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Anyone else lost a bit of ambition now they’ve been taxed to the brink?

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Peasontoastt · 04/07/2025 19:56

I used to be extremely ambitious and was really eager to reach some sort of financial security. As a consequence, I’m in what’s considered a highly paid career, I work hard and it took me many years to train.

Just as I paid off my student loan (which took many years), I then had a baby and returned to work to be stuck with the childcare dilemma. I struggled through that phase and have come out the other side but being taxed so much, no child benefit, still paying for nursery even though dd has ‘free’ hours now. It’s likely that savings are going to be bashed next, so what’s the point in even putting anything aside when there’s likely going to be a 4K cap on ISAs.

I used to feel so ambitious and of course I know money isn’t everything, not by a long shot. But having worked my way up the ladder and with huge responsibilities only to feel penalised financially for doing so…what is the point? Yes I have more financial security than someone claiming benefits but equally, I am not being flippant when I say a few years of resting and being at home and being frugal is starting to seem so much more attractive. Has anyone else started feeling this way? I feel taken the piss out of by every financial angle!

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the7Vabo · 04/07/2025 21:22

NetZeroZealot · 04/07/2025 21:20

I run my own business and had the biggest VAT bill I’ve had probably since I started 10 years ago. And I was pleased - because it’s a sign of the growth & success of my company.

And I think that’s a great attitude and I’d agree with you if I could be sure it would be spent prudently and on worthy causes. That isn’t a guarantee.

TwoFeralKids · 04/07/2025 21:23

IPreferShoesToIssues · 04/07/2025 20:45

Is there anything you can do to mitigate higher taxes? For example, I put as much as my co. pension will let me and I pay less tax as a result.

I’m not paying any more tax if I can avoid it.

I’ve also taken my DC out of private school after the vitriol targeted at parents. That’s £6K+ the government are refunding me yearly. Feels good to get something back for a change rather than being rinsed.

Edited

Could have sent them to state from the start then you would have benefited from it. 🤷

guerdyguatd · 04/07/2025 21:23

I don’t have an issue with high taxes if the corresponding services are good.

But that's what people are upset about. People will be content with high tax if the burden is more equal & the services improve.

peanutbuttertoasty · 04/07/2025 21:24

Chungai · 04/07/2025 21:17

There isn't a violin small enough

No doubt got you hand out for other peoples cash though eh?

soupyspoon · 04/07/2025 21:24

guerdyguatd · 04/07/2025 21:17

@NevergonnagiveHughup

Reading mumsnet it’s like people want the services but don’t want to pay. I can’t figure how that works.

Higher rate tax payers are paying though & not getting the services. That's one of the issues.

What servcies are we not getting?

IPreferShoesToIssues · 04/07/2025 21:24

SunnyFTM567 · 04/07/2025 20:03

Go abroad. We moved offshore in 2022 partly because of Covid. Always intended to come back. Now I have a baby, our parents are begging us to come back. But I'm looking at the tax in the UK, the cost of childcare, the salaries, the healthcare....no way. I gave birth in private healthcare, my son has a paedetrician that knows him since birth, and I make more money than I ever could for the hours I work in particular. I am home at 5pm every day!

Look offshore. Plenty of places to go to.

I lived and worked overseas for 17 years. When we left my DH earned 30k in his first overseas job, and me much less. 17 years later our salaries overseas sky rocketed and we paid 12% in one, and 15% tax in the other. The only other tax I remember was road tax. VAT was 7% and 5%. You didn’t need a car as public transport was on time and very frequent and cheap as chips.

DH and I had a great quality of life over there and saved a lot of money.

The UK is a very high tax country. On top of income tax you have NI, road tax, council tax, 20% VAT 😮 and basically if it moves, it’s taxed. You don’t realise it till you’ve lived somewhere else.

High taxes, high stress, high bills, long commutes on a crap network and poor services. It’s a shit show.

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 04/07/2025 21:24

The most first world of all first world issues. Lot of people work hard for their careers and will never be high earners because they’re in vital jobs that serve the public. Nurses, teachers, AHPs, social workers to name a few. People in high flying careers are not more worthy because they’ve chosen a financially lucrative career over a public serving one. But these people in those serving careers need to be paid a liveable wage and the only way to do that is to tax the rich. Sorry.

Wowwee1234 · 04/07/2025 21:25

MorningLarkEchoes · 04/07/2025 20:12

Yes. I’m a qualified accountant and my DH is a web developer. I struggle to save more than £400 per month after bills and costs of children. My husband has next to no savings. We haven’t been on a holiday abroad for over 10 years.

You do know saving £400 a month is well above avearage? Even having savings is not as widespread as you might think.

And if you can save £400/month you can go on holiday. Just not a 5 grand one

EasternStandard · 04/07/2025 21:25

MugPlate · 04/07/2025 21:18

I mean, I don’t want to burst any bubbles but…
we’re going to be taxed more in autumn…

It really shouldn’t be the case. I hope the GE lie bites if so.

guerdyguatd · 04/07/2025 21:25

Because overall we are a low tax economy and I dont think higher earners pay 'too much tax'.

higher earners on PAYE are taxed in line with other European countries though @soupyspoon? How much more should they be taxed?

TheHateIsNotGood · 04/07/2025 21:25

@peanutbuttertoasty - of course, by 'bennies' I'm guessing you mean some local vernacular rather than benzedrine, also called 'bennies'.

The main thing that will get people off 'bennies' is a wide distribution of meaningful employment. We used to make actual things that people use, manufacturing, and made some very good stuff too.

