Feel like I may be acting a little dramatic but at the same time feel as though I'm also being gaslit into being the unreasonable person.
My partner and I have different sex drives. He would happily have it 3-4 times a week whereas I am happy to have weekly, sometimes longer between. But it's never usually longer than 2 weeks.
However, this week I have been feeling very tired and exhausted (due to the heat but also Diabetes - recently changed meds and it's making me fatigued) so after working all week, I ended up sleeping in on Sat morning until 11.30am which I never, ever do.
When I woke up, partner in a mood, says he's fine but it's because I said I'd give him some Friday night but ended up going to bed as I was exhausted. We went out Saturday running errands and when we got back I had a nap. Fast forward to today, I had a friend coming over at 11am and he knew this, however was trying it on around 10am even though I said repeatedly that I was still exhausted and needed to get ready for friend coming over. He accepted it after asking a million times but again, in a mood.
He's working away all next week so was saying how he wasn't going to see me and did I not want to be intimate with him. I explained I wasn't because I didnt want to, it was because I'm so exhausted and too hot and bothered due to the weather (my meds also increase my body temp). He then sends me an Instagram video of someone talking about how people make time for those who they want to and that you shouldn't have to force someone to care or love you, which has left me feeling absolutely shit and like I'm in the wrong.
I just feel put down and like he's being selfish for putting it on me when he's seen how much I've struggled this week and how fatigued I am.
I also do see his side and know he has needs, and maybe I'm not meeting his expectations?