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Neighbours kid threw a bag of poo in wheelie bin

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rollyoval · 27/06/2025 09:42

Yesterday my neighbours kids were hovering on my drive and the Ring picked it up, I saw one of the kids throw a bag in my green bin.

Upon checking it was obvious it was a bag of poo, it appeared like soiled underwear.

Afterwards he went into my bag of compost and threw it at my window, by that time I told him to get of my property and he ran off.

I have a lot of issues with these kids from trespassing, balls kicked against cars, they are truly awful, and a lot of neighbours have problems with them.

The kids are 5 and 7.

The mom is nice and I have discussed these issues with her and I will be going round after she finishes work to ask her to remove the bag from my bin.

I am really fed up of them to be honest, my other neighbour thinks we should report them for anti social behaviour as they have damaged her car by chucking stones at it.

Out of all the kids who play and live here it’s only these 2 who cause all the problems.

I have spent a lot of money on fencing because of them as well.

AIBU to report them with my neighbour?

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Kangarude · 27/06/2025 17:59

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 27/06/2025 14:15

@Kangarude actually it is, if it is not your own wheelie bin!! it is classed as fly tipping!!!

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I was asking who the OP is going to report it to. It may be fly tipping but the police would not be involved

CarpetKnees · 27/06/2025 18:07

Kolatop · 27/06/2025 14:04

Respectfully, the mother probably isn’t nice. She probably seems nice to you, an adult who is outside the house.

A child of that age who is throwing away soiled underwear in a neighbour’s bin, bagged up is not doing it to upset that neighbour. They’re doing it to avoid an adult at home knowing they had an accident. Why would a child be scared of that?

These children have other, fairly minor, behavioural issues (i.e. non-violent, non-aggressive but clearly unaware of appropriate behaviour, manners or self-control). That’s all down to parenting.

These children are regularly unsupervised, including outside the home, at an age when they should be supervised.

I’d be worried about them rather than angry at them… and I don’t the mother is the saint you think she is.

All of this.

@rollyoval you are not looking at the whole picture here.

Kolatop · 27/06/2025 19:33

rollyoval · 27/06/2025 17:44

What would I say in reporting them to social services?
I don’t think they are being abused/neglected as they always have the latest toys and seem well kempt.

I have heard the mom shout at them but they don’t appear to listen.

Your say your neighbour’s five year old is dumped out on the street unsupervised until well last tea time or bed time to the extent he’s soiled himself and tried to cover it up from his shouty mum.

I know you’re firmly on mum’s side because she nods agreeably when you whinge at her but she still chucks them out the next day and leaves them to it so she clearly doesn’t care about you enough to parent her kids.

I don’t understand how you’re more concerned about the cost of compost (it’s dirt, you won’t need to remortgage) than these children. You’re failing them.

Barnbrack · 27/06/2025 19:36

yestothat · 27/06/2025 13:58

5 and 7 is too young to be out unsupervised especially if they can’t be trusted to behave, that would be my concern. What’s going on at home for them, you say the mums nice so why isn’t she looking after them and checking what they’re doing.
putting something bagged in a bin isn’t the issue but throwing stuff at windows and cars is

I totally agree, I wouldn't be as worried about the impact on me as the impact on them. I'd probably call social services if anyone infact. I have a 7 and 4 yr old and whole I very much doubt they'd do these things they also definitely wouldn't get a chance

Barnbrack · 27/06/2025 19:38

rollyoval · 27/06/2025 14:11

The bag was thrown in the garden waste bin which is for gardening waste and not household waste so the bag needs to be picked up and placed in the correct bin and I don’t see why I should have to do it.

The kids cause so much trouble for everyone, there is always a parent at my neighbours door complaining about their behaviour.

My neighbour believes this is anti social behaviour and needs to be addressed, she has a young baby and the kids throw stones and footballs at her windows just like they do to me.
I have young toddlers to think about.

Compost isn’t cheap either and he had thrown it all at my window, it’s not on and it’s not fair.

Yea the kids regularly play unsupervised and sometimes aren’t even in eye shot as they go around the block and local park.

She only goes to collect them at 8pm.

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That is the very definition of neglect

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 27/06/2025 23:29

Kolatop · 27/06/2025 14:18

They’re under the age of criminal responsibility. They could literally murder OP and there would be no punishment.

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@Kolatop the poster stated that it was not a crime, hence my reply stating that it actually was!! fly tipping!!!

ByPeachScroller · 28/06/2025 00:12

I’m in the same boat op. Neighbours kids are chucked out to do whatever they want with no supervision whatsoever. You can report anonymously on crime stoppers, and the councils ASB team are good as well.

Barnbrack · 28/06/2025 05:32

ByPeachScroller · 28/06/2025 00:12

I’m in the same boat op. Neighbours kids are chucked out to do whatever they want with no supervision whatsoever. You can report anonymously on crime stoppers, and the councils ASB team are good as well.

Are these preschool and early primary kids too? Why aren't you calling social service?

Blondeshavemorefun · 28/06/2025 06:31

Sounds like they had an accident and didn’t want the mum to get cross and they hid their soiled clothes in your bin

if in a bag just remove and put in other bin

playing alone out of sight at a park at their age should be reported as safe guarding

obv throwing stones /manure at Window isn’t great ans needs to be stopped

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