Many people just want to be paid to make good stuff again and not be forced into 'service' industries which produce very little and rely on cheap shit imported from abroad made by slave labour to 'subsidize' that economy.

peanutbuttertoasty · 04/07/2025 21:26

I too wouldn’t begrudge paying tax if it weren’t being absolutely spaffed up the wall and handed to grifters.

guerdyguatd · 04/07/2025 21:26

The most first world of all first world issues. Lot of people work hard for their careers and will never be high earners because they’re in vital jobs that serve the public. Nurses, teachers, AHPs, social workers to name a few.

nurses & teachers are getting pulled into the higher tax bracket...

JustPinkFinch · 04/07/2025 21:26

NetZeroZealot · 04/07/2025 21:20

I run my own business and had the biggest VAT bill I’ve had probably since I started 10 years ago. And I was pleased - because it’s a sign of the growth & success of my company.

My accountant tries this HMRC motivational bollocks with me (as an absorber). Doesn't work.

I'd much rather be reinvesting that money in growth.

peanutbuttertoasty · 04/07/2025 21:27

TheHateIsNotGood · 04/07/2025 21:25

@peanutbuttertoasty - of course, by 'bennies' I'm guessing you mean some local vernacular rather than benzedrine, also called 'bennies'.

The main thing that will get people off 'bennies' is a wide distribution of meaningful employment. We used to make actual things that people use, manufacturing, and made some very good stuff too.

Many people just want to be paid to make good stuff again and not be forced into 'service' industries which produce very little and rely on cheap shit imported from abroad made by slave labour to 'subsidize' that economy.

Yeah much better to sit on the sofa and get other people to fund your ethical choices

soupyspoon · 04/07/2025 21:27

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 04/07/2025 21:24

The most first world of all first world issues. Lot of people work hard for their careers and will never be high earners because they’re in vital jobs that serve the public. Nurses, teachers, AHPs, social workers to name a few. People in high flying careers are not more worthy because they’ve chosen a financially lucrative career over a public serving one. But these people in those serving careers need to be paid a liveable wage and the only way to do that is to tax the rich. Sorry.

Most of those on your list will be in the higher tax rate bracket, particularly in London and particularly where they are locums.

FairyCakesAndSprinklez · 04/07/2025 21:28

I get what you mean. I’m currently on £45k and have just had a job interview for a £56k a year role. If I get the new role then I’ll be a higher rate tax payer so it won’t be as big a salary rise as I’d hoped for 😢 Then, if Rachel Reeves has her way, I’ll lose even more in Autumn. It’s a horrible situation for everyone really.

EasternStandard · 04/07/2025 21:29

TheHateIsNotGood · 04/07/2025 21:25

@peanutbuttertoasty - of course, by 'bennies' I'm guessing you mean some local vernacular rather than benzedrine, also called 'bennies'.

The main thing that will get people off 'bennies' is a wide distribution of meaningful employment. We used to make actual things that people use, manufacturing, and made some very good stuff too.

Many people just want to be paid to make good stuff again and not be forced into 'service' industries which produce very little and rely on cheap shit imported from abroad made by slave labour to 'subsidize' that economy.

When you say make stuff what are you thinking exactly? A factory line, people want that?

Crikeyalmighty · 04/07/2025 21:30

Thing is we say we are a low tax economy - but not when you factor in other things- when we lived in Denmark child care was cheap, no NI , no council tax and an awful lot was covered off for your higher tax dollar,

TheHateIsNotGood · 04/07/2025 21:30

@Peasontoastt ok my dear, assume much I think. Best you stay on your high horse feeling the masses swirl beneath you as your tax bill will be increasing soon.

Or off you trot to other climes.

starfall1 · 04/07/2025 21:31

soupyspoon · 04/07/2025 20:02

We are a low tax economy

Low-tax economy compared to whom? Continental Europe? Those high-tax, high-benefit models are declining rapidly—and things are only likely to get worse.

the7Vabo · 04/07/2025 21:33

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 04/07/2025 21:24

The most first world of all first world issues. Lot of people work hard for their careers and will never be high earners because they’re in vital jobs that serve the public. Nurses, teachers, AHPs, social workers to name a few. People in high flying careers are not more worthy because they’ve chosen a financially lucrative career over a public serving one. But these people in those serving careers need to be paid a liveable wage and the only way to do that is to tax the rich. Sorry.

I’ve zero issue with paying public servants. But let’s not be naive all taxes collected are not spent paying for services such as nursing.

lifeonmars100 · 04/07/2025 21:33

guerdyguatd · 04/07/2025 21:19

A surprising amount of people spend 30-50% of their disposable income on holidays.

That will be skewed by older people though as younger people won't have that much disposable after housing & potential childcare costs.

I'm an older person and there is no way I could afford that, older people are as varied a demographic as any other. Yes, more of us are home owners and I have repeatedly said on here that I think the current housing situation for younger people is horrific. I have not been on holiday for a few years as I have to save up.

CaptainFuture · 04/07/2025 21:34

Spartahori · 04/07/2025 21:16

Yep in Scotland we are taxed to 69p per £ in order to pay extra top ups for those who’ve never worked. I wouldn’t mind if the tax went on improving public services, but it’s instead spend on freebies to the workshy in order to keep them voting SNP- which they do.

But we're all so so.happy to do so...wee Nic Nock said we were too. We're the lucky ones getting to work... imagine spending your day getting up when you wanted, doing what you wanted, having your life choices paid for by others.... heartfelt tragedy....😭😭

Sunbeam01 · 04/07/2025 21:35

Quality of life in this country has gone down the pan.

Over 35 per cent of the population pay no tax at all.

Let that sink in before having a go at the OP with all the sanctimonious shit.

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