Is this neglect?

[Marii97]

I was with my friend today and has a nearly 3 year old in nursery. The nursery rang and said they don’t have any sun cream in for her, can they use nursery sun cream? She told them no, she doesn’t need it. Please don’t apply any. She then told me afterwards she doesn’t like to use sun cream. I came with her to pick up her DD after we had done shopping and all her arms and under her eyes/cheeks were burnt and already peeling and looked swollen under her eyes.

She IS a fucking idiot and a neglectful parent. The nursery is also at fault. Poor little kid, with no normal adults around to look out for her.

Your friend is a fucking idiot. There are mineral sunscreens out that that don't get absorbed. Also, if she is going to be picky about that I hope that all of the cleaning stuff she has in her home, for bodies and household cleaning are all natural.

Your friend is stupid. Poor child.

The Sheep mentality is getting out of hand, “some randoms said it was true on social media, so it must be true” 🙄. I’d rather listen to my dermatologist who says it should be worn every day.
Poor child. 100% neglect. Would rather her child destroy her skin so she can follow the “trend”.
It would be interesting to know whether all of these people jumping on the no sunscreen bandwagon also don’t wash their face, moisturise or wear make up, because all of it contains chemicals.

I never burn and never tan. Never have and am in my 70's. I still use a sun cream though because I don't want skin cancer. I am a bit shocked that the nursery let the child burn though.

also everything in the known universe, including us, is made from chemicals!

Very neglectful on the nursery’s part yes, your friend is a total moron but the nursery shouldn’t have allowed the child to be in the son with no sun cream and certainly not long enough to burn. That kid has no hope

It’s because skin cancer is on the rise, but what they don’t bother to research is why. Most people being diagnosed are over 70 and it’s because they didn’t wear sun cream or cover up as children. But people believe it’s sun cream and sunglasses. It only takes five minutes to do the research but they’d rather believe Facebook.

Where has it been proven?

Totally crazy from both mum and nursery.

A good nursery would have never have allowed her out in the direct sun without protection such as a wide brimmed hat and keeping her in the. shade and her mother is ridiculous not using cream because of conspiracy theories.

so so so cruel - poor child - totally let down by all the adults in her life here as apparently not one of them has a brain cell . Utterly disgusting behaviour from all the adults involved and totally is neglect from them all.

One of my Dc works in a nursery this has apparently become common, the nursery don't know if it is a trend or what is going on, it absolutely is neglect if you allow your child to be sun burned.

There is no evidence that sunscreen causes cancer. The chemicals you are referring to have been approved as safe. There is no evidence of what you’re saying.

Which sunscreens and where has it been proven?

I'm very surprised the nursery didn't call the parent to say they needed to collect the child because they couldnt ensure safe outside time and couldn't keep her inside because of ratios. Cancer risk aside, sunburn is horribly painful and the damage often continues after you're out of the sun. That poor kid.

Oh this is the stupid woo end of modern motherhood that has destroyed US public health under RFK jr. Ge is supported by these fools.

Oh maybe it is this why it is dangerously "on trend"

Do you know what causes skin cancer....the sun! Sun cream is far less harmful than sunburn, sunstroke, dehydration.
The parent is a moron who should be reported for neglect, the nursery should be reported for allowing a child to burn.

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Blistering doesn’t happen in a couple of hours nor does peeling. Just saying.

I have a high risk of developing cancer due to a condition I have and my highly regarded dermatologist says it’s essential it is worn every day.

One day “they” will say water is cancer causing and all of the people who get sucked into this nonsense will dehydrate to death and stink!

@Marii97 did you say the child was lethargic as well as burned? If so, neglect aside, that is a symptom of heat stroke which can be fatal in a young child. If you’re still there / close by can you check on them? If still hot, strip them down to undies and sponge with cool, not cold, water, get fluid with rehydration tablets into them and get medical advice.

And yes, it’s neglect. And the bloody nursery needs a kick up the proverbial for letting the child out without sun cream in 30+ heat. My DD is in her 20s but had to have a hat, cream and/or long sleeves when in nursery in the summer months and we’re in a place that rarely goes above 25°.

The nursery are crap too. Poor kid.

Fine for the parent not to want to use sunscreen (some children are genuinely allergic, some people (me! yesterday!) are so sun-sensitive that they burn even wearing 8-hour factor 50 if they are outside at midday.

But if you aren’t using suncream, and even if you are tbh, you shouldn’t be out in the sun all day. I would hold nursery 100% responsible for this - they should have kept her in the shade.

DS’s nursery had a massive sail they put up and kept the children under between 10am-4pm in summer - there was water play and construction toys and painting outside, and they ate lunch outside. But not in the full glare of the midday sun. We put suncream on him (and a hat and a UV top) but even if we hadn’t I don’t think he would have burned because nursery were so careful.

I can almost understand that someone might have read something and decided that suncream is toxic.
Not providing a sunhat to a small child is pretty negligent of the mother and the nursery though. I think I feel more shocked at the nursery leaving a small child out in that with zero protection. They must have seen her actually turning red...

Maybe they didn't!! If she was 'already peeling' that's not from today.

Your friend is ridiculous and the nursery are at fault.

No suncream means no outside time.

Your friend needs to seek medical attention for her child given how badly she was burnt and you say she is lethargic. I would gently suggest to your friend she do that, if she doesn't that us further evidence of neglect. I would also suggest a call to children's services- may not result in an assessment but would log the concerns and if more in future shows a pattern of neglect.