on call from school today we were told that DS has been accused of saying n-word twice about a black child (child 1) in the last few weeks. Child 1 did not hear it but has been told by another child (child 2) that my DS said it. School say they have interviewed other children allegedly in vicinity at the time of each incident who have all said DS did not say this. DS was oblivious until called in by year head last week and told about accusations, asked if he said it (he didn’t) and then told their investigation outcome was that he had not said it as everyone around him said he didn’t say it. He was told by year head that child 1 had not disclosed the identity of child 2 so they had not been interviewed. School would not have told us unless we’d actually contacted them about something completely different-neither DS or school think this is a big deal because he didn’t say it.
I feel really uneasy about the whole situation and not sure whether to let go or take further. Although I’m glad that the school have investigated and found he did not say it, I’m really concerned that 1) the school didn’t inform us when they were investigating or before discussing with my child 2) the school investigated an accusation based completely on hearsay (someone said that someone said) 3) child 2 (or possibly child 1) is making up some very serious rumours about my child 4) I’m concerned about what might have been recorded about the incident on my child’s school record! AIBU to feel concerned about this?