Was I being overly sensitive here or friend being harsh?

[Medusa0987]

Went on holiday with a friend, my flight back was earlier than here, I had a morning one and she had an evening one.

We were visiting a friend there too, on the very last night friend I was holidaying with insisted on going to this restaurant which apparently had great reviews.
It was 1.5 hours from our hotel on public transport and we'd get there about midnight.
The problem was the hotel refused to give us more than one key! (Sharing a room)

I told her I wasn't very happy with this as I had to be up at 5am for my flight and that she hadn't checked whether I was ok to do this. She told me to chill out, that I was a stresshead and needed to 'make the most of life'.

We're in our 30s! I'm not some 18 year old, making the most of life doesn't mean having 4 bloody hours of sleep. So I went because I didn't really have a choice, the restaurant was unsurprisingly closing but agreed to make the 3 of us (with our other friend) a quick dish.

Got in about 1:40am. What would you have done here? It's the way she completely dismissed me and made me feel bad for daring to want more than 4 hours' sleep.

no you wouldn't have, the hotel would have let you back into your room, ffs!
what do you think they do when people lose a key?
at worst your sleep would have been slightly disturbed when she got in, but you could still have had 4 hours before and 4hrs after.
I would have said 'be quiet and try not to wake me up when you come in, or I'll do the same back to you when I have to get up at half 5 for my flight."

yanbu to not want to go to the restaurant so late, or to think your friend was rude, yabu to come on MN to whine about it and say she "insisted" you go rather than just using your big girl words at the time and saying. 'No, I don't want to go, you go if you want, I'm going back to the hotel.'

Are you both quite young? This seems like quite a lot of drama about nothing.

It’s not nothing, that’s so patronising. They got home at 1.40am and she was up at 5am for her flight, that’s so shit.

I think OP should have been assertive and said no, but it’s not ‘nothing’.

And if this threads helps OP to dump this friend, then that’s a good thing.

Sorry but it does seem quite dramatic to me, especially if as other posters have said it happened years ago. If OP was that worried about losing a couple of hours sleep she could have stayed at the hotel. Or she could have just thought what the hell, I’m on holiday, plenty of time to sleep when I’m home so I’ll go out for dinner. And maybe even just stay awake till the flight and sleep on the plane. Point is she wasn’t kidnapped, she had choices, and if she thought friend’s plan was silly she should have said.

I wouldn’t have gone. I would have given her the key and let her go in her own

This is really weird! Who would want to eat at midnight?! I’d just refuse and tell her she’s being selfish!

You probably wouldn’t at home, but on the last night of a holiday to a place you’ll likely never go again, you might well grab the opportunity to have a last adventure. That’s what travelling is about for some people, but similarly someone else might rather have an early night. Both are ok.