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[Princesssuperstar]

Met someone new... (7mth) I've met his kids and they live me and yes I love them too but in not mum and they're trying to make me. I've been honest " I'm not mum, you have one"
I love the kids but I'm worried

I don't think that's long enough OP 😂

I assume you meant ‘yrs’ not ‘hrs’ 😂, but slow down. Back off. Those poor kids don’t need this.

Oldest yeah but youngest is 8

I meant yrs

Of course she can love them after 7 months. What ridiculous replies.

Thank you
And for the haters I knew them for years before. So I'm not a stranger

And that, said Mummy, was that!

Maybe I've misunderstood your situation OP, so perhaps you can clarify things for me? Do you already live with this guy?

If the kids have known you for 3 years, then they clearly know that you're not their Mum, so why not just say 'Sam, you know I'm not your Mum, you see her twice a week, but I am your friend, and you can talk to me about anything you like'.

Also, please can you explain what you meant when you said:

'So if rather get with a man that has no intentions
.. I know this man is a good father and loves his kids! If have a man like that than a no-one

Perhaps you could explain what you DO want out of the relationship as at this stage nothing seems very clear?

I've known them for 12 yr due to our youngests being born days apart so always at MU at same time. She left and we have been together 2yr but we do not live together. They shout yey mummy princess superstar is here. I always correct and say you have a mummy already but dad says it's an honour they see me and love me enough to call me that.

So in spite of your update OP, it's still not clear, you say in your OP that 'I love the kids but I'm worried', what exactly are you looking for from this thread?

OK, if they call you "Mummy YourName", I can see there's some potential awkwardness but it's not the same as just calling you Mum. It's quite sweet of them - from a child's point of view, they're paying you a massive compliment.

I'd be very, very wary of finding yourself with all the parental responsibility though. Is this what's worrying you?

7 months or 2 years?

Those poor children sound emotionally desperate. Family therapy. Him, the children, hopefully mum. Not you.

So he’s new but you’ve known him 12 years. And you’ve been together 7 months and 2 years. Righto.

Well then I don’t think this relationship will work. He has his kids full time. If you live with them, they will start seeing you as mum. You will be their step mum, you can’t reject that role, it isn’t fair on them.

If you don’t want to be a mother figure, you can't live with them. Back off, live in your own home, be distant partners if you like and have them call you ‘Aunty’, but don’t move in until they are adults if you don’t want to be a parental figure.

Don't forget "known them for 3yrs before the relationship"