Is she batshit?

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My friends (best mate of decades and her husband ) have a party every year, usually there’s loads of kids there. It’s about three or four hours drive away from where I live.

This year they have decided no kids as they say they want everybody to be able to have fun and that it’s going to be very boozy. I have no one to look after DC and so told them I would not be able to attend. My friend is v upset with me

They said I can bring my DC, but no one else can , so that I can attend, obviously I don’t want to because it would be shit for my DC and I don’t want them at a really boozy adult party anyway, especially when usually there’s loads of other kids running around and they have a lot of fun. Not to mention everyone else who has had to sort childcare or not to go.

She’s now said they are not going to throw one of these parties again and it’s talking about wanting to move away because “everyone is so flaky and rubbish”
I think she’s being bat shit, but she’s really upset with me, like the whole childfree wedding thing, I think you just have to take it on the chin if you’re gonna introduce rules like this and people don’t come to your party. What am I missing?!

I almost spat my cereal all over my keyboard at this comment 😂

no. If you change your "rules", and people can't come? you accept it gracefully with "oh that's a shame, maybe another time" and act like a grown up.

I'm surprised the party woman is getting such a slating on here, no?

Maybe she just thinks she will enjoy the party she is throwing more if there are no kids.

She shouldn't pressure you to attend tho I agree - what form has the pressure taken? Hinting, or full on explicit demands?

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I remember I don't think anyone is criticising her for having the party she wants, only for being unpleasant to the OP

Name change nabbed!

She's threatening to move because of this party that you can't attend?🙄
Let her get on with it and ask for her new address.
Batshit on so many levels, wonder what her h says about it.

I'd have told her to fuck off then blocked her sorry ass.

I love our Madge, she's fab!😍

Ha. It does sound exactly as it was typed, and if you have never seen it spelt (prima donna) then a school boy error may occur.

She probably thinks if there's loads of kids there that she can't get into the groove and celebrate 😂

If she has no children but has always invited other people’s to her parties all these years, that’s really very obliging of her. Perhaps she doesn’t feel appreciated or just wants a proper grown up party.

I really want the laugh react back!

Eh? I seem to be missing something, as I can’t see what she’s done wrong. She hosts a big party every year, which is incredibly hospitable. This year she decides ‘no children’. You decide not to go (who on earth can go through parenthood without having one single babysitter??). She suggests you bring your kids, and you still say no because it won’t be fun enough for them.
And it’s the host who’s being a
prima donna?! Bonkers 😆

I think there’s two parts to this.

some people are responding solely based on ‘is she ok to have an adult party’ to which the answer would be ‘of course she is’

and some are basing their response on her response to people saying no .

the first bit is absolutely understandable- especially given the context of her amazing hosting generosity for years - the second is weird.

but I think a poster up thread got it right when they pointed out that she has accommodated you all to an amazing extent for years, she asks for something back, and you all say no.

She’s sad because people only want to come to her party if they can bring their children. Sometimes you would like things not to revolve around kids. She thought maybe after years of accommodating the kids she could try having an adults only party. But you (and probably others too) have said they won’t come.

Don’t you see why that might be upsetting?

It's the new chester draws!

Whaaaat!

Why dont YOU host the party if you want to dictate the vibe?

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I would guess she thought it would great to have an adult party and all her friends would also love a night with no kids.

OP almost certainly isn't the only one to have politely declined as either people can't get childcare, or don't actually want to go to a boozy party and preferred the kids version.

So now the friend's nose is out of joint as she isn't the queen of parties she thought she was.

What does ‘people can’t get childcare’ actually mean though? Given that babysitters exist it actually means ‘dont want to pay for childcare’ . And that’s after she will have forked out hundreds or thousands over the years on other people’s kids.

having read this whole thread, I’m beginning to feel rather sorry for the friend.

She's nuts yeah.
I'm going to a friend's child free birthday weekend soon and the childcare is costing me 500 quid.
It's been planned a year in advance tho and I factored in costs.. it's an important birthday.
Childcare is so expensive and it's difficult to find someone decent who you trust.
And no one would want to take their kids to an adult only party where everyone's pissed. It's just tense
She massively lacks empathy

She sounds batshit to me!

No, she suddenly realised how her hospitality has been taken for granted over the years.

Pre-Madonna - when the dinosaurs roamed the earth..