To not want XP to buy me wine ?

[CrackerOfNuts]

He just dropped the kids back, and went in the kitchen because he had got a big bottle of squash for them.

He has now left. I have just gone into the kitchen and there is a bottle of red wine on the side.

Perhaps I am being ungrateful, but I don't want him buying me wine, or anything for that matter.

I can't really Ditanny as I only drop them in the front door, and then try and leave as quickly as possible.

I either have to give it back directly, or keep it and not mention it.

notjust- if it's the OP favourite type of wine, he might know that she was lying and it might make it worse.

Pour it down the sink and leave the empty bottle on the side.

I can be a bit of an evil cow with certain things though.

You could say that you shared it with [male friend name's] if he asks. Keep him wondering.

He just rung to say dd2 forgot her homework. He asked about the wine, so I said 'yes i have seen it, and I am giving it to my mum'.

He said I was being stupid, and that he just saw it whilst in the queue, knew i'd not gone out last night (and oh how pleased he was about that) and thought i might want a drink.

FFS, I don't want him thinking about what I may or may not have done and what I might want to drink.

I told him, I had said before, that I didn't want him buying me things. He said he won't do it again.

Yeah right.

I think putting it in a dish might be the best option- not wasted, but not exactly the present he had in mind...

I am adverse to pouring it away because it is wasteful.

Perhaps I can hit him over the head with it. That sounds like the best option to me really

Oh apparently it is £5.50, as he so shitily informed me.

He will ask the kids if I have drunk it, and they will tell him the truth. Even if I drink it after they are in bed, they will still know, because I can't drink a whole bottle in one night.

Ohhh get some stewing steak, and glug a huge amount of the wine on top of it, and stew it until it begs for mercy!

I might just put it away in the cupboard and then make out I brought it myself at a later date.

Sounds like he actually rang to ask about the wine. The malicious b'stard. Sorry, have too much experience of my sister's ex to make any kind of balanced judgment about controlling exes. I mean, is he likely (as my sister's did) to sit watching what you do from the outside of your house? Is he likely to leave presents like that and watch what you do with them? Or is a bit more moderate in his controllingness?

keep it for his christmas present from the kids!!

No, do use it, use it as a condiment for cooking. He wants you to drink it, but don't. Cook with it. There are lots of thigs you can do with red wine.

Amazing- they do say revenge is a dish best eaten cold... That is impressive though!

Well he'd not sit outside my house, but he does watch where i go etc as he lives in a flat over the back of my house, and I know he does look at the house from his, as he once said about all of the lights being on.

I also had to change my mobile number and threaten him with police about 2mths ago, because he wouldn't stop ringing me, and then crept round to my door to put a love letter through it, and then rang demanding I read it.

If i use it in cooking, he will still see it as him buying me something, and i accepted it. He will think that, whatever I do with it.

Will take it back to him on wednesday.

Nah, if he lives right next to you, put it out on the kerb for the binmen/ or with a sign saying "free to a good home". Something obvious. He won't get the message otherwise, I fear...

Oh FGS just bung it this way if you don't want to drink it