To miss the first lockdown?

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I know it was a tough time for many but I genuinely loved that first lockdown. I think about it all the time. There was something strangely blissful about slowing down, having fewer obligations and just focusing on connecting with people - even though we couldn’t physically see them. And when you did see someone, the gratitude was immense. AIBU to feel nostalgic for that time?

But the OP isn’t saying lockdown was great for everyone. Elderly people I used to know (one of whom I interviewed for a degree project) had wonderful memories of the 2nd World War. The woman I spoke to said they were some of the happiest years of her life.

And some of them lost family members. They died. DIED.

Are you serious? Your post makes no sense, but have a great evening.

My friends children - middle class, comfortably off, nice parents - ended up with quite bad mental health issues during and after the pandemic.

@RichHolidayPoorHoliday I am sure plenty of us can tolerate it - but maybe better as one of those things you keep to yourself given the amount of people who had a totally shit time - to be honest to me if feels a bit like saying I’m knocking off a married man and having a fabulous time -

I was bloody helping her. Me. Just me and nobody else. Where on earth did I say I wasn’t? I loved her. I spent as much time as I could with her.

Calm down. Thankfully everyone's experience was different.

This, and I am not even an introvert. But the damage the whole fiasco did to children and society as a whole is unquantifiable.

@Funnywonder You have described all the reasons lockdown made your mother's life hell but still described lockdown as "heaven" and "bliss" for you.

I loved the first lockdown, but I have since been provisionally diagnosed with ADHD (just waiting for a formal diagnosis) and apparently people with ADHD thrived during that time due to the routine. DD and DS were both here working from home, so it was lovely to have their company all day.

Yeah. And? News flash. Two people have different experiences of the same situation. Seriously, I think you just like nit picking. You’re the one with the problem with your complete lack of nuanced thinking.

I was alone with a newborn and terrified. My aunt worked as a nurse on a Covid ward. People died and we weren’t allowed to go to their funerals.
What a strange period of recent history to have rose tinted glasses about.

@Funnywonder Sure, ok, we'll put it down to my lack of nuanced thinking and not at all anything that you might might want to personally reflect on.

I personally hated it. I had to work throughout and even busier in crisis comms - juggling that and the kids schooling was awful! Even worse seeing everyone on furlough having the time of their lives.

@GooseOnMyGrave "What a strange period of recent history to have rose tinted glasses about."

In a nutshell.

Perhaps you need to analyse exactly what it was that you enjoyed and try to incorporate those things into your life now.

I can't see how anyone thinks you're being unreasonable. It's not like you said it should come back. I loved it. It was a terrible time for many people, and I wouldn't want them to go through it again, but I know what you mean.

I think society in general , and my relationships personally, have never recovered since the lockdowns. They changed something fundamental in society.

I was working as a nurse in a critical care area in full PPE sweating buckets.
The fear of catching covid and passing it to my family.
No I don't miss it.
Also the mental health effects on my DC.

I loved it too. I don't think many extroverts realise that daily life can be pretty challenging when you are an introvert, or struggle with anxiety. For lots of us that change of pace has had lasting positive effects.

No I hated it

No thanks I worked as a carer assistant and saw quite a few deaths. Being in mask and face shield, having COVID tests daily and forced COVID jabs ...no thanks never again

I didn’t enjoy it. I like to get out and see the people. My Grandad died of Covid. Bleak.

It is probably the happiest my wife has ever been. She is still happier and better for it.

There is more than one way of experiencing stuff. You’re more than allowed to have yours.

You can't see how anyone thinks it's unreasonable for someone to feel nostalgic about a time when their community were suffering terribly? Well, it's true, the OP is not unreasonable for hankering for a moment where they were just having a great time, but they are totally unreasonable for wanting to ask people who were suffering - of even those of us who weren't suffering but aren't utter twats - to join in with the "ah, but wasn't it bliss for us lucky ones" sentiment. Crass would be putting it kindly. There's just no need for the post, knowing what the effect and response will be. Totally narcissistic.

I’m an extrovert. Those of us with empathy and listening skills do know that other people have different feeling sometimes.