Grinning man

[Charltonstrek]

Hi having this experience with a guy who when I drop dp off at work seems to be enjoying staring at me with a sleazy grin on his face he's working there and is obviously killing time in his car before starting work. This morning even though I pulled up fair distance away to let dp out I glanced and he had his head out of his car window trying to make his presence obvious.
How do I deal with this it's very uncomfortable.

I’d get out and speak to him with your partner there.

"stalky territory"?! He's a man at his own place of work in his own car who hasn't even spoken to Op. He may not be "grinning" at her. If she takes a photo of him she's the one straying into "stalky territory".

Well yes, thought I’d look at it from the worst case perspective just in case!

If you don’t have dashcam for your car get one. And yes either take a photo or a video with your phone of him leering at you.

Why be subtle? Drive right next to him and say to your partner thats the guy. Do you know him?

Sorry you're getting replies telling you you're paranoid. FWIW I believe you when you say it makes you feel uncomfortable and I would feel the same if there was a man I didn't know leering at me on the regular.

Get your DP to eyeball him and see if recognises him. Hopefully if the weird guy sees you with your fella he'll leave you alone.

How can you see him but your partner can't?

It may be a sleezy grin directed at you or it may just be how his face is -a variety of the resting bitch face problem. He might listen to a particular show on podcast or radio before heading to up work that makes him laugh and of course he will look your way because we do naturally look towards movement

you are at risk of making a right fool of yourself. Take a discrete photo by all means but a man in the car looking at you the wrong way seems very much your problem not his to me

Well dp actually saw his behaviour today with his car window open head out grinning at me so he knows who it is now

Fwiw paranoia is imagining things but I'm deffo not imagining it I don't have form for that I've clocked glances with many a guy and I know the difference

Not sure why people are being dicks on here. OP this sounds really creepy. He obviously enjoys intimidating women or making them feel uncomfortable at least.

Yes god knows dp he's spoken couple of times to him at work and he seems okay

Dp says he's spoken to him a couple of times that should say not about this issue just in general

How did your dp react, what did he say after seeing this guys behaviour towards you?

Park round the corner so you don't see him

Dp said I can call him out on it but thinks he's a idiot best ignored

Not really possible I'd have to drive past him to get to a corner and I have no choice but to go onto the car park as nowhere to pull in outside it busy road etc

Make a game of it, park beside him, lean over and whisper in DH's ear, DH stares at him, looks back at you and you both piss yourselves laughing like a pair of young kids who just heard their Granny farting.

And, repeat everyday....

Out creep the creep.

Stare back at him with a very confused, puzzled look on your face like you can see something on his face.
Stare back at him whilst pulling a really unsettling face.
Bark at him.
Anything to make him as uncomfortable as he’s making you.

(Ideally do all this creepy behaviour whilst your DP is still in the car for insurance)

Wow! That’s not being very supportive of you or having your back, is it? This man is deliberately trying to intimidate you. And you don’t deserve to be treated that way.

Under the circumstances do you really want to keep giving dp a lift to work? In your shoes I’d be saying to dp that he needs to find another way to get to work because I don’t want to put myself in this uncomfortable situation anymore. If he really wants or needs you then he can take it up with the leering, idiot (his description of coworker, not mine) coworker to stop with the obviously intimidating behaviour towards his girlfriend.

But, given his response, which is really quite dismissive, I would be suspicious of where his loyalties lie and has he been talking about you in a “bros before hoes” kind of way at work?

Deffo not its not dp style of behaviour to talk about me like that