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Anyone else lost a bit of ambition now they’ve been taxed to the brink?

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Peasontoastt · 04/07/2025 19:56

I used to be extremely ambitious and was really eager to reach some sort of financial security. As a consequence, I’m in what’s considered a highly paid career, I work hard and it took me many years to train.

Just as I paid off my student loan (which took many years), I then had a baby and returned to work to be stuck with the childcare dilemma. I struggled through that phase and have come out the other side but being taxed so much, no child benefit, still paying for nursery even though dd has ‘free’ hours now. It’s likely that savings are going to be bashed next, so what’s the point in even putting anything aside when there’s likely going to be a 4K cap on ISAs.

I used to feel so ambitious and of course I know money isn’t everything, not by a long shot. But having worked my way up the ladder and with huge responsibilities only to feel penalised financially for doing so…what is the point? Yes I have more financial security than someone claiming benefits but equally, I am not being flippant when I say a few years of resting and being at home and being frugal is starting to seem so much more attractive. Has anyone else started feeling this way? I feel taken the piss out of by every financial angle!

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EasternStandard · 05/07/2025 07:32

Valeriekat · 05/07/2025 07:23

Smug AND priggish!

Agree

Valeriekat · 05/07/2025 07:33

TeenLifeMum · 04/07/2025 20:25

Controversially, I feel it's a privilege to earn well and be able to give back to society more than you take. But then I have no desire to have a flash car or massive house. Who the fuck needs 14 bedrooms even if you can afford it. However, living a nice life knowing you’ve given to society and helping others? Much better achievement than a flash car imo.

Your halo is super shiny!

EasternStandard · 05/07/2025 07:33

goldfishbowl2025 · 05/07/2025 07:28

I see it @PeasontoasttI have many cousins in their 30s (my mum is one of 8 and Dad one of 5) who have moved to Canada, Dubai, Singapore, Australia and India. It’s sad as their jobs range from mechanics, IT, Medicine, recruitment, electrician etc so really useful jobs we need in our economy. They love their lives though. The UK doesn’t have the prestige it used to have, it can’t offer the same conditions of living for this age group as some other countries.

BUT I think they’ll all come back one day (least I hope so!).

It is sad. I hope we can get back to a better place which attracts people instead of this.

ETA I mean generally

Gagcaa · 05/07/2025 07:35

DH is the main breadwinner in the family and is still motivated to provide for our DC. But damn he hates seeing how much he gets taxed. It's truly horrible.

If you're physically healthy, get a job. That's not enough, get a second job. Do Uber/Uber eats, have a weekend job. Do tutoring, do whatever. Don't rely on the state.

Lioncub2020 · 05/07/2025 07:41

I guess from the thread Taylor has it right when she said, "Haters are gonna Hate, Hate Hate, Hate, and Takers are gonna, Take, Take Take, Take"

JustPinkFinch · 05/07/2025 07:41

MikeRafone · 05/07/2025 07:23

Over half of households in the UK take more out the system than they pay in

due to wages not being high enough to find a household and government benefits being given to top up the wages given by companies. If wages were significantly higher, increase in tax would follow and less benefits would be required

So we increase the national living wage further.

At the same time we reduce corp tax, remove employer NIC, set the VAT threshold to £250,000, allow business to let staff go who are crap at the job (up to 2 years) and generally reduce the bureaucracy around employment. We incentivise employers.

We could really do with a property price crash too. Sure it would affect me, but it's for the greater good.

Fag packet economics above - no doubt full of holes. But when I was younger I could literally blag my way into any job and I could hop around like there was no tomorrow if I had wanted to. Reading all the threads lately, that no longer seems to be an option.

The path we currently follow is not working and the future is bleak.

Valeriekat · 05/07/2025 07:42

columnatedruinsdomino · 04/07/2025 20:44

It was only about 40 years ago when the basic rate income tax was 33% and the top rate c.85% iirc. Ypu're living the dream now

Yes and that directly led to the "brain drain". Also property was affordable, the NHS broadly worked and people didn't worry about their pensions. I think it was nearer 50 years ago.

TeenagersAngst · 05/07/2025 07:44

Lilactimes · 04/07/2025 21:55

I agree with what you’re saying @TeenagersAngst but just querying whether 20k salary in the 80’s was really that much in today’s numbers??
My dad was on 25k back then and I never got a grant he had to pay it - our house cost 25k too. I knew he was on good money and my mum never worked but he was still very careful - didn’t feel like a 250k Pa equivalent salary!

