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Why do people dance?

128 replies

pinkglitter12 · 04/07/2025 20:35

There wasnt a category for this to go in so apologies..
Ok i know I'm going to sound a little bit weird now, but its been bothering me.
Why when people hear music do they start waving their arms and legs around?
Is it a mating ritual still? Do people want to be admired for their dexterity?
Does dancing make people feel a certain way?
Why?

OP posts:
Cheeseplantandcrackers · 04/07/2025 22:35

I love to dance because it makes me feel happy. I have no coordination and no skill but I enjoy it. And it’s a good workout!

FrillySocksAndDocs · 04/07/2025 22:35

I love dancing, I started dance classes last year in swing jive, Lindy hop and rock and roll. It's so much fun

TrainGame · 04/07/2025 22:36

Also grinding is one particular kind of dance. Kind of silly to ask why we don’t see royalty grinding. I’ve never ‘ground’. It’s not a favourite dance for most people.

Ive seen Prince William and Harry dance though. They’re certainly up for a bop and can feel the beat.

Newmum738 · 04/07/2025 22:37

It’s a good observation OP. I also wonder why being tickled makes you laugh. Genuinely, it’s crazy that a finger in the ribs would lead to a physical reaction like that!

TrainGame · 04/07/2025 22:38

I think we dance for social cohesion. Music transcends all races, religions, cultures. Dancing bonds and binds is further together. It’s the physical outlet for musical energy and emotions that build up inside us.

Aniceempirebiscuitandacupoftea · 04/07/2025 22:42

I love to be in boogie wonderland. I dance until I drop if the occasion calls for it.

NotsosunnyShropshire · 04/07/2025 22:42

Dontlletmedownbruce · 04/07/2025 20:47

I am so interested in this too. Music and dance is a uniquely human love that has always existed, through every civilisation and tribe. It is used for emotional regulation for some or as an expression of joy. It's definitely not a mating thing because children do it more than adults. Babies dance instinctively, they bop their heads or jerk their feet to rhythm even if they are too young to move. Most little kids love dancing, most adults too when they are alone. I wish it was socially acceptable to just randomly dance when you are happy or enjoying a song.

I've never really read up on it but I'd be interested in the psychological theories behind it.

Horses ‘dance’. They’ll regulate their stride to the tempo of the music without being asked.

I dance because I love it. I’m a good dancer, but I’m now too old to be trying to impress anyone with my moves. 🙂

ScratCat · 04/07/2025 22:55

I’ve just been reminded that nothing’s more cringe inducing than seeing members of the royal family dancing.

I can remember feeling horrified as a child at footage of Charles and Di twirling around a dance floor. I can still see it now. Her face was scarlet, possibly with horror. Also William and Kate awkwardly dancing on some foreign tour. Why do they agree to it?

Treeshadebreese · 04/07/2025 23:00

I don’t think I go a day without moving to music. It’s like a parallel universe and as someone else said, has no boundaries. I think the occasional song and dance through life is one of life’s survival skills. It replenishes the soul.

ThisMellowGreenDreamer · 04/07/2025 23:04

We were talking about this at home yesterday while watching our 16 month old break it down to the hold music on my call to the GP surgery!

TuttiFruittiSweets · 04/07/2025 23:14
Skeleton Dance GIF by aurel

Because you only live once and why the hell not. You should be dancing, yeah - Bee Gees

HauntedBungalow · 04/07/2025 23:22

There's likely deep beneficial brain mechanisms at work, linked to music. There's some evidence that movement drives and develops brain activity particularly consciousness, particularly in early life. It's fundamentally linked to survival and development. Rhythmic movement and dancing light up multiple parts of the brain, as music does. Music also drives brain development, and playing music stirs the amygdala. Certainly both feature in many of the brain processes that make us intrinsically human and also make each of us, ourselves.

We've been dancing for at least 40000 years and we "sang" (as in, we vocalised pitched sounds) before we spoke.

TuttiFruittiSweets · 04/07/2025 23:26

skippy67 · 04/07/2025 21:54

We don't see royalty pooing either, but I'm sure they do...

Royalty don’t dance? Yes they do and badly too. Megan Markle and Harry…

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DaTNMa-2PDU

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HauntedBungalow · 04/07/2025 23:28

Royalty do everything badly though. It's all the inbreeding..

Kimwestonhelpless · 04/07/2025 23:29

When younger I travelled the UK going to Northern soul niters round trip journeys of 800 miles in a weekend were not unusual.
The joy of dancing to great soul records was shared by many.
Still love Northern soul but dancing days are gone old and knackered knees.

HauntedBungalow · 04/07/2025 23:36

Aw, that's a shame. Great tune btw!

If it helps, making movements in response to music is one of the last things to go, in the very elderly and very sick. Residents in nursing homes will move their fingers and feet and heads when they hear music, long after they can no longer verbally communicate or do things for themselves. So we still have many years of being able to appreciate music, once the dancing is over.

whitewineandsun · 04/07/2025 23:41

Joy! Thankfully that still exists.

Whistlingformysupper · 04/07/2025 23:43

It's a response to the music. It isn't just about moving your body it's about the rhythyms and the timing and the feeling of the music and connecting to that.
Dance for some people can bring a feeling of joy and freedom

Sweetbeansandmochi · 04/07/2025 23:44

I feel most alive when I dance and it makes me feel a connection to the music -and I always have loved it.

narcASD · 04/07/2025 23:48

I love dancing and still do, but sometimes when I sit and watch people just dancing (not a show) I feel the same, I actually laugh to myself at how silly people can look dancing, including me

Breadandsticks · 05/07/2025 00:19

I think dancing is a form of self expression and a way to connect with eachother. I watch my baby dance and find it fascinating how he claps his hands and moves around to a song, and how he has the power to make those in the room join him - it’s infectious and brings joy.

I know in operation it’s a form of release. I know when there is trauma it’s a way to release together - I saw somewhere that the one thing that increases during hardship are races/clubs and music events - go figure.

I think it’s also a form of story telling through movement.

I don’t think it is for everyone though - some have this gift some have others.

It’s like singing. I can dance the night away but can’t hold a tune - how I wish I could sing!

GigsandSkittles · 05/07/2025 01:04

@Screamingabdabz "The vertical expression of a horizontal desire" - George Bernard Shaw... think he was talking about partner dancing, though, not shoegazing!

The13thFairy · 05/07/2025 13:55

pinkglitter12 · 04/07/2025 21:33

Thats really interesting! Thank you! I wonder if thats why kissing gets less appealong the longer you've been with them?
Like i know this already? Nothing new here?

There was a 'survey' done years ago which reported that the intimate activity that married women missed the most was kissing. I'm inclined to believe this could well be true, and if it is, could it be that once intercourse is on the cards men can't really be bothered with kissing? When I've found a man attractive enough to have sex with, I have wanted and enjoyed kissing, however long we've been doing it.

ThatPeachMaker · 05/07/2025 13:57

is this free training for someones ai ?

ScratCat · 05/07/2025 14:00

TuttiFruittiSweets · 04/07/2025 23:26

Royalty don’t dance? Yes they do and badly too. Megan Markle and Harry…

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DaTNMa-2PDU

Megan’s probably the only member of the RF with any sense of rhythm, tbf. I saw her dancing when they went to Africa and she can move!