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[Princesssuperstar]

Met someone new... (7mth) I've met his kids and they live me and yes I love them too but in not mum and they're trying to make me. I've been honest " I'm not mum, you have one"
I love the kids but I'm worried

How old are they? You've met them after 7 months?!

More to the point, she loves them after 7 months? Crikey. Not good.

Slow down a little maybe. This seems very fast

You really dont love them.

I agree with others, meeting them after such a short time was a huge mistake! I think you need to back right off, and stop seeing the kids until you know if the relationship is likely to be long term.

As a matter of interest, how old are they? Also, is he looking for a new Mum for his kids, or a partner for life?

Sorry I misread I thought they lived with you

You don't love them. Don't be deluded.

It's his kids... They've told mum they love me and I've made it clear I'm not!
The problem is they keep calling me mum and I am asking advice

On his own with kids 24/7 so yes I'll be around them. I made it clear from day 1 I will not replace mum. Only thing I've done is with his daughter we talk about girl stuff n that's when she said it

Yeah I guess he is looking for a mum 😭 they have one but she's not good and she sees me with mine and says she wants that too 😭😭😭

I knew them for 3yr before the relationship

Like I said, I think you need to back right off from his children until you're sure that the relationship is long term, as this is absolutely NOT fair on his kids. You say that she see's you with yours, and wants the same, why are you all getting together as families at such an early stage in a relationship. If you don't want to be a Mum to her, then stay away, as you'll end up doing this child untold damage by rejecting her, when her real Mum is also not up to the job of being a parent.

If he has then 24/7 then he no doubt is seeking a replacement mum figure. Be sure what you want before you become a big part of those children's lives.

He knows and supports me. He wants a mum.bjt he knows it takes time. They see mum 2x weekly and I encourage it. 11hr old says he doesn't want to see her and I'm him mum. I've told him I'm not so he ence the post here

I knew them for many hrs before

So if rather get with a man that has no intentions
.. I know this man is a good father and loves his kids! If have a man like that than a no-one

I knew them many hrs before

You have your own children?

Elder..... My son is 21

(any one else making the 😬face at the responses from the OP?)

That's my worry... Been there, done that and not really wanting to do it again.

I would back right off, you'll end up trapped with him because you don't want to upset the kids. Poor kids.

Hmmmm ok. It's really not good, the boyfriend should be reinforcing that you are not mummy, and that you could be a good friend to the children.

Are his children adults like yours are, just checking.

Thank you. 1st plat without being bashed. He has them 24/7 and I knew that but things developed. No kids being hurt etc yet still get hate unfortunately. I take other kids but other way and I'm the wicked one