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To want a singalong in my (civil!) wedding ceremony?

111 replies

ThisMustBeMyDream · 22/06/2025 19:02

I can't decide if this is weird, or genius!
I'm having a civil wedding ceremony. At a religious wedding, hymns are sung. So, at mine I'd love to choose a song that the vast majority of guests will know (and I'd provide the lyrics anyway!) to sing along to!
If you'd enjoy this, what song would you go with as a fun, but still fitting for a wedding, tune?

OP posts:
megatwat · 23/06/2025 16:13

Clearinguptheclutter · 23/06/2025 16:07

I don’t think a phobia of singing is that unusual but you must have been to a church service at some point. What did you do then? Singing is not compulsory.

nope never been to church

SixteenClovesOfGarlic · 23/06/2025 16:14

I would hate this too, sorry. I don't sing and enforced 'fun' is cringey.
Most people can't sing, so a group of crap singing noises might not necessarily enhance your day.

Hymns are sang slowly because people can't keep up with normal speed songs.

See also Happy Birthday - should be fast and upbeat but is a dragged out dirge.

Zanzara · 23/06/2025 16:15

FuzzyPuffling · 22/06/2025 19:23

It's the "civil" bit that doesn't allow hymns (or religious readings) not churches.
Churches are happy for you to sing hymns whenever you like!

No religious content of any kind is allowed in a civil marriage ceremony. When the legislation was originally going through the House of Lords, the bishops who sat there refused to countenance it, understandably in my view.

SparkyBlue · 23/06/2025 16:20

OP why don’t you just get a wedding singer to sing during the ceremony the same as you would if it was a church ceremony .

JazzyBBBG · 23/06/2025 16:23

@Clearinguptheclutter you can after the registrar has gone.

CloudywMeatballs · 23/06/2025 16:46

SparkyBlue · 23/06/2025 16:20

OP why don’t you just get a wedding singer to sing during the ceremony the same as you would if it was a church ceremony .

I agree. A performance of a song that you find particularly meaningful by a musician as part of the ceremony would be lovely.

TheWordWomanIsTaken · 23/06/2025 16:56

FuzzyPuffling · 22/06/2025 19:23

It's the "civil" bit that doesn't allow hymns (or religious readings) not churches.
Churches are happy for you to sing hymns whenever you like!

That's half true.
You are not allowed any religious content in a civil ceremony because the Church of England (back in the day) wouldn't allow it.

Butteredtoast55 · 23/06/2025 17:23

I'm another one who would love this. We are a family of singers though and whether at weddings, christenings or funerals there's a very rousing chorus!
Whatever you choose, make sure you check that the verse is singable. The verse of Sweet Caroline is quite a dirge even though the chorus is a banger. And choose something that definitely ends with a final pop, rather than just petering out.
If you have a backing track and a few good singers who've had a chance to practice beforehand, it should sound great.

FlamingoFloss · 23/06/2025 17:24

Do it!!! This is SO much fun and truly shows your personalities xx

GagaBinks · 23/06/2025 17:41

Clearly going against the grain here but I would hate this as a guest and would probably just mime along and hope it ended quickly

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