To not want XP to buy me wine ?

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He just dropped the kids back, and went in the kitchen because he had got a big bottle of squash for them.

He has now left. I have just gone into the kitchen and there is a bottle of red wine on the side.

Perhaps I am being ungrateful, but I don't want him buying me wine, or anything for that matter.

yabu

I dont know the circumstances of your split up. So I dont really know what to say. Maybe he feels guilty about something?

In what way honey ??

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YANBU, But then I know parts of the situation.

maybe he left it there by mistake and it is really for him?

My choice to split, he didn't want to, and still doesn't.

He acts like I am still his 99.9% of the time despite firm and consistent warnings.

He doesn't drink red wine, plus it is the one I normally buy.

I know it is ungrateful, and if it were anyone else i'd not be so bothered, but it is him.

I don't want anything from him, unless it is for the kids or benefits the kids in some way.

What shall I do with it ?? There is no way he will accept it back.

I would drink it tonight
What are tyou doing with the kids this afternoon? I know you missed them last night, I bet you loved seeing them again

Drink it.

I wouldn't mention it at all tbh, if he wants you to mention it then he should have said something himself.

That way if he just wanted to buy you something, he's done it, if he bought it with ulterior motives in mind it's tough shit, what's he going to say?

Drink it, but thank him for providing a present for a friend's birthday. If he won't accept it back, there's no point in wasting it.

i feel sorry for him his obviously struggling to let go

your ok as you chose to end it and said he doesnt want to so it must be very hard for him at the moment

maybe he bought it without thinking when buying squash and just left it there

but say nothing it sounds like his taking it hard as it is

You could leave it there gathering dust for ever, so that he gets the message, or you could give it someone else, or you could be mature about and say that you do not want him bringing you presents as it makes you feel uncomfortable and as if he still wants to be part of your life, which would be inappropriate in the circs. Again I do not know reasons etc for your split (if it was because he was controlling and abusive, I wouldn't even let him in the house frankly, let alone in the kitchen).

Good point, will drink it and not mention a thing.

Posie - My dad brought over one of those motorised trike things earlier that someone he knew was throwing out, so they argued over that for a good half hour, and now they are giving each other driving tests on it LOL.

I asked them if they wanted to watch a film with me and they said no LOL.

bubblagirl, believe me, he really doesn't deserve your sympathy.

He is controlling duchesse, or should I say was. Now he tries to be and I tell him to piss off and get out of my life. (not in front of dc obviously).

that was really sweet of your dad!

it seems a shame to waste it

why not use it in cooking for the kids - in bolognaise or something. Then you can tell him the kids enjoyed his gift!

is it an expensive bottle?

Actually, i could just return it when i take the kids to his on Wednesday. Might do that actually. But he will make a scene about it in front of the kids if I do, and I don't want them to think I am being petty.

No, not expensive, about £4.50.

sorry didnt know story just read it as you chose to leave he didnt sorry i take back any sympathy given