To think MN is getting meaner?

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Sorry I know this is probably going to piss some people off. I know it’s a forum, where you can share opinions. But the tone and lack of empathy of some posts is just horrid. AIBU?

I totally agree; I’ve been here nearly 20 years, the level of nastiness and bullying, hidden behind a label of ‘robustness’ is terrible.

Oh here we go 😂

And your point is?

I made an absolutely wonderful friend on MN, which transferred to real life. I'm very, very glad of that.

And there are some delightful corners, full of supportive, lovely women. You just need to dig beyond AIBU.

And your point is ?

Some people are spectacularly unkind but some people also tell the poster what they need to hear. And that is sometimes a million miles away from what they want to hear.

Kind of like most forums really?

My point is to ask them what their point was.

It's not very complicated?

Ah yes.

OP: ’I’m worried about nuclear Armageddon and my very young family’

Response: ‘Can’t come soon enough for me.’

It's in the op, it's even less complicated than your point.

Gone are the days of preppers and the ofrs.

I think it is. But it would be boring if everyone just agreed with OPs. Now that there is a poll option it’s possibly more likely that people vote YANBU and only comment if they think YABU, which might come across as being mean. I like to hear the different opinions and ignore the assholes. I think the ship has sailed for getting genuine emotional support on an anonymous internet forum, posters are better off asking AI or Googling as most things have already happened to someone else by now so you can usually find the answers.

Thats the thing though. People should be able to disagree without being horrible. Its sad that people can't. People could ask Google. But its also about communication and interaction with people.

What a vile thing to write. Is this better, MN?

Christ, we can’t even have a laugh about being peri anymore.

I forgot to put ‘vile’ on that bingo card, OP! And ‘grim’.

"Put your big girl pants on"

What is vile about being menopausal and prone to being a tad easily irritated?

Try reading what I was actually replying to. It's not very complicated!

I’m probably “meaner”. Honestly, I’m just sick of the liars and the hypocrites - and sick of giving advice to those people.

I’ve had enough of the OP making a post looking for advice, giving advice and (because it’s not what they want to hear) them changing their story in a reply. Yes, I will point out that you’re lying - I will point out that your OP and your dripfeed are not possible if both are true. And then other people go “but why does it matter if they lied?” and “were you there?!”. I don’t need to be there to know (for example) that if OP met friends six years ago, and hasn’t seen them in a year, she wasn’t close friends with them for seven years!

I’ve had far too much of the hypocrites. Those who call out “bullies” and then make nasty comments two seconds later. I had a poster a couple of days ago call me all kinds of names and then completely deny it - it’s right there! She said I called her names first when I blatantly didn’t. I recounted the conversation and it goes from that I called her names first to that her name calling was justified because she thought I’d insinuated something… and then telling me she’d been nothing but civil just two words after calling me “unhinged”… all because I said I didn’t think my DH should lie to me about finding other women attractive…

Honestly, I’m very pleasant on this site except to liars and hypocrites.

Every week there's a thread saying how mean MN is.

Imo AIBU is hilarious most of the time! I do wonder who, in their right mind, posts their most personal problems (and silly whinges) to a load of total strangers in the hope of getting some advice? MN (again imo) is nothing more than a school playground full of bullies, show-offs, moaners and weirdos.
AIBU?

I totally agree. I saw a post the other day about a lady saying she was worried her heart rate monitor was faulty. The vitriol in the responses was crazy. Somewhere along the line people have forgotten that it's possible to disagree without being rude or having to take someone down. And this is in real life too... not just mumsnet.

As I said last time someone started a thread on this, the very first thread I clicked into when I first joined Mn, was about Mn being nastier than before. This was in 2011.

Don't think so. However, it's certainly not as light-hearted and amusing as it was when I first joined in 2014.