I could name countless instances were my partner has questioned me, accused me of lying or second guessed me when I gave him an answer to his interrogations but I'll try keep it brief.
Question is: AIBU to want to get out of this or work on this with him?
He's always accused me of being involved with other people at work. The latest accusations have been that I'm contacting other men on my work phone, I'll get with someone when I'm on worktrips away, or if my phone died while I'm away, he's asked why and becomes very suspicious. I've never given him any reason to feel like this but it's wearing me down.
Now, the lies have got to such petty things like accusing me of being drunk when I haven't been drinking, accusing me of lying about going to the gym or telling me I just lay out my gym mat in the house to make him think I was doing a workout while he was out (implying I was doing something else).
He's a heavy drinking and I think he's becoming a paranoid delusional drunk. I don't know how much more I can tolerate being told I'm lying...especially when it comes to work as I support us both on my income alone.
I get angry when he accuses me and I give him answers and he doesn't believe me and then he blames my angry reaction on not being able to trust my answer but I'm just so frustrated by that point. I feel like it's gaslighting and projection on his part.
We're not married yet but have been planning to. Does this ever get better?