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AIBU?

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Original poster

too many weekends (at work)

43 replies

holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 21:41

dh works weekends

In august there are 5 weekends

He has just been told he is working the 1st, 2nd and 4th

the friday of the 3rd

Bank holiday Monday (the 5th weekend)

To make it really awful my in-laws are threatening a visit in August

I want to emigrate!!!!

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loudmouth · 23/05/2008 21:42

does he bring in the dough?

getmeouttahere · 23/05/2008 21:43

goodness, what does he do for a living?

That seems a bit excessive.

So much for work/life balance.

loudmouth · 23/05/2008 21:45

if hes raking it in i wouldnt worry about it
do you work?

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 21:46

Dr

No worked out the other day if we had 6 kids we'd just about get more in benefits

Mind you if we had 6 kids it might keep the MIL away x2

That's not all after the first weekend he also has the Tuesday and the Thursday as well plus more days!

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 21:46

Yup

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dizzydixies · 23/05/2008 21:47

can guess, is he a policeman?
in same boat here

loudmouth · 23/05/2008 21:48

he's a DOCTOR?

small salary i bet

worley · 23/05/2008 21:48

my dp has to work every other weekend, hes in social care so has to,
i work 2 in four weekends (for nhs)so have to work my shifts around him, unless my parents are off then they have them if we have to work the same weekend.
dont get me started on the christmas and new years eve rota!!
i think it would be better if worked in jobs without having to deal with the public or his social care setting (childrens home)

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 21:51

Yes loudmouth don't you know Drs salaries are being cut quite a lot at the moment? (supposedly coinciding with being EWT compliant)
Having read the DDRB report in full this year I was surprised to see them say that Dr salaries are seriously below their peer reference group and invite submissions form the Gov, NHS employers and BMJ as to how they could organise a catch up
You also need to appreciate that pay isn't directly related to working

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Original poster
holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 21:52

Should add he's not a GP (puts spoon away)

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Original poster
holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 21:56

So no comments on the MIL

That's what really got to me

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loudmouth · 23/05/2008 21:56

what type of dr is he Holiday?

loudmouth · 23/05/2008 21:57

why are inlaws awful?

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 21:57

Hospital

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emma1977 · 23/05/2008 21:58

Much sympathy holidaysoon. I assume your OH is a hossiedoc?

When I worked my first year as a PRHO, I got rotaed on for every public holiday for the whole year, including nights over Xmas and New Year and all over Easter. It was shit. I hardly saw my family or friends for that year as my average working week was 72-100 hours (in illegal jobs). And all that glamour for a basic pay of £19k/year!

getmeouttahere · 23/05/2008 21:58

Errr, at first I had some sympathy.

Now I don't.

I assume your Dh knew his terms and conditions before he started on this career path.

As did you when you decided he was the one for you.

Get over it.

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 21:58

MIL is 'difficult'

and a rude nosey critical.....

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waffletrees · 23/05/2008 21:59

Is he a chef - my DH is - and the weekends can be quite crap. Maybe your inlaws babysit whilst you go out with your friends?

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 22:02

Piss off getmeouttahere

I didn't ask for sympathy

To say you knew what you were getting into is so daft.......
Yes what he was getting into was an EWT compliant job hence the salary cut,

suppose we have been dating from 16?How many weekends and BH do you work a year

waffletrees I like that idea

Yes chef hours are awful all those weekends
emma do you still Doc?
someone really had it in for you

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loudmouth · 23/05/2008 22:03

is he not getting paid for these weekends?
is he ona low salaray as this hospital doc?

you should tell the inlaws to screw themselves unless your DH wants them there

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 22:06

It's a bit complicated you get a salary and an overtime supplement that overtime could be a 1 in 4 or a 1 in 8 the supplement is based on the intensity of work not the frequency.

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emma1977 · 23/05/2008 22:06

I still doctor (although currently on matty leave) but went into GP as my chosen career path. The 4 years of working in hospital were enough for me, although I still do loads of hours at least they are a bit more sociable and I enjoy the work a lot more. Not many people understand that the shit early years hospital bit is the necessary evil in any doctor's careerpath, and not a choice.

Can't you just pretend that you've emigrated to throw your MIL off the scent?

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 22:07

I think he does want them there.

I don't really mind I just don't really want quite so much time with them and without him

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holidaysoon · 23/05/2008 22:09

emma lol

thanks for not rising to my bit about the wages and the spoon!

loudmouth thanks for answering I'm sure AIBU just allows people to get things off thier chest half the time and then they feel better

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IAteRosemaryConleyForBreakfast · 23/05/2008 22:14

I work weekends and nights as part of my job, and I have a 10 mo baby! It's really tough, I do sympathise, and the feeling that you/he is missing out on things is crappy.

Sometimes you have to vent, I know!