From Wikipedia: In 1974 the top tax rate on earned income was again raised, to 83%. With the investment income surcharge this raised the overall top rate on investment income to 98%, the highest permanent rate since the war. This applied to incomes over £20,000 (equivalent to £263,269 in 2023 terms).[3]In 1974, around 750,000 people paid the higher (but not necessarily the top) rate of income tax.

You can also use an online calculator and it gave me a similar figure.

Taxation in the United Kingdom - Wikipedia

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taxation_in_the_United_Kingdom#cite_note-inflation-UK-3

TeenagersAngst · 05/07/2025 07:46

Lilactimes · 04/07/2025 21:55

I agree with what you’re saying @TeenagersAngst but just querying whether 20k salary in the 80’s was really that much in today’s numbers??
My dad was on 25k back then and I never got a grant he had to pay it - our house cost 25k too. I knew he was on good money and my mum never worked but he was still very careful - didn’t feel like a 250k Pa equivalent salary!

It wasn’t actually in the 80s, it was the 70s, so your post was slightly inaccurate in that regard. Thatcher reduced the top rate in 1979 to 60% and kept reducing it thereafter.

MikeRafone · 05/07/2025 07:49

Valeriekat · 05/07/2025 07:23

Smug AND priggish!

Do you have a reason you don’t want to contribute, or see contributing as a negative?

Rhinohides · 05/07/2025 07:49

Ilovelifeverymuch · 05/07/2025 01:56

Hahaha what a weird perspective 😂

Please don’t tell the OP to get over it, instead re read what she is saying and think it through. She doesn’t qualify for benefits or additional support. Now think about how the cost of living has affected your life and apply that to the OP.
she willl also be struggling financially. I live with someone but if I did not I would be struggling. As my earlier post indicated, due to tax, overtime is no longer worth it and neither is promotion, again due to TAXATION.
The OP is clearly a smart lady, if there was a means of getting over it do you not think she would spend her energy on that instead of posting here?

MidnightPatrol · 05/07/2025 07:50

TeenagersAngst · 05/07/2025 07:44

From Wikipedia: In 1974 the top tax rate on earned income was again raised, to 83%. With the investment income surcharge this raised the overall top rate on investment income to 98%, the highest permanent rate since the war. This applied to incomes over £20,000 (equivalent to £263,269 in 2023 terms).[3]In 1974, around 750,000 people paid the higher (but not necessarily the top) rate of income tax.

You can also use an online calculator and it gave me a similar figure.

With the combination of loss of tax and benefits, a family with two young kids will now be facing a 100% rate on income between £100-145k ish.

Already causing a huge impact behaviourally, and for some reason the government has nothing to say on the matter.

The 62% rate (tax + NI) between £100-125k was already one of the highest rates on earth.

Rhinohides · 05/07/2025 07:53

And yeah, this is written by someone who worked full time and when n her own had to live on chickpeas and tinned tomatoes, diluted milk with water and could only afford a bedroom in a shared flat, again due to TAXATION.
There is a clu, yes, and it’s membership is not denoted by the level of tax you pay

guerdyguatd · 05/07/2025 07:54

The government need to alter the tax bands to widen the number of people paying tax. The pool of net contributors is too small. It is unfair on us.

Lower earners should pay more tax but a big problem is housing which eats up a lot of income (across all income bands). It's a mess.

Valeriekat · 05/07/2025 07:55

the7Vabo · 04/07/2025 21:22

And I think that’s a great attitude and I’d agree with you if I could be sure it would be spent prudently and on worthy causes. That isn’t a guarantee.

But surely the VAT is passed on to you customers/clients so you dont actually pay it yourself?

Lilactimes · 05/07/2025 07:57

the7Vabo · 04/07/2025 21:08

I get the OP’s thinking. If you earn over 100k you’ve generally taken on quite a lot of responsibility. And you are in a way being penalised for that.

Whereas someone who doesn’t take on that extra responsibility ends up in the same place or perhaps better than you money wise.

Presumably with more responsibility ces more fulfilment and freedom in your job too.

guerdyguatd · 05/07/2025 07:58

We pay very similar rates to the developed European countries.

