Why are toxic men great in bed?

[Sexlessandconfused]

Slightly tongue in cheek (I think?). As you can see from my last thread about my sexless relationship, me and my friends were discussing this which led to a general chat about sex drives/boyfriends.

We were talking about past boyfriends/sex etc, and we all realised that the more a toxic/avoidant man the better the sex.

All of our best ever lovers were the worst actual people. The men that really knew a woman's body and have passionate pleasurable sex were the worst type of long term boyfriends.

Also the nicest/sweetest of men were the worst in bed. Not in a selfish kind of way but in a can't last longer than 2 minutes, not great at foreplay and submissive rather than ever take the lead etc.

Has anyone else noticed this? Also there were 7 of us discussing this last night so not a tiny sample of 2/3 people. Could just be a coincidence all 7 of us have experienced the same but I think there could be something in this?

I really wonder why as you think it'd be the other way around 🤔

A lot of men I know would say the same thing about toxic women.

YANBU, I think it's a thing @Sexlessandconfused.

The most amazing sex I ever had was with a trainee accountant. He was so nice and so straight I couldn't handle it but god we had the best sex.

Practice

They also need a skill that will reel women in keep them coming back for more and potentially put a roof over their head

They're not. They're as selfish and demanding for little to no return in bed as they are out of it.

Maybe (hopefully) you and your friends have not stuck around for long in relationships with toxic men so the sex has never progressed beyond the early, heady days? Maybe toxic men have to be good at sex or they wouldn't get partners at all?

Good sex varies by individual; some are intense, others sensual. From my experience, true enjoyment comes with the complete package.

This. You are simply just another notch on their bedpost and they are more experienced.