To tell my neighbour to sod off next time she comments on my garden

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My neighbour has a habit of popping her head over the fence and commenting on my garden. Nothing overly nasty, but I did say to her one time that I don't particularly enjoy gardening and she said "yeah, we can tell".

It's not a big garden but I work long hours and it's just not high on my priorities during the week. My neighbour is retired.

I had the week off this week and I've busted ass getting all the weeds up, driveway spotless, grass cut. I was feeling very pleased with myself.

Well today, a whole team of gardeners has shown up and are blitzing her garden while she's sitting drinking rosé and chatting with her friend!!!

WIBU to tell her to sod off next time she pops her head over and says "ooo your grass needs cut", because she doesn't even do her own bloody gardening!!!

This thread is lighthearted before anyone jumps in. I don't actually care whether she does her own garden or not! (I'm actually very jealous )

Bloody hell. I'd be telling her you appreciate privacy in your garden or that you're going to plant leylandi to give yourself some privacy! Cheeky cow.

You're not unreasonable at all, OP.

I just hate it when neighbours comment on everything I do. It's mostly benign comments (although I've got the odd annoying one...) but it just feels very Big Brotherish. I have no clue what my neighbours do in their own gardens, I don't pay attention as I don't care. When I get comments on every little thing I've done on my garden, it feels very intrusive and quite tiring.

Oh I noticed you were watering last night
Oh you had two new trees planted three days ago
Oh you painted x five hours ago

Like... Leave me alone

It could well be a decorative choice but she also has a bench and a table and chair set near her back door which she uses.

Either way, benches are for sitting, not for standing on to nosey over the fence

Japanese knotweed is also quite nice!

My neighbour thought it appropriate to sprinkle weed killer over a patch of ground between our properties, that belongs to me, not her. Because 'there are too many dandelions and they come onto my lawn!'. Alright Hyacinth...🙄After a little chat, she went off with a flea in her ear...

Is this her OP?

I know my neighbours used to hitch about my garden and 'weeds speading' as I could hear them

Said weeds were beautiful wild poppies (in an amazing array of colours)

Now I've noticed everyone seems to be letting those red/pink weeds grow

The story is not finished yet, but his prickish behaviour and sorry, to be honest, your anxiety is sure to affect the eventual outcome.

We stopped going on holiday with our parents when we were teenagers. They were too disciplinarian, we wanted to relax with friends. Over the next ten years, as our relationships changed we started to go on holiday with them again - small, but meaningful trips.

sorry, that was a reply to someone else's thread...

Trellis on top of the fence

We and another neighbour had this from the Nellies in our road (Nasty and Nosey). 2 neighbours who think they can criticise everyone else’s homes for anything no matter how small. “those flowers are dead”, “we can see your bins”, “the hedge isn’t even”One used to say sarcastically “ooo you go careful” whenever my husband was trimming or mowing as though it was a rare occurrence when it wasn’t. Ironically these are the neighbours that leave their hedges to grow over the pavement, their workmen to litter the public road, park inconsiderately, have litter accumulated and weeds growing out of the gutter outside their homes.

She shouldn’t be constantly popping her head over the fence criticising even if disguised as being friendly , it’s actually harassment. She needs to mind her own business. Our next door neighbour got so fed up with Nosey Nelly doing this all the time that she got a solicitor (friend) to write to her about her inappropriate behaviour and magically it all stopped.

Does she ever sunbathe in the garden? Next time, shout from the upstairs window, “Oi, Beryl - THERE’S a bush that could do with some pruning!”

I'd tell her off. Nosy, intrusive, and clearly far too much time on her hands. Give her a taste of her own medicine. If she's so keen to point out things you should be doing with your life, might be time to share your thoughts on what she should be doing with hers.

If she can't even see your garden due to the 7ft fence, then why does it concern her?

You've still got time to delete it and post it on the correct thread. 😊

Next time she's in her garden, wander out into yours whilst on a pretend phone call.

"So roughly how much will the block paving cost.......oh, that's good value... ...and the pigeon coops? ... Er, I was thinking one large one for, say, 10 birds and a couple of small ones.....Really? Excellent.......OK, yes I'll see you then. Bye." (Quickly go back into your house.)

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Our drive needs weeded Dh has been flat out work and I can't kneel or bend for long, I've heard my neighbours gossiping about it, its not over grown and it will get done it just pisses me off the neighbours are nice to my face !

I think it's nice that your neighbour will pop their head up and chat. You are so lucky. She is a precise personality; but you are known to each other which is great.

I wish I had a neighbour who would offer to garden for a fee.

Grass 'needs cut' is the most appalling English. If that's how she talks, I'd just ignore anything she says. Well done OP. It's your garden, your business.

Well, you try getting a co-codomol scrip out of your GP. Maybe they're growing their own opiates.

'Needs cut' is perfectly correct Scottish dialect. Just because it's unfamiliar to you doesn't make it 'appalling English'.

This is very common. So many people just play along with two faced neighbours for a quiet life. They’ll be slagging off each other soon to you or someone else, I guarantee it

ALL our neighbours are retired & spend a lot of time gardening. I work ft & dh is a wheelchair user so gardening is not at the top of my priorities! I’m sure they all whisper about us but I couldn't care less! The council cut the grass every 4 weeks & it is a bit of a mess now as they are due next week! If any of my neighbours complain I’ll tell them they are more than welcome to bring their lawn mower round & cut it 🤣

But you do have to drive later, so you're not knocking it back and the riposte stands.

"Come off it Petunia! You don't even do your garden. You sit on your bum glugging rosè!"

This is not a dig, btw at harmless souls who glug rosè (or anything else) while minding their own business. It's just for sanctimonious pests like the OP's neighbour.

Mine talks to me about mine - always giving the Latin name for whatever plant I have in the ground while almost always telling me how I have planted it in the wrong place or it needs cutting back or look at them weeds or what am I do there and a disagreeing ‘oh’ when I explain. I do wonder why she didn’t buy my house instead of me so she could do it all how she wants!

Next time tell her she's very welcome to come and do it for you if it bothers her that much!