Disrespectful or socially unaware DH.

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Sunday afternoon I get home from a blisteringly hot busy shift that includes a couple of miles walk home.
Straight into a cool bath.The house is boiling so after a couple of sticky hours I decided to lie on my low sun lounger turned towards the left as I only have patterned top no bra and pj shorts on.
Fine it's cooler I can lie here and scroll on my phone.
DH who has had the day off comes out to water plants.Fine I said I would but he is doing it.
He then starts a conversation with the neighbour on the right causing the man to peak over as the fence he put in is six foot!!
I stay facing the other fence until I can sneak back in the patio door.
The thing is DH had already had chats with neighbour in the day.
When confronted DH said I could put a bikini on.
Am I'm being unreasonable to expect some privacy iny own garden.having worn a thick uniform all day.?

Why wouldn't you just speak to your husband? Hey Harold, next time don't speak to the neighbour when I have my tits out.

I gave up wearing bras at home a long time ago!

Honestly, it's 2025. Women are perfectly able to sit in their own gardens - and go out in public if they wish - with no bra and no make up. I should imagine your neighbour wouldn't even have noticed unless your tits were dragging on the patio.

Do you generally have make up and a bra on when you’re pottering about your house?

How the fuck was your DH meant to know you had problem with your neighbour seeing you with no makeup on in your garden? You’re being weird.

What a complete non-issue. You had a patterned top and shorts on. Don't be daft!

You were dressed

You were happy enough being outside

Neighbour could've peered over at any point

Unclench OP

You don't have to change your appearance for the next door neighbour.

It's not shameful to be seen with fresh make-up-free face and floppy breasts under a top. You are not a show pony on display.

Neighbour likely didn't notice, didn't care, and if they did you shouldn't care anyway.

How obvious was it that she was braless? In a patterned top, it is unlikely to have been obvious, and even less likely that the neighbour would have noticed. If her DH did not notice, then I cannot see what the issue is.

The horror - an older lady with no bra AND no make up!

Being seen not wearing a bra is a very weird thing to be stressed about. Do you think your neighbour doesn’t know you’ve got <whispers> breasts? I’d have probably just been in my pants and joined in the conversation!

With these references to no bra and no make up, is this a reference to red lipstick on the nipples? 🥹🤣🤭

Shame there wasn't a poll.

Yare not only BU, but you are being ridiculous.

your poor husband. there is NOTHING about what you describe that suggests he is either disrespectful or socially unaware.
Your post is just bizarre.

It would piss me off as I also like my privacy

Am I socially unaware because I sometimes answer the door while wearing my nightshirt? I don't wear a bra underneath it, and I never wear makeup anyway. 😃

Surely you wear make up in bed. 😀. What is the world coming to? 🤣 You’ll be telling me that you let your partner see you naked next. 🤭

I do answer the door to delivery men in my pjs and I used to do chores in my undies.
I am a bit weird that I would wear clothes to phone someone even though they can't see me 🤣🤣
My DM told me I was letting the side down when I popped round Xmas eve when her fridge packed up and I guess that's where I get it from.