10/07/2025 19:17

🤬🤬. Especially when you make out you're some kind of medical person (which they're clearly not)

Here are NHS England’s guidelines for triage. There is no direct discharge of patient at triage option. The closest that can be done to discharge directly from triage is to redirect to primary care, which is not done at night due to primary and community care being closed. OP‘s DS attended at night. www.england.nhs.uk/guidance-for-emergency-departments-initial-assessment/

Anxiety17 · 10/07/2025 20:36

notimeforregrets · 10/07/2025 19:25

You forgot the cinnamon. Hmm
There's so much disinformation about T1D all over this thread that I don't even know where to start.

Agreed. You can manage it with diet? Okay so why is my sugar sky high when my pump fails overnight

Aweecupofteaandabiscuit · 10/07/2025 20:47

Pricelessadvice · 10/07/2025 16:12

Well you’d hope common sense would prevail, but this is the human population we are talking about!

A+E is for medical emergencies (that is immediate risk to life or limb). It is not for “well it might be a dangerous illness, despite only having one vague symptom and the patient displaying no immediate obvious signs that their life is danger/no signs of obvious distress”

The only times I’ve turned up to A+E it’s been via ambulance where I was admitted to HDU, or with broken bones requiring re-aligning/ casting and/or surgery. I have never gone to A+E and been sent away to a GP or a pharmacy, because I would only attend A+E in a genuine emergency. If people go to A+E and get told to see a GP, then they need to have a word with themselves about why they went in the first place.

If you’ve seen the state of the average A+E department, you will realise my anger about this.

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Well my mother thought like you and was telling me to try different cold remedies on DS, luckily I felt differently and he got to A&E a few hours or so ahead of the point where he would have died of DKA.
Given that my other son was stillborn because I didn’t want to bother the hospital with what I thought would be dismissed as standard (for me at least) pregnancy BS, you should understand my anger at the suggestion that the public should not seek urgent medical care when they believe they need it.
I’ve been to A&E twice with my youngest son in the past 6 months, both times on the weekend, treated and on our way within a few hours.

OverwhelmedandBemused · 10/07/2025 20:51

So what was it @NeuroSpicyCat?
An update would be useful/reassuring for people in a similar situation in the future.

justasking111 · 10/07/2025 20:57

@NeuroSpicyCat

I believe in a mothers instincts. You did the right thing. It's so difficult to get a GP appointment these days.

Crazymayfly · 10/07/2025 20:59

Type 1 here - I hope you’ve had some good news?

as your husband is type 1 surely he has ketone sticks and a bg manual monitor (as back up - just in case he uses Libra and it over heats - mine is dodgy in the warm weather when it gets very hot). That might have given some comfort. If you’re at the point of DKA your husband would know that the ketone sticks would light up like a Christmas tree showing highly acidic levels when dipped in your son’s wee.

AI is not a good tool to use - try the nhs instead. I appreciate you were really worried and it can be immediately life threatening if you don’t know what’s going on - but you have your husband on hand to help.

I was thirsty and tired and was in DKA when diagnosed and losing several lbs of weight per day. Thirsty - to put in perspective - I was gulling down two points of water and the minute it left my tongue it was bone dry. It’s not feeling a bit thirsty when it’s warm weather. The muscle pain isn’t just slightly sore - it’s crippling to the point you can’t move or walk. And the tiredness - your eyes flutter and you can’t stay awake.

Id been to see the GP and asked him to check for diabetes and was given antidepressants and then he increased the dose twice and told I was a hypochondriac. He tested my wee with a ketone stick after telling me to go home and get some rest as nothing was wrong with me. By the time I got home the phone was ringing and it was the receptionist telling me to go straight to an and e.

Im the only diabetic in my family - my son is 30 and no autoimmune diseases at all. Having said that my family has a lot of autoimmune disorders, and I am collecting them (currently have five and I’m expecting another one to be added to the list soon as being tested for lupus.

I hope you’re sons alright - he could have been in deep sleep and accidentally wet the bed as just got caught short, he could have a UTI, I hope he’s okay and gets a good rest when he’s home x

Crazymayfly · 10/07/2025 21:03

So sorry ! I’ve just re read (yes I’m stupid) and missed it was your late husband that was type 1, so you wouldn’t have had the bg monitor or the ketone sticks. Sorry, I really am, that I missed that.

Rosscameasdoody · 10/07/2025 21:18

Crazymayfly · 10/07/2025 20:59

Type 1 here - I hope you’ve had some good news?

as your husband is type 1 surely he has ketone sticks and a bg manual monitor (as back up - just in case he uses Libra and it over heats - mine is dodgy in the warm weather when it gets very hot). That might have given some comfort. If you’re at the point of DKA your husband would know that the ketone sticks would light up like a Christmas tree showing highly acidic levels when dipped in your son’s wee.

AI is not a good tool to use - try the nhs instead. I appreciate you were really worried and it can be immediately life threatening if you don’t know what’s going on - but you have your husband on hand to help.

I was thirsty and tired and was in DKA when diagnosed and losing several lbs of weight per day. Thirsty - to put in perspective - I was gulling down two points of water and the minute it left my tongue it was bone dry. It’s not feeling a bit thirsty when it’s warm weather. The muscle pain isn’t just slightly sore - it’s crippling to the point you can’t move or walk. And the tiredness - your eyes flutter and you can’t stay awake.

Id been to see the GP and asked him to check for diabetes and was given antidepressants and then he increased the dose twice and told I was a hypochondriac. He tested my wee with a ketone stick after telling me to go home and get some rest as nothing was wrong with me. By the time I got home the phone was ringing and it was the receptionist telling me to go straight to an and e.

Im the only diabetic in my family - my son is 30 and no autoimmune diseases at all. Having said that my family has a lot of autoimmune disorders, and I am collecting them (currently have five and I’m expecting another one to be added to the list soon as being tested for lupus.

I hope you’re sons alright - he could have been in deep sleep and accidentally wet the bed as just got caught short, he could have a UTI, I hope he’s okay and gets a good rest when he’s home x

OP’s husband died. Made very clear in the first post.