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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think DH performance cooking is a bit ott…

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harriethoyle · 06/07/2025 18:44

Lighthearted! I will preface this by saying I adore my DH and he is an excellent man who more than pulls his domestic weight.

BUT

When he decides To Cook (capitals deliberate) as he did today, it is a performance. Wanting me as a sous chef, commentary on the progress of the dish, frequent tastings for my opinion, serving up with a flourish then a post-mortem on what was good, bad, ugly. It was delicious tbf.

Meanwhile, I’ve knocked up a lasagne for tomorrow, mini quiches for next weekend’s picnic lunch and a cous cous salad for lunches this week. With no assistance, checking in or post-cook review…

AIBU? Anyone else’s partner do this?!

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justasking111 · 08/07/2025 09:55

Helen483 · 07/07/2025 23:13

OMG op, my DH and I have laughed over this thread (thank you for posting!).

DH is a good cook, but just as you describe, everything is performative. If he's just cooking for us I steer well clear (like you, I go and play the piano - are you sure we aren't sisters?). If he's cooking for a family occasion then I "sous chef" - but I require precise instructions (peel and chop these carrots? - sure, do you want rounds or julienne? how many millimetres thick? etc).

And I always say he cooks like a man, by which I mean (a) he can't multitask, so everything has to be prepped before he starts, and (b) he can't rinse or wash anything as he goes along, so the kitchen looks like a bomb site when he's finished.

Oh cutting the carrots. I never do it right apparently 🤣

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