To think MN is getting meaner?

[BananaPuddingCream]

Sorry I know this is probably going to piss some people off. I know it’s a forum, where you can share opinions. But the tone and lack of empathy of some posts is just horrid. AIBU?

I think in this day and age when you can be really well informed, if you so wish, to come on here and then whinge, for example about not having a pension and oh poor me, there really is no excuse.

I see nothing wrong in this. 🐶

Not that I have started any threads, but I think its perhaps easier to discuss personal problems with strangers online that can have an insight into the problem.

I’ve been here since I was pregnant with my eldest, so over 17 years. And I have definitely noticed a more mean spirited vibe. But I have to confess that there are times when I respond in a way that I would never do in real life, especially when someone is being disingenuous or ignorant about mental health issues (particularly anxiety), neurodivergence, people on benefits etc. Because it’s as if they have sprayed themselves with essence of Daily Mail and I find myself getting wound up - which was probably their goal! But there are definitely threads where posters are needlessly rude and abrasive and not all of it can be accounted for by the difficulty of conveying tone when writing.

I see the cool mean girls have shown up. Oh, and the bullies.

I think this just about sums it up 😁
Oh and I agree too. Have definitely noticed a shift and I've been here years.

And here we go again!

Oh yes 😆

Disagreeing does not equal bullying.

So many times this has to be pointed out.

I don’t think the site has got any meaner, but the absence of wit, humour and intelligence makes what’s left look so.

I agree. It’s very immature at times. People often jump on the bandwagon rather than thinking for themselves. It makes them look intellectually and emotionally impoverished. Words can cut deep and we all need to be responsible for what we say. When I see such a cold response from people it makes me wonder how they are behaving within their own families. It’s grown ups bullying other grown ups at times which is abhorrent.

I get called out and quoted a lot for my grammar.
But i cant help it i have a learning disability.
I dont see numbers and letters like i should.

I try really hard to make sure i type every word properly and use all marks.
But i still miss some out.
If i get quoted now i dont bother trying to explain it.

It used to be absolutely brutal 17 years ago, when I used it first.

Considerations :

Users will be parenting different aged children. Some will be in the twee Disney pre school heads pace, others will have lived through all of that and may be parenting gobby teenagers and going thru the menopause, others will have even more life experience and will be mellowing (or divorcing and thinking WTF was all that relationship effort about for the last 30 years).

Responses may be curt/brutal, because people can't be arsed with unnecessary faff.

Take it all with a pinch of salt.