Higher earners do but lower & middle don't. Plus you need to look at taxes as a whole & cost of living. The UK has very high housing costs & childcare costs which impacts how much tax people can pay.

Bushmillsbabe · 05/07/2025 07:58

Darragon · 04/07/2025 20:16

Yes OP I feel the same. I'm emigrating to somewhere that actually appreciates my job role, has room for upwards mobility, pays people in my sector a fair wage, gives childcare and medical as part of the package, and won't tax my arse off when I get paid what I should for the mandatory 70+ hour weeks.

I'm not a higher rate taxpayer and I still don't get any kind of warm fuzzy doright feels for "doing my bit" when the council charges to empty my brown bin now, when the police won't come out to a car theft and even if they do, they don't ever look for the culprit, where grooming has been covered up by people paid with my tax money, where useless PPE was bought with my money and dumped when found to be useless, where schools are not given the money for the payrises they're mandated to give teachers, and where you cannot get a GP appointment even if you ring at 8am because the lines go down every day for 2 hours without fail from the number of calls they get. What the turquoise fuck are we supposed to feel happy to pay tax for?!

I think that's what grates on people. If we were paying lots of tax but seeing decent healthcare, excellent schools, an effective police response etc it would feel OK. But what we have is a crumbling nhs, struggling schools and people knowing they can get away with low level crime as no resources to go after them.
4k council bill (2 months of my post tax salary) on a very average house, and we have to pay extra for our garden waste to be collected, on top of significant income tax bill, paying stamp duty for the 'privilege' of having somewhere to live, VAT on most things, it does feel never ending. I work part time as working full time doesn't earn me much more - which is madness.

MikeRafone · 05/07/2025 07:59

guerdyguatd · 05/07/2025 07:54

The government need to alter the tax bands to widen the number of people paying tax. The pool of net contributors is too small. It is unfair on us.

Lower earners should pay more tax but a big problem is housing which eats up a lot of income (across all income bands). It's a mess.

If you tax low earners on income, they then don’t spend and as pointed out it’s a large % on lower income not paying very much income tax - if they stop spending then the economy grinds to a halt

guerdyguatd · 05/07/2025 08:00

@MikeRafone how come they tax lower and middle earners more in many other European countries?

MidnightPatrol · 05/07/2025 08:01

Valeriekat · 05/07/2025 07:55

But surely the VAT is passed on to you customers/clients so you dont actually pay it yourself?

Makes you less competitive if you have to start charging 20% extra.

Ireolu · 05/07/2025 08:03

I do less hours now. Reduce the stress and can be around for school runs and sorting house out. Clearly has an impact on salary and pension contributions. But have so much more balance, happier and a major one is we eat better as I am around to sort food. Might be something to consider.

Many threads with people stating they hate work/working. It's a general feeling as salaries in this country are low. Earners in the top 1% in the US vary state by state but even the lower ones dwarf what is considered 'top 1%' in the UK. The incentive to work to 'live the dream' is not really there. Is the dream acheivable here? Work places can be toxic/unwelcoming places. Welfare bill swells. Some just don't see the point of working for small amounts of money/respect/job satisfaction

JustPinkFinch · 05/07/2025 08:03

Valeriekat · 05/07/2025 07:55

But surely the VAT is passed on to you customers/clients so you dont actually pay it yourself?

Many business can't remain competitive by adding VAT so absorb and pay the VAT themselves when they register. Especially service based businesses with a low amount of vatable expenses. It's been discussed already. The idea that VAT is paid by the consumer is sometimes true, sometimes a total myth.

For consumers that do pay the VAT as an extra. It's also a tax that is not levied based on income. So someone earning £20K a year is charged the same amount of VAT on item X as someone earning £200K a year.

Bushmillsbabe · 05/07/2025 08:06

MikeRafone · 05/07/2025 07:23

Over half of households in the UK take more out the system than they pay in

due to wages not being high enough to find a household and government benefits being given to top up the wages given by companies. If wages were significantly higher, increase in tax would follow and less benefits would be required

If wages were higher everything would cost more, and in real terms most people would be no better off. And thats not to say I don't think people deserve better wages, they definitely do.
But if we pay state employed staff better our taxes have to go up, and private businesses will have to charge more. This may then lead to people eating out etc less, businesses closing and staff loosing jobs. There isn't any easy solution.

ClairDeLaLune · 05/07/2025 08:06

How do you think things like schools and hospitals are paid for?

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