Neighbours kid threw a bag of poo in wheelie bin

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Yesterday my neighbours kids were hovering on my drive and the Ring picked it up, I saw one of the kids throw a bag in my green bin.

Upon checking it was obvious it was a bag of poo, it appeared like soiled underwear.

Afterwards he went into my bag of compost and threw it at my window, by that time I told him to get of my property and he ran off.

I have a lot of issues with these kids from trespassing, balls kicked against cars, they are truly awful, and a lot of neighbours have problems with them.

The kids are 5 and 7.

The mom is nice and I have discussed these issues with her and I will be going round after she finishes work to ask her to remove the bag from my bin.

I am really fed up of them to be honest, my other neighbour thinks we should report them for anti social behaviour as they have damaged her car by chucking stones at it.

Out of all the kids who play and live here it’s only these 2 who cause all the problems.

I have spent a lot of money on fencing because of them as well.

AIBU to report them with my neighbour?

Report them to who? The police will act if your neighbour’s car has been damaged, but it’s not a crime to put a poo bag in a wheelie bin

I will be going round after she finishes work to ask her to remove the bag from my bin.

You being petty
They kids

1. who are you going to report them to.
2. at least the dog poo is in the bin and not on the path
3. you are being very petty getting her to come and retrieve it, dog poo goes in household bins so there is no issue
4. Just calmly discuss the issues again with the mother but at the end of the day they are young kids

Think we found the OP's neighbour.

Yes report it - return it to the mother and tell her you have footage.
The police may not be interested but there seems to be this - they are under 10 under criminal age but social services are.

5 and 7 is too young to be out unsupervised especially if they can’t be trusted to behave, that would be my concern. What’s going on at home for them, you say the mums nice so why isn’t she looking after them and checking what they’re doing.
putting something bagged in a bin isn’t the issue but throwing stuff at windows and cars is

You’re ok with a kid throwing compost at your window?

Sounds like he might have had an accident that he doesn’t want anyone to know about and is trying to hide the evidence.

A 5 or 7 year old putting poo-ey underwear in your bin? No I wouldn't complain about this. The most likely explanation is that the child has soiled him/herself and not wanted their parents to find out. At that age it wouldn't cross their mind that there was anything wrong with putting this in a neighbour's bin. Obviously you are well within your rights to bring up stones thrown at cars. However, I would suggest you try to have a bit of empathy. These are very young children, they are not "truly awful", and I think that's a pretty dreadful thing to say about kids this age.

Respectfully, the mother probably isn’t nice. She probably seems nice to you, an adult who is outside the house.

A child of that age who is throwing away soiled underwear in a neighbour’s bin, bagged up is not doing it to upset that neighbour. They’re doing it to avoid an adult at home knowing they had an accident. Why would a child be scared of that?

These children have other, fairly minor, behavioural issues (i.e. non-violent, non-aggressive but clearly unaware of appropriate behaviour, manners or self-control). That’s all down to parenting.

These children are regularly unsupervised, including outside the home, at an age when they should be supervised.

I’d be worried about them rather than angry at them… and I don’t the mother is the saint you think she is.

Also, poor behaviour and especially trying to hide evidence of a toilet 'accident' suggests that they don't have a very happy homelife.

x post with kolatop - I think she has said it better than me

The bag was thrown in the garden waste bin which is for gardening waste and not household waste so the bag needs to be picked up and placed in the correct bin and I don’t see why I should have to do it.

The kids cause so much trouble for everyone, there is always a parent at my neighbours door complaining about their behaviour.

My neighbour believes this is anti social behaviour and needs to be addressed, she has a young baby and the kids throw stones and footballs at her windows just like they do to me.
I have young toddlers to think about.

Compost isn’t cheap either and he had thrown it all at my window, it’s not on and it’s not fair.

Yea the kids regularly play unsupervised and sometimes aren’t even in eye shot as they go around the block and local park.

She only goes to collect them at 8pm.

@Kangarude actually it is, if it is not your own wheelie bin!! it is classed as fly tipping!!!

Honestly. I am absolutely amazed that:
a) you haven’t contacted social services countless times
b) you think you’re the one to be worried about here.

No, you shouldn’t have to move the bag of poo. No, you shouldn’t have compost thrown. No dispute there.

But how you can think this is anything other than neglected (and potentially abused) children is incredible. In your shoes, I’d be on the phone to social services right now.

Please phone them. I’ll move the damn bag of poo - just please stop ignoring this blatant case of child endangerment.

Op and neighbours could report any damage to the police.
No one said anything about dog poo.
If something is covered in poo and is in the wrong bin it needs putting in the correct bin, why should op touch it to do that?
Young kids is not an excuse for anti social behaviour! If it was a ball banging on the street then leave them to it, children laughing and playing loudly, leave them to it. The things they’re doing need stopping

They’re under the age of criminal responsibility. They could literally murder OP and there would be no punishment.

Report to SS and go round to the mothers and get her to remove it. Disgusting

Do dogs in your neighbourhood tend to wear pants?

Personally I would retrieve the bag and chuck it on neighbours door step. Make sure to mention the kid triggered your home security system....

(I was the one that ended up throwing neighbours toys in the bin after repeatedly telling them to stop throwing their stuff over on purpose - they loved nothing more than an excuse to come rummaging in my garden uninvited for some weird unknown reason and deliberately threw half their toy box over the fence repeatedly until I took action of the binning variety.)

I've lived next to some TRULY awful children. No point in pretending

Unsupervised kids 5 and 7 wandering alone till 8pm need to be reported to the police and social services, I dont think it was dog poo, more likely one of the children soiled.

Local kids play outside nicely together. Bit jarring but there we are. Then two kids get dumped here. (This has gone on for years and years). The dynamic changes. These kids are the toxic ring leaders. No schooling for either of them. Relative goes in and shuts front door. Fence panels ripped off. Litter. Toys. Banging on doors. Water poured through letter boxes. Get picked up after about 9 hours of this then off they go. OP I hear you

What would I say in reporting them to social services?
I don’t think they are being abused/neglected as they always have the latest toys and seem well kempt.

I have heard the mom shout at them but they don’t appear to listen.

You just say what you've said here - they are 5 and 7 and running about outside unsupervised, and are not collected until 8pm. I'd explain about the underwear too as its odd for them to do that. Their behaviour isn't the reason you'd be reporting them, it's the lack of supervision/parenting. I'd not be taken in by her being 'nice' to you, or their latest clothes or toys