I always move out the way

[Weddingbutterfly]

So today I finally said it out loud whoops, three young ladies around 16-18years old I’d say, crossed over to my side of the road. We all proceeded to start on the single width stretch of path approx five terrace houses in length.
As we neared each other I ( of course) stepped into the road, they walked single file past in silence no nod or smile etc.
As number two passed I cheerfully said” thank you girls” number three looked up and smiled to which I said “ that was a little reminder for your manners”,
she had the grace to look a little embarrassed

Bloody hell. Who’s wee’d in your cornflakes this morning?

Good for you OP.

Really really annoys me when people - of all generations - hog the whole of the pavement and expect everyone to get out of their way.
And like you i get very annoyed by lack of manners- again by all generations- when negotiating moving about in public spaces.

Well at least you gave them something to laugh about.

Good for you, stepping into the road like that.

I do laugh when people are rude when they remind other people to remember their manners.

The OP wasn’t the rude one!

She was being sarcastic and smug (I know she was smug because she felt the need to make this thread to show everyone just how much those girls ‘got it’). Totally unnecessary - mildly annoying encounter. The same way people are thinking that the girls who were taking up the pavement should stop thinking the whole world revolves around them, the same goes to the people that may need to stop for a moment to give way - it also doesn’t revolve around them. On what grounds does anyone have priority on a pavement (unless they have mobility issues).

I’m not feeling smug at all, and generally don’t care about moving out the way, my point was what’s happened to basic manners in all age ranges, as I said the third girl did look up the others wouldn’t have noticed if I’d been run over by a lorry .
maybe I’m being a Mardy pants in the hot weather

Why didn't you just stand your ground and wait for them to go single file or one of them to choose to go off the pavement? You've been totally passive aggressive here and they probably have no idea why you said what you did when you chose to throw yourself out of the way into the road. It's completely tedious walking down the street with someone like you OP because the oncoming people always expect me to get out of the way as well and I don't. Assuming it's wide enough for two people to pass, just stay on the bloody pavement and let people move around you instead of being servile then getting arsy that people didn't give you a medal for something they never asked you to do.

As in the op it was a single slab wide path, so it was single file in both directions, I moved into the road with no fuss or drama, I nearly always do as I don’t see any problems with doing so as I’m able to do so, again my point is the girls didn’t look up or after even a nod that I’d moved for them to continue there journey without stepping aside etc. I’d say basic manners are somewhat lacking here, I accept I’m moaning about a non event but appreciate others views

I’m with you OP. I often say “you’re welcome” in.a sarky tone when people don’t say thanks when I get out of their way or open doors for them. Rude people!

I agree OP. I used to be like you and give way. People are rude. Now I copy them and I'm much happier because I feel less invisible. I've clashed shoulders with people, I've had people physically walk in to me and look shocked when I didn't move for their group hogging rhe pavement. Absolute madness. I'm not stepping in to busy cycling lanes or roads for people who are completely inconsiderate. I give way to older people or prams etc. Of course, as women standing our ground, this makes it all our fault 😉

Personally, I wouldn't have expected acknowledgment in this scenario.

However, I did tell off a group of teen girls who were gathered in the Co-op doorway a while back. They were all standing on phones totally oblivious to the fact they were blocking the way out for an old man trying to get by with his shopping.

What's your AIBU?

I have been known to say, 'I can't make myself invisible' if people are walking towards me in a line, so if I move out of the way of one, I am in the way of another. These days I just keep walking in a straight line and let them peel off around me. If it's someone with a pram, a wheelchair, using a stick or walking with an elderly person I always step aside, into the road if need be, but a line of teens can move .

Yes, you're being unreasonable to "always move out of the way". Just don't! I never do and people walking in clumps will get the message and go round me instead.

the others wouldn’t have noticed if I’d been run over by a lorry.
maybe I’m being a Mardy pants in the hot weather

Nah, just really very dramatic.

In this instance for me it would depend who is facing the traffic on the road.

You should never expect anyone to go into the road with their back to traffic if you can see what is oncoming

I would’ve just stopped on the pavement and have them walk round me. Teenagers are notoriously gormless so they don’t bother me as much. It’s usually couples holding hands that piss me off - they can see a mile off that there isn’t room for all three of us!

I stepped into the road to let two perfectly able-bodied middle aged women pass who were taking up the whole path. I just calmly called them ignorant cows - if they can't be polite and courteous, neither can I.

OP you're not wrong. Things like they annoy me too. It's not as if I'm there to just move out of the way for you.

Or someone walking their precious dog and expect you to pick your way around it.

It depends really, I have a dog so take that into account. Woman with a pram, I'll step into the road no problem. Group of men on their way to the pub, I keep my lane. Sometimes they don't like it, but that's life I suppose.

I don't like passive aggression though, so I never shout a sarky "you're welcome" at anyone. Sounds like a fast way to get into a row in the street, and I wouldn't fancy that.

Yes, exactly this. If it's a single-person footpath, someone has to step into the road, and which person does it should depend on who is facing the traffic. Otherwise potentially dangerous.

Agreed. The most annoying space entitlement. Especially dog owners with those long extendable leads. I’ve seen them take up the whole width of one of those narrow cobbled town centre streets in a tiny Cornish seaside place teeming with hundreds of tourists. Sheer arrogance.