Grinning man

[Charltonstrek]

Hi having this experience with a guy who when I drop dp off at work seems to be enjoying staring at me with a sleazy grin on his face he's working there and is obviously killing time in his car before starting work. This morning even though I pulled up fair distance away to let dp out I glanced and he had his head out of his car window trying to make his presence obvious.
How do I deal with this it's very uncomfortable.

Yes I have mentioned it but so far dp hasn't managed to get a look at him

I've asked dp to try and look without been obvious

There's always one classic

I wouldn't worry about being obvious. Next time he's grinning away point him out to your DP with an actual pointy finger. Regardless of his intention when he's grinning away, the majority of people would understand that this would make someone uncomfortable so why should you worry about making the situation more uncomfortable.

That's what I have been doing I guess I'll just carry on like that then

Ignore him.

Id do the opposite.

Pull up right next to his car, get DP to stare right at him obviously. Watching him intently until he breaks his stare. Id do the same while I walk in.

Stare at me? Im staring right back.

Give him a cheery wave, then ignore. He wants to make you uncomfortable, so show him he hasn't.

You seem a bit paranoid but obviously I haven't seen the actual situation. I think there are 2 options: (1) park next to him to let DP out, give him a cheery wave (2) ignore him.

Either way don't let him get to you.What can he do anyway you're dropping your DP off and not in a vulnerable situation.

Is he wanking?

Don’t give this any headspace. He might be a complete idiot, trying to intimidate you, so don’t let him. But equally, he might just be having a last minute ‘moment’ before starting a gruelling day at work, and this ‘manic grin’ could be just his ‘resting bitch face’.

Either way, just get on with your day!

Are you a guy by any chance

Is this someone who works at the same place as DP?

Why is he always parked there?!

Honestly if all he's doing is grinning out of his car window it's best ignored. Perhaps he's a bit unhinged ...

No, but I'm aware of wanking

"He has his head out of the window " but your P still hasn't seen him?

Well, if it’s really bothering you, pull up right next to him, give him a cheery wave and your DP can say ‘Hello, Dave from Accounts’?

I mean, is it not just possible that if you parked a long way away and he had his head out the car window, he was trying to see who you were dropping off, because he’s a colleague of his?

I would go and ask him what his problem is. It's probably not recommended though.

Is your dog visually challenged? Surely if it's this obvious they would have seen something by now?

It could be just a weird bloke, but the first thing that occurred to me is that your DP has told him something about you and he's grinning like an arsehole to make it obvious that he knows about that time you did it in the bathtub or whatever. I'd start with asking your DP why this bloke is so familiar with you. Especially as it seems like your DP is pretending he hasn't seen him.

If it continues and strays into stalky territory perhaps take a photo of him? That way you have proof he’s doing it and let him know you’ve got his card marked.

You ignore him.

I think taking a photo of him doing it is a good idea, and possibly letting him see you do that.

Women know when things feel 'off'. It's always worth listening to that voice (in a proportional way) and not minimising/dismissing your instinct by telling yourself you're being paranoid or silly.