Colleague suggested meeting up then ghosting me??

[BrickSnake]

Should say ghosted me but it won't allow me to edit the title.
Don't really understand what goes through people's minds sometimes..

I only worked at a place for a few months and left as I was deeply unhappy there, in a job I much prefer now.
Left 3 months ago, whilst there I briefly chatted to a woman who seemed nice, I wouldn't say we became friends but we had a few friendly chats and I thought she was nice and interesting.
On my last day she messaged wishing me the best of luck. I didn't expect to hear from her again based on previous experience, but 2 weeks ago she messaged asking how my new job was.
I was happy to hear from her and this sort of thing doesn't happen often for me. We messaged a bit and then she said we should meet for coffee. Started to make plans then on the very last msg I sent my availability.

She didn't reply, I thought ok she's maybe forgot, it happens. So after a week of no response I sent a friendly msg asking if she still fancied that coffee and suggested one or two days I was free.

That was 9 days ago and the msg hasn't been 'read' but has been delivered.
I'm just thinking why get in touch in the first place?
I'm sure someone will be along to tell me she has anxiety, ADHD or autism or possibly a combination of the 3.
Maybe she does, however sometimes maybe people are just flaky and shitty. Any possible explanation?
Obviously I won't message her again and I'll just leave it. It's tough enough making friends as it is, has this happened to anyone else?

I´ve had the same. Ex colleague located me on Linkedin and wrote and suggested we met for coffee, I said yes and suggested days. No answer, the ball´s in her court, I´m definitely not going out of my way like I would´ve done when I was younger.

Ghosting has become so frequent that I'm starting to find it normal. I mean, of course it's not normal, but a lot of people are doing it these days, it's appalling. Unless you have a very good reason to ghost someone, which clearly is not the case here. Anyhow, I'd let go. You don't need this.

100% you were overreacting

I am concerned at the collective paranoir of this thread. People have busy lives & stuff going on. They will get back to you when they can . Get over it!

its not ghosting! It’s just clearly someone who had other things on plate. This thread & all the PPs are something else

I once had another mother at my son’s school (who wanted a play date) ask via a note for my number - gave it. Single parent like me - she phoned me 3 times long long phone calls detailing her two ex husbands (one died after the divorce) but left all his money to his sister not their children and she has to apply to his trust every time she wanted anything very odd. Then had an affair and married him and had a daughter and then divorced. Spent house listening to her on the phone. She wanted to get pissed and sit on the beach - something I couldn’t do as I had children but I suggested a play date or something . In 4 years she never arranged a play date in person / so odd.

well ok but if they’re a good friend then reach out again in a few months

Exactly !

I think that's it. Lives are busy now in a way they just weren't years ago.

But not too busy to be on social media and Mumsnet. 🙄