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To refuse to provide bank statement to my work to prove I was in the office

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HanExplorer · 26/06/2025 09:07

I’ve found myself in a very unusual situation and am standing firm so far despite pressure.

I work in a hybrid role with a requirement to attend our office twice a week, this is measured monthly based on card swipe data. On one of the days in May, I forgot my pass so was issued a temporary one to use that day.

Earlier this month my manager flagged I was showing a day short for office attendance in May and said I’d need to make up a further day in June. I looked at the dates they had on record and quickly realised the missing one was when I had the temporary pass so that obviously hadn’t registered on the system.

I explained this to my manager and she still maintained I’d need to attend an extra day to balance the totals on the system as there ‘wasn’t any record of me attending’.

I realised I’d spent money in the on site restaurant that day and there’d be a record on my bank showing the company name. I screenshotted this on my phone, cropped it so you could see the date and sent it to my manager.

She has checked with her manager and told me that I need to provide a copy of a bank statement which shows my name and the transaction - that would of course also show all my other activity!!

This has been dragging on and I’m standing firm so far, but I’ve had a call booked in with my manager and her manager for tomorrow and I’m wary of what they are going to say.

My office is over an hours train journey each way so not a case of driving 5 minutes down the road to work a further day - regardless, I don’t feel I should do out of principle.

OP posts:
HunnyPot · 26/06/2025 10:20

They sound thick. Computer says no style of leadership at its worst. They should know the temp passes don’t register on the system and have a contingency process for this very occasion. Purely their issue if they don’t - not yours.

I know you were tying to be helpful but don’t bother trying to send ‘proof’ to them. If your word isn’t good enough then they clearly have no respect for you.

TheSwarm · 26/06/2025 10:21

Twisterpiggy · 26/06/2025 10:18

Of course there’s a system if someone had to set up a temporary pass for her!

The company are asking OP for proof because she quite obviously didn’t get issued with a temporary pass because she wasn’t there.

Did you miss the part where OP has already shown she was in the office via screengrab of a transaction at the staff canteen?

Unless you think she faked that as well, of course.

ContraryNoodle · 26/06/2025 10:22

To be fair, you do carry some of the responsibility though for forgetting your pass. Hence, it really down to you too to prove you were there. You are being OTT - just blank out the other transactions. Why make a mountain out of mole hill.

Handbagcuriosity · 26/06/2025 10:22

Sounds like a terrible company OP. They’re being unreasonable not you. You’ve given them proof so basically they’re saying they don’t believe you which can’t feel nice.

It is also unreasonable to make you come in for a day where you’re literally going to sit with your headphones in just so they can say everyone’s filled their ‘quota’. Totally get coming into the office of there is a business need for it but otherwise where is the benefit?

You could fight it with them, bring in that trust and confidence piece but they don’t sound reasonable so for sanity reasons you might want to just give it them to get the issue resolved quickly.

Whichever you choose, as pp’s have said I’d be looking for another job

marshmallowmix · 26/06/2025 10:24

ContraryNoodle · 26/06/2025 10:22

To be fair, you do carry some of the responsibility though for forgetting your pass. Hence, it really down to you too to prove you were there. You are being OTT - just blank out the other transactions. Why make a mountain out of mole hill.

This ! it is easily sorted....why such a fuss....blank out the other entries....

Is there some back story here that you are missing out...it seems OTT!?! when easy to prove...

TheSwarm · 26/06/2025 10:25

Bubblesgun · 26/06/2025 10:20

Or they record the temp pass, but there are no records of her being there and theybwant to catch her lying because she has form.

either way, i repeat if she is isnt lying, she could diffuse the situation very very quickly. Or there is a reason that she refuses and it doesnt look good for her.

people who pushes that hard and should the loudest are usually the guilty party.

when you want to implement culture change you do it quietly strongly and firmly (see Rosa Park)

So you think she didn't go to the office and so faked a screengrab of the canteen transaction as well then?

Her company is making an intrusive request for personal information they have no right to see because of their shitty systems. I'd tell them to fuck off as well.

Twisterpiggy · 26/06/2025 10:25

TheSwarm · 26/06/2025 10:21

Did you miss the part where OP has already shown she was in the office via screengrab of a transaction at the staff canteen?

Unless you think she faked that as well, of course.

A screenshot of paying £6.50 for a sandwich doesn’t prove she was in the office, I’m almost certain it doesn’t show the date and time on the screenshot or they wouldn’t be asking for the other key parts of the statement.

Nearly50omg · 26/06/2025 10:28

HanExplorer · 26/06/2025 09:28

On that day I was the only one in my (small) team in the office so it was a headphones in kind of day - I’ve checked my calendar and only one call was with someone from my team. I’m reluctant to drag them in to this though to say I was sat in the office.

Why?!?! It’s nothing major they just have to say oh yes Han was in that day too 🤷‍♀️

Nurseryquestions86 · 26/06/2025 10:28

Didn't you have to sign in to get a temporary pass? Is there no record of that?

CinnamonBuns67 · 26/06/2025 10:28

Don't they have CCTV they can review? It's a pain in the backside but give them the statement and blank out the transactions apart from the relevant ones.

Sassybooklover · 26/06/2025 10:28

The company should have either a written or electronic log of who is issued a temporary pass. This is basic H&S!! How on earth do they know who's in the building, if they're giving out passes without any records?!!! I am pretty certain that would be in breach of some legislation!! Very very sloppy. The easiest way is to print of a paper statement, and blank out any other transactions. Your bank may even stamp it, if you took the original and copy into branch, to say it's genuine. A complete pain in the arse, and it's not particularly nice knowing that your Manager has zero trust in your word!!

BlueRin5eBrigade · 26/06/2025 10:29

Whatifitallgoesright · 26/06/2025 09:11

Maybe I'm not understanding properly but why don't you just blank all the other transactions out leaving just the relevant one?

This is exactly what I would do. I don't understand @HanExplorer issue.

Mollysocks · 26/06/2025 10:29

Sassybooklover · 26/06/2025 10:28

The company should have either a written or electronic log of who is issued a temporary pass. This is basic H&S!! How on earth do they know who's in the building, if they're giving out passes without any records?!!! I am pretty certain that would be in breach of some legislation!! Very very sloppy. The easiest way is to print of a paper statement, and blank out any other transactions. Your bank may even stamp it, if you took the original and copy into branch, to say it's genuine. A complete pain in the arse, and it's not particularly nice knowing that your Manager has zero trust in your word!!

I was thinking this, if there was a fire, how on earth would they know who was in the office to make sure all staff are accounted for? Madness!

KimberleyClark · 26/06/2025 10:30

Twisterpiggy · 26/06/2025 10:25

A screenshot of paying £6.50 for a sandwich doesn’t prove she was in the office, I’m almost certain it doesn’t show the date and time on the screenshot or they wouldn’t be asking for the other key parts of the statement.

It would show the date, I think.

CautiousLurker01 · 26/06/2025 10:31

Whatifitallgoesright · 26/06/2025 09:11

Maybe I'm not understanding properly but why don't you just blank all the other transactions out leaving just the relevant one?

This - take a copy of your bank statement and redact all the other entries/bank balance data.

Alternatively - your office security should have a record of issuing you with a pass. They have to legally have a record of who is on the premises for insurance/safety reasons so will have a record of who was issued with visitor passes on that date, so just email them for confirmation and then send it to your manager.

TheSwarm · 26/06/2025 10:31

Twisterpiggy · 26/06/2025 10:25

A screenshot of paying £6.50 for a sandwich doesn’t prove she was in the office, I’m almost certain it doesn’t show the date and time on the screenshot or they wouldn’t be asking for the other key parts of the statement.

If it's a screen grab from her digital banking it will show the date and a transaction description, presumably identifiable as being the staff canteen.

Printing off an identical statement would show exactly the same thing.

And still beside the point. If this company doesn't:

  • Have a record of who was in the building on a temp pass;
  • Have a record of who accessed their wifi/ IT systems on a given day via user logins/ IP addresses or similar.
  • Doesn't simply trust an employee when they say they were in the office

Then that is a shit company to work for. If absolutely nothing else, if there is no log that she had a temporary pass what do they do when there is a fire?

BlueRin5eBrigade · 26/06/2025 10:31

On my online banking you can actually print off individual purchase.

I click on the transaction. Then create PDF. it will print that transaction with date and time.

mn5962 · 26/06/2025 10:31

@HanExplorer You could provide your bank statement to close the situation down but i would consider escalating this through HR.

How long have you been at your place of work.....over or under 2 years?

They have a flaw in their system. Thats not your responsibility to fix. If a temporary card is used it should be registered against you or the person who its issued too. Thats their issue to resolve not yours.

Has this situation ever happened before where you have forgotton your card or missed a day in the office? If its a 1 off and never happened before then i would expect a degree of faith from your management.

If you have been there over 2 years and this is a 1 off incident i would request HR's involvement, purely on principle. But then i am stubborn.

fiveIsNewOne · 26/06/2025 10:31

How was the temporary pass issued to you? Is there some log of that?

I'd turn it on their heads - what is being done to ensure that the next person with a temporary pass doesn't find themselves in the same position?
But I would provide the printed and heavily redacted bank statement to push that the issue is not me it is the system.

mrsm43s · 26/06/2025 10:31

TheSwarm · 26/06/2025 10:25

So you think she didn't go to the office and so faked a screengrab of the canteen transaction as well then?

Her company is making an intrusive request for personal information they have no right to see because of their shitty systems. I'd tell them to fuck off as well.

The date a transaction happened and the date that it clears on a statement are not necessarily the same. I've just checked my online banking and a transaction I did on 22nd showed on 23rd. A screen grab would make it appear as if it happened on 22nd, but the full statement would presumably show that it happened on 23rd as the date effected would be listed on the transaction narrative.

It would be very easy to show something misleading via a screen shot.

tosharama · 26/06/2025 10:32

BeachPossum · 26/06/2025 09:36

People willing to lick the boot can never understand those who stand on principle.

I love this. I haven't heard it before, is it an actual saying?

I have been reading some of the replies with an open mouth. Of course she can redact the info. That's not the bloody point of what she's saying.

DirtyBird · 26/06/2025 10:32

Cosyblankets · 26/06/2025 10:15

Did you attach it to your halo?

😂😂😂this made me snort

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 26/06/2025 10:33

Tagyoureit · 26/06/2025 10:19

Eh?

Do you think they throw her salary in cash out the window each month and just pray it ends up in her bank account?

What a bizarre comment

Obviously not. But it sounds like a large enough company to have a separate payroll department, who should be able to securely keep her personal bank details private with only a few people able to access them on a need-to-know basis.

Have you really worked anywhere that you're happy for all employees to potentially have access to your bank details, rather than just the authorised few who need them - or to not be able to keep your private financial details secure from hackers or any other unauthorised access?

tosharama · 26/06/2025 10:33

mn5962 · 26/06/2025 10:31

@HanExplorer You could provide your bank statement to close the situation down but i would consider escalating this through HR.

How long have you been at your place of work.....over or under 2 years?

They have a flaw in their system. Thats not your responsibility to fix. If a temporary card is used it should be registered against you or the person who its issued too. Thats their issue to resolve not yours.

Has this situation ever happened before where you have forgotton your card or missed a day in the office? If its a 1 off and never happened before then i would expect a degree of faith from your management.

If you have been there over 2 years and this is a 1 off incident i would request HR's involvement, purely on principle. But then i am stubborn.

Agree with this.

Twisterpiggy · 26/06/2025 10:33

KimberleyClark · 26/06/2025 10:30

It would show the date, I think.

I imagine OP hasn’t included the date which is exactly why they are asking for a fuller statement.

Things OP won’t do to show she was in

  • show the money she spend on the day she was in the office
  • refer them to the log book/ iPad whatever used to create the temporary pass
  • ask the colleague who was also in

It just seems very, very easy for OP to prove she’s in the right and the resistance to do any of those things make me think it’s because she wasn’t there.

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