DSC birthday present

[MILisProfessorUmbridge]

It was DT birthday recently, PIL bought them a nice gift each.

DSC is here, he has also been given the same present when his birthday isn’t for months.

DT receive nothing from her on DSC birthday.

AIBU to be a bit miffed about this?

I always find it really odd how step children are treated but I do have my DSS full time now and just couldn’t imagine to bring him my life and not give him everything I give my own.

Then you know where the problem lies.

Maybe do a spreadsheet - if he sees it in b&w with the value, the penny might drop?

You say you don't equate time with presents.
However, I'm sure your ss would disagree.
He sees his dad 2 days out of 14 and your dt see him every day. And you're upset that his gp give him a present?! They probably feel sorry for him.
This is not the hil to die on, you have bigger problems coming your way. Let it go.

I know it’s different as the older one is DSC but wonder if some of this might be a twin thing. I find that my older one gets gifted things when it’s a special event for the twins & do get it myself as when it was their birthday did get some token small things as it’s hard when there’s two of them getting stuff - I get that at some point it needs to stop but I figure we’ll phase it out gradually as they get older & I do tend to save highly desirable items for all 3 & wouldn’t get them just for the twins. I think it’s really hard for an older child when twins come along which might be influencing them. & this is a blended family situation which makes it more complicated. It also goes the other way too, I find people can treat the twins as a unit eg. my parents got them a really thoughtful card but got them one to share which was annoying! It sounds like there might be other stuff going on here but I do think it being twins changes the dynamic which may be affecting it too.