AIBU to feel so stupid and sad and cross? TW abortion

[RoastyToasty123]

I went into peri-menopause about 6 months ago, and after a delay on starting HRT as my GP would not prescribe due to family cancer, I started about 8 weeks ago and I feel a million times better - it even stopped my periods - result! (Spoiler-not a result)

DH was told many years ago that he was likely infertile, and we have not used contraception nor have I fallen pregnant in the 10+ years we have been together. A decade. He is mid 50s, I am 48.

and pregnant. I am about 6 weeks. I have adult DC so I sort of recognised the feeling,
and took a test this evening. I made a furtive trip to Tesco and couldn’t even remember where the tests would be on the shelves.

we have talked, I’ve cried. A lot. I know what needs to be done, and we are 100% on the same page. I absolutely do not want another child or pregnancy, but I just think I’m in complete shock.

how can this have happened? After 10 years? (DH was previously married a while back and again, no pregnancies.)

Oh op, I’m so sorry. This could have been so many of us. You do what is right for you. Take care of yourself.

Life did what life sometimes does, and I no longer have a decision or action to take.

I’m only updating to say the very biggest thank you to everyone who posted support and kindness. I can’t express how you helped me and what a difference it made over the past few days. Thank you so much.

Ah, @RoastyToasty123 I'm sorry for what you have been through but I am glad you didn't have to make a decision in the end. Take it easy and take care of yourself 💐

Even though it’s good news in your situation, I know it’s still hard to see it like that. Easier to have the decision taken out of your hands. Take some time to recover. Be kind to yourself. Have a duvet day. Big hugs.

Take care of yourself OP and maybe you already have but seek medical care to confirm what's happened and that everything is clear.

I know someone who had a large bleed, assumed the worst but didn't confirm, period didn't return, positive test, thought pregnant again, went to '12 week scan' and was over 20 weeks. Must have been something like a subchorionic hematoma. Also retained material can cause sepsis and other problems.