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AIBU?

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To be absolutely livid

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johnso · 24/05/2008 22:03

Ds's 8th b'day tomorrow
We are having a party
The house is a mess
I had to take the boys to a party today and Dh wanted to come but I asked him to stay at home and tidy up
I get home, it's a bloody mess!!
He says he fell asleep- how irresponsible(he has been on nights but wanted to stay up today to get in sync with us for the bank holiday weekend)
He is doing it now after I had a go at him.
Men, eh?

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onepieceoflollipop · 24/05/2008 22:29

OH I have been "had" again. (feel stupid emoticon)

mrsleroyjethrogibbs · 24/05/2008 22:31

indeed. i think johnso is a man.......

RaspberrySheep · 24/05/2008 22:31

Johnso, I could be wrong here, but aren't you the author of a couple of other provocative / 'trollish' threads? Like the one where you made your DH go shopping on his Birthday and possibly the one about leaving DH on a haunted island and the one about cancelling his paystation as he had drawn a face in tomato sauce on your carpet?

You seem to yake pleasure in a bit of man bashing?

RaspberrySheep · 24/05/2008 22:32

yake = take

GrimmaTheNome · 24/05/2008 22:35

Of course if the sexes had been reversed the situation would have been entirely different. DH buggers off leaving knackered wife to clean up and expects it all done when he snaps his fingers... hm, that would never happen would it?

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johnso · 24/05/2008 22:36

Raspberry sheep- there was some controversy over his birthday, i hold my hands up
I would be livid if he drew a face in tomato sauce on my carpet but that wasn't me.

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johnso · 24/05/2008 22:37

Yes, Gimma. I have a completely non sexist relationship

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findtheriver · 24/05/2008 22:39

complete non relationship you mean

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johnso · 24/05/2008 22:41

I wouldn't say that, but we do have a points systen for sex

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micci25 · 24/05/2008 22:46

johnso if this is for real you need to start appreciating your dh more!

i too asked my dp to clean up today. yesterday i rearranged all the furniture in the sitting room (alone dp was fiddling with his own house even though he admitted that there isnt much he can do there as he is not a builder) rearranging the furniture involved emptying the toy corner and i did not have enough time to put all the toys away.

today i went went to visit my mum in hospital after a v serious operation, i did not ask dp tp babysit coz i knew he wouldnt (he rarely has the kids alone) but i did ask if he could put the toys back or wash up.

he didnt! his excuse, he didnt realise how long he had been on the wii and then he got hungry! he still hasnt. he has a bath and went to watch the boxing instead. me and dd1 did it while he was on the pc (i was also helping dd1 make a card for her nan at the same as cleaning)

was i livid? no because i expected it! he rarely helps around the house or withy kids!

what i am trying to say is just be appreciative that you have a dh who is willing to do his bit and not be upset that he needs to sleep! every one needs sleep.

UniversallyChallenged · 24/05/2008 22:47

hold on a cotton picking minute young Johnso- you sometimes let him sleep after a shift AND you have sex?? Stop it now - you are putting the rest of us wimmim to shame

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johnso · 24/05/2008 22:48

UC-Ilkie the way you think!
TBH he only gets his way if he has done a lot of housework that week

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hunkermunker · 24/05/2008 22:50

A points system for sex?

Where do you swipe your reward card?

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johnso · 24/05/2008 22:52

Oh very good HM
But let me tell you it works
He gets 5 points per chore and when he gets to a hundred he can have a quickie

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onepieceoflollipop · 24/05/2008 22:53

So if he continues to misbehave in the dreadful manner you have described he won't get so much as a bj before Christmas?

hunkermunker · 24/05/2008 22:54

If it works for you then who am I to say how very, very peculiar?

micci25 · 24/05/2008 22:54

maybe if tried that one i might get some help in here? actually no i just think i would have a v moody and dp and a v messy house! {grin}

so what do you get with your points? or dont you have to do anything but be waited on hand and foot?

Elasticwoman · 24/05/2008 22:56

Hunker, I thought you were off the scene.

Must have got the wrong end of the stick.

Johnso, have you ever worked nights? Apart from caring for a small baby that is?

As the Good Book says: The spirit was willing but the flesh was weak. Give him a break.

onepieceoflollipop · 24/05/2008 22:56

My dh wanted an "early night" - I suggested that if he could do the following before midnight then I might think about it...

-clean all the windows, dust skirting boards, peel potatoes for tomorrow, wash kitchen floor and hoover my car.

SmugColditz · 24/05/2008 22:57

You can't be angry with him for falling asleep if he has been on nights, that's like him being furious at you for falling asleep at 4 am

LyraSilvertongue · 24/05/2008 22:57

This has to be a wind-up. Really.

Elasticwoman · 24/05/2008 22:57

How many points does it take to earn a long slow ?

(you didn't know I knew such words, did you?)

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johnso · 24/05/2008 22:58

One piece- he knows I have a steel will for holding out

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Elasticwoman · 24/05/2008 22:59

Why won't this site let me do more than two asterisks?

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johnso · 24/05/2008 22:59

EW- He can save up 500 for an all nighter

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