Help, I need impartial advice!
I am married with 3 children. I work part time to fit around kids and majority of my low salary goes on children’s activities and clothes/uniforms etc, and personal bills like my phone/diesel for car/basic gym membership etc.
My husband has a very well paid job that easily covers all household bills/mortgage etc with spare. He is generous and tends to spoil the children and, in my opinion, regularly wastes a lot of money on food, takeaways etc.
We have not been on holiday for years and the children are desperate to go abroad. DH had agreed we could go for a week this September (we have an extra week school hols) which would be perfect, less busy, less expensive, less hot etc.
Not booked anything yet but kids (and me!) have been getting excited about first big family holiday abroad.
DH has now said he doesn’t really want to go. He doesn’t love flying, predominantly because he is very very obese but hasn’t tried to lose weight despite saying he would. He won’t go on a boat and neither of us would want to drive abroad. He’s also now saying we can’t afford it although it feels like an excuse.
He said maybe we could go next year instead but says this each year and next year it’s unlikely we would be able to go in September, with all the positives of that.
He then made a comment about me going on my own with the kids instead and while I was upset by it at first because I want him with us I am considering it. (Although I’m not sure he meant it) The kids are so excited and I have been looking forward to it so much too. A staycation wouldn’t guarantee us the sunshine we’re all craving so that’s not an option either.
Am I being unreasonable if I say ok I’ll go on my own with them?! Should I just accept he doesn’t want to go and that means we all don’t go and have to break it to the children?
sorry for the essay 😣 and thank you in advance for any replies x