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ARFID-what do you or your child with ARFID eat?

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AuADHD · 27/06/2025 21:12

I’m sat here eating the same comfort food that was safe back in 1994 and it got me wondering what other people with ARFID eat. What are your safe foods and what are your absolutely won’t eat?
Mine:
Black coffee with vegetarian pâté on toast.
Pizza but preferably homemade or from certain restaurants. If it doesn’t look right though I won’t eat it.
Dry cereal, preferably Frosties, Golden Grahams or Cheerios
My homemade soup
Chips
Biscuits

I eat more than that but not a lot of variety.

OP posts:
Ayeayeaye25 · 13/07/2025 20:37

Suspect my 20 year old daughter has this. She won’t eat any meat, fish or fruit unless in a juice or a smoothie.

The limited food she will eat includes margarita pizza
chips
white bread
tomato soup
cheese sandwich (but only certain cheeses and only white bread)
mashed potato
jacket potato
chocolate
nutella
beans on toast
cashew nuts
monkey nuts
mixed seeds
dhansak sauce from the local
Indian with no veg no meat with rice
balsamic vinegar, bread with dipping oil
vanilla ice cream

But I can’t think of much else that she will eat.

RavenLaw · 13/07/2025 20:47

DrCoconut · 13/07/2025 18:29

@Caspianberg I think one of the most difficult aspects to deal with is that your child will quite literally starve themselves to death if they can't access food they will accept. People who have not dealt with this just don't get it. Hands up who's had comments along the following lines - he'd eat if he was mine, you just need to be firmer, we don't allow fussy eating in our house!

Constantly! Although we went away with friends a couple of years ago and to my friend's credit she said to me she'd thought I just needed to be firmer and not let DD treat me like a hotel, until she watched my DD not eat anything for three days because even basics like bread tasted different - she was really concerned. She is now enormously sympathetic and goes out of her way to check what foods and even brands are tolerable if we visit her. She's brilliant.

Much like @wejammin's DS, my DD now has a longer list of safe foods, but the underlying issues are still there.

We've also found Toren Wolf's videos really helpful. DD will now try a new food if I film her so she can "do a Toren video"! I don't put them online but sometimes share them with family or friends.

ADreamIsAWishYourArseMakes · 13/07/2025 20:57

I was never diagnosed but definitely had it. My brother has severe ASD, my poor parents.

Until I was about 10 I ate:

Chips
Bread
Peanut butter
Cheese on toast
Cashew nuts and dried figs if nagged
Crisps, chocolate, biscuits
Fish fingers

Then I added in margharita pizza aged 10.

It got much much better at uni. It was a combination of being unpressured, feeling in control and (as I was a student nurse) learning about the body and disease.

I now eat conventional vegetarian food, I won't eat some fruits and vegetables but I have a reasonable list of all food groups I like and eat. I like curries, Mexican, Lebanese etc etc.

audiehd · 13/07/2025 20:59

I’ve never officially been diagnosed with ARFID, but I am autistic and I believe I may fall within the criteria. I almost certainly would have done for my childhood and teenage years. I have very slowly introduced some new foods over the years, but most of my safe-foods have remained the same.

I eat the same lunch almost every day; a toasted cheese and ham sandwich. I can also eat chicken sandwiches, plain cheese sandwiches, and on a particularly brave day I might manage an egg sandwich.

For dinner, I cycle through a few options. Chicken nuggets and chips, plain cheeseburger and chips, pasta with tomato sauce (I don’t actually eat anything from the sauce, it’s just for flavour), pasta with tomato sauce and meatballs, margherita pizza (occasionally with ham), macaroni and cheese (as long as it’s not too creamy), or chicken and noodle stir fry (depending on the vegetables and the sauce). If we get a takeaway, I’ll either get one of the above or plain duck pancakes (no sauce) and egg fried rice. I can have potatoes in most forms, providing they’re not too creamy, so sometimes I have potatoes and grilled or roasted chicken.

I prefer most vegetables raw rather than cooked, because they can be cooked so many ways and often the textures are awful. So I like raw broccoli, raw carrot, raw green beans and peas.

I’m fine with most biscuits and chocolate, some ice cream, and some fruit.

Like many here, I began to eat a wider range of food once I had control over what I was eating. Some of my issues trying new foods were also caused by emetophobia, which is by no means cured but eases a little by anti-anxiety medication.

It also helps that my friends and family are aware that new foods make me uncomfortable, and they sometimes encourage me to try new things without any pressure. Many of the more recent additions to my list have been suggestions from trusted friends.

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