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Was I being overly sensitive here or friend being harsh?

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Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 15:11

Went on holiday with a friend, my flight back was earlier than here, I had a morning one and she had an evening one.

We were visiting a friend there too, on the very last night friend I was holidaying with insisted on going to this restaurant which apparently had great reviews.
It was 1.5 hours from our hotel on public transport and we'd get there about midnight.
The problem was the hotel refused to give us more than one key! (Sharing a room)

I told her I wasn't very happy with this as I had to be up at 5am for my flight and that she hadn't checked whether I was ok to do this. She told me to chill out, that I was a stresshead and needed to 'make the most of life'.

We're in our 30s! I'm not some 18 year old, making the most of life doesn't mean having 4 bloody hours of sleep. So I went because I didn't really have a choice, the restaurant was unsurprisingly closing but agreed to make the 3 of us (with our other friend) a quick dish.

Got in about 1:40am. What would you have done here? It's the way she completely dismissed me and made me feel bad for daring to want more than 4 hours' sleep.

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Barrenfieldoffucks · 22/06/2025 15:13

I would have suggested either she took the key and I had an early night, or I kept the key and let her in when she got back.

Neither of you were massively unreasonable to think the way you did, but you are unreasonable to still be dwelling on it unless she is still going on about it.

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Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 15:13

She had the whole next day too, if she was determined to go she could have gone then.

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Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 15:14

She also mimicked my voice at one point which was really rude. I don't even want to know her anymore.

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Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:33

The hotel refused to give you two keys 🤔

Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:35

Why couldn’t she have taken the key? Most hotels in fact every single one I have stayed at, automatically locks behind you?

how was the holiday aside from this?
I guess this isn’t your first thread about it!

just another mumsnet holiday of two friends who don’t seem to like one another in the slightest!

Byebyechicken · 22/06/2025 15:35

The mimicking your voice would be the final straw for me. That demonstrates a level of contempt that I wouldn't expect from someone I called a friend.

pikkumyy77 · 22/06/2025 15:37

What is the point of arguing about the key with OP?

OP you should just have refused to go. The key wasn’t an issue. I wouldn’t bother with her again.

Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:37

Op in the last 24 hours you have started some very weird threads

HoldmecloseTonyDanza · 22/06/2025 15:38

Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:33

The hotel refused to give you two keys 🤔

I find that very odd too!
What would I have done? I would have stayed in the room and let her take the key.
Either that or would have willingly gone to the restaurant.
But I wouldn't be forced into a decision, and I wouldn't fall out with her over it.

Your later posts (why the drip feed?) tell me there's something else going on.

Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:39

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Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:40

op…. This holiday wasn’t recent was it?

years ago?

fatgirlswims · 22/06/2025 15:42

You set off at 10.30? I’d have been in bed by then

ThirtysomethingF · 22/06/2025 15:42

Who goes out for a meal at just before midnight?

Swiftie1878 · 22/06/2025 15:43

Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 15:11

Went on holiday with a friend, my flight back was earlier than here, I had a morning one and she had an evening one.

We were visiting a friend there too, on the very last night friend I was holidaying with insisted on going to this restaurant which apparently had great reviews.
It was 1.5 hours from our hotel on public transport and we'd get there about midnight.
The problem was the hotel refused to give us more than one key! (Sharing a room)

I told her I wasn't very happy with this as I had to be up at 5am for my flight and that she hadn't checked whether I was ok to do this. She told me to chill out, that I was a stresshead and needed to 'make the most of life'.

We're in our 30s! I'm not some 18 year old, making the most of life doesn't mean having 4 bloody hours of sleep. So I went because I didn't really have a choice, the restaurant was unsurprisingly closing but agreed to make the 3 of us (with our other friend) a quick dish.

Got in about 1:40am. What would you have done here? It's the way she completely dismissed me and made me feel bad for daring to want more than 4 hours' sleep.

Given her the key and got takeout/room service and an early night.
Use your words and follow through with actions!
“I’m not going. See you back at home”. End of.

HoldmecloseTonyDanza · 22/06/2025 15:46

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Yes, see them now Confused

@Medusa0987 question please... you went to a restaurant 1.5hrs away, got there just before midnight, and were back at the hotel at 1.40am.... so did you really eat your meal in 15 minutes? Or are times made up to suit your narrative that your friend was in the wrong?

CopperWhite · 22/06/2025 15:49

You sound like you’re looking for a reason to create drama here. You could have chosen to stay at the hotel but you didn’t. Take responsibility for your own choices instead of saying ‘she made me do it’ like a toddler.

JustFeedMeCake · 22/06/2025 15:52

That is very odd. We have stayed in a lot of hotels over the years, in many different countries. Not once have we ever been refused two room keys.

Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:54

HoldmecloseTonyDanza · 22/06/2025 15:46

Yes, see them now Confused

@Medusa0987 question please... you went to a restaurant 1.5hrs away, got there just before midnight, and were back at the hotel at 1.40am.... so did you really eat your meal in 15 minutes? Or are times made up to suit your narrative that your friend was in the wrong?

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And I’d hazard a guess, this happened years ago

honeylulu · 22/06/2025 15:57

I would have said nope, I'm not going. And made the most of having an early night. She could have taken the key or I would have agreed to keep my phone next to me so she could wake me up when she got back.

Why did you go with her? Was she bullying you into it? The voice mimicking sounds very unpleasant. It would have made me less likely to go with her to be honest.

The timings sound really weird. Why travel 1.5 hours to have a meal at midnight? Surely it was likely to be closed anyway? And yet you managed to persuade them to cook you something anyway, they cooked it, you ate it and travelled back (1.5 hour journey) by 1.40am. What ????

Borgonzola · 22/06/2025 15:59

Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 15:14

She also mimicked my voice at one point which was really rude. I don't even want to know her anymore.

This would have me ending the friendship I’m afraid. Needlessly childish and silly. The restaurant situation is bad enough but if she’s also a rude pisstaker then I’d be done.

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Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 16:28

Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:37

Op in the last 24 hours you have started some very weird threads

I can start whatever i like. Do you have nothing more interesting to do than look at what people have posted? Ffs get a life.

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Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 16:30

It was tricky because we were already out when this was decided, so even if I'd gone home I'd have to stay up till whenever she was back in.

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Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 16:31

honeylulu · 22/06/2025 15:57

I would have said nope, I'm not going. And made the most of having an early night. She could have taken the key or I would have agreed to keep my phone next to me so she could wake me up when she got back.

Why did you go with her? Was she bullying you into it? The voice mimicking sounds very unpleasant. It would have made me less likely to go with her to be honest.

The timings sound really weird. Why travel 1.5 hours to have a meal at midnight? Surely it was likely to be closed anyway? And yet you managed to persuade them to cook you something anyway, they cooked it, you ate it and travelled back (1.5 hour journey) by 1.40am. What ????

It was apparently the 'best restaurant in the city' that our friend who lived there had recommend.

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ThejoyofNC · 22/06/2025 16:40

YABU X2

Firstly for going on holiday and wanting to sleep instead of exploring the place you'd paid to visit.

Second for attacking posters for no